My fisrt son is two and I'm great to him,but when he was a baby (0-1 yr) I was affraid I hurt him some how..........Now my second son is 4 months old and I'm getting those same fears what can i do?
2007-10-10 04:09:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I agree that many men just naturally are fearful of caring for newborns and infants. You sound like you honestly care about your sons and that you want to get more involved. I would suggest starting a good bedtime routine with them (your partner will greatly appreciate the break). You can give the baths, dress them for bed, offer small snacks and read them some stories ("Good Night Moon" is a must!). It sounds really simple, but, your sons will love it!
2007-10-10 04:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use your two years of fathering exp to help you out. Your uneasyness I'm betting is a good thing because you love him . He will most likely be alright if he knows you are there and that you love him.
Be a playfull transparent,protecting,providing, mistake admitting daddy and you will do well.
If you're afraid that you'll hurt him just think of all the bumps and scrapes and bruises you got while playing and getting into mischief. Just don't crush his head or boil him or anything.
2007-10-10 04:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by stjoseph5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. You're not the hulk, you're not some meaty fingered rock hard clumsy monster. You're a dad. Pick that baby up and love on him. Even if its just to hold him and look at him. Babies need daddies, and your son NEEDS you to hold him and love on him. Its not about what you're afraid of, you know full well you'd never do a single thing to so much as hint that any harm might come anywhere NEAR him while you have him. Thats why I say get over yourself.
My husband had the same fears, but I certainly wasnt going to let him sulk around all fearful until his son got older. The day he was born he said "no i might hurt him!" and i said "get over yourself!" And pushed the baby in his arms. He had no choice but to hold him and protect him from anything, even if that 'anything' was gravity.
Its your baby, you're its daddy. Go act like it.
2007-10-10 04:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Read to them from the bible and say the same rules that apply to you apply to me. Then use the bible rules that are not your own established rules and try to stick with it.
The best training tool is a good example. They do hurt easily but if we are doing the best that we can and remember that verbal abuse is as bad as physical abuse and praise him when he is good. Something as simple as offering you something to eat. Take it no matter how wet and gross it is.
Say thank you your so generous.
2007-10-10 04:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Steven 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are totally normal. A lot of men feel the very same way you feel.
2007-10-10 07:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by lahockeyg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax and love them with all your heart as long as you don't feel the desire to intentionally hurt them in that case stay as far away as possible and get help immediately
2007-10-10 04:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember....There is nothing that you can do to them now that they will remember when they are older! If you screw up, fix it and go on...no need to feel guilty. They will make sure you feel guilty enough when they are older! Good luck
2007-10-10 04:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by SuVmOm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that is normal for a guy. But know that the more you hold him, the more comfortable you will be.
2007-10-10 04:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by alikat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be afraid.. Just be very careful and gentle..
2007-10-10 04:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋