Not getting enough from my partner?

Question

The guy i'm seeing has his son every weekend and my weekends are free. I have my daughter during the week, so we are never able to go out together and do things. We have only been together for 4 months and we live 1 hr away from each other. I only get to see him on wednesdays when he stays over. I feel like this relationship will never become anything more than a once a week affair. I truely have feelings for him and don't want to end it, but i feel like i'm getting cheated out of having fun and wine and dined. What should I do? Break it off and find someone else? or just settle? I'm not getting what I need or deserve.

Answer 1

Girl, i would deff break it off and get what you deserve. Life is too short to wait around for something better to magically happen (which it never does) How many times have you gotten out of a relatsionship and thought to youreslf that you should have gotten out of it a LOT earlier at times like you are talking about now? Sounds like you already have your answer and know what you should do, you just feel guilty doing it because you are doing it for yourself and not for a reason that he's mean or is a cheater. It's okay do it for yourself, so go out and find someone that has time to give you what you need and deserve.

Answer 2

don't settle. never settle. you deserve more. even though you care about him...i would break it off because it has only been 4 months (so it isn't too serious yet), it'll be easier to end now before you get too attatched, and you only get to see him once a week anyways. you don't want to feel like you're his wednesday night girl! you should find something that works better for you! end it, then focus on yourself and your daughter, have fun, do the things you love to do, and the right thing will find you. when you aren't looking - you find exactly what you need.
good luck!

Answer 3

You need to let him know what your feeling, if he doesn't step up and try to spend more time with you then you need to find someone that wants to be with you and give you what you need. Relationships where they are an hour away from each other are hard. I dated a guy once that lived about 2 hours away and we only saw each other like every other weekend, and we had to meet someone so alone time we never got. Talk to him and see what's going on. Good luck

Answer 4

Well, I see your point. You don't feel you are getting what you deserve... But is he getting what he deserves? I know one thing for sure, you need to have a serious discussion with him before you make any decision. After all, he surely doesn't deserve to get dumped without discussing this with him first. Hope that helped. PS - With woman always crying about equal rights and equal pay ( which they pretty much have and have had for some time ) why are men supposed to be the ones doing all the wine-ing and dining? I guess its because the woman does enough whining for the both of them. heheheh couldn't resist that last jab...going to cost me any chance I had at the best answer but its worth it!

Answer 5

Question is, he has his son every other weekend, well why are you not seeing him on his off weekend?

Sounds to me like a sit down is in order here. Tell him you feel, and that you want to see him more often. After 4 months, I think it maybe time for you to have him and his son over for dinner or go to a movie with them. Not sure how old the son is, but my expereince has been that the kids want thier parents to be happy, and that they want to meet the GF/BF.

I will warn you however, if the children dont like you, well then it will never work. We have our children for only a short time, and personally, they come first for me. I have lucky and that mine love my GF.

If your not happy with his response, then yes, break it off now, and move on.

Answer 6

I suggest that you speak with him and see how he feels where things are going. In a way you are in a long distance relationship and there are some sacrifices that are going to need to be made in order for the relationship to last. See if he feels the same and from you will be able to determine if you should stay or end it on a good note. (:

Answer 7

This is a big issue for all divorcees I think maybe its time to move toghter and get back into the family picture but thats only if you think your children would be in a comfetable enviroment which ever child sees fit to do so move them into you're house so if you daughter wanted to go with the idea move her into your boyfriends house with his son or which ever house has the right facilties and accomadation.

Hope this helps u


Good Luck!

Answer 8

girl if you are having second thoughts and YOU think you deserve better than you need to leave him. relationships are full of problems that need to be worked out but yall don't even see each other enough to have problems i too agree with you. you deserve much better than this and you should find someone that can spend every minute of the day with you.
you could also talk your feelings over with him and maybe he will make more time for you.

Answer 9

This is very unfair to you...He has to work something out. Don't settle, if you do...his kids will be running your marriage also. Just tell him that 1 weekend a month should be set aside for your time together. Im divorce and when my wife and I were dating, we had the kids one weekend and the other weekend was ours. It was great...one weekend we had all the kids...the other was our time...

Answer 10

"adequate" is what we the two go with. no longer what i am going with. i assume you're speaking approximately intercourse. life is a lot greater effective than that. i'm getting all i am going with between my marriage. i've got self belief he does too. intercourse is a brilliant part of it, even nonetheless that's minimum while in comparison with lots of alternative issues. If i don't have the money for, I stay interior my skill. i'm properly-happy with ALL that he supplies me emotionally and bodily. we are married. there is not any different place to go. that's in common terms an worry-free out for a loss of power of will.