I have a 3 yr old who has major issues. She screams and yells at me and her dad, tells us we're mean, or that we're mad at her - will not listen to us - and if we try to punish her - she just doesn't care what kind of punishment she gets she is still just a "brat" I know she's only 3 and still testing her boundaries but I am a little worried about her emotional outbursts and have reached the end of my rope? Has anyone else dealt with this or have any suggestions on how to handle this - I'm starting to wonder if I need to speak to her Dr. about her and her outbursts...
2007-10-10 04:01:17 · 5 answers · asked by danczar1 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you're right on the money when you say she is testing the boundaries. (Whoever coined the phrase "terrible twos" hadn't endured the "horrible threes" yet!). Be consistent. Put her in her room, gate her in if you have to. Let her know that screaming is unacceptable, don't pay any attention to what she is screaming, she's only trying to get a reaction from you. She wants to see what happens when she screams or misbehaves. If she always gets the same reaction, (ie sent to her room), then she will probably stop. Just make sure you always react in the same way. Don't yell back, just tell her that "this behaviour" is unacceptable and put her in her room for 3 minutes. Good luck!
2007-10-10 04:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by curlingmama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sensory subjects potential that he perceives sensory enter better or weaker than regularly occurring (or any combination), has a confusing time to interpret what he perceives, and/or would be unable to combine multiple advice too properly (like, connect the sight of a vehicle meaningfully with the noise it makes). What you describe sounds very resembling he's oftentimes hyposensitive. that could or won't could desire to do with autism (autistics may well be very affectionate), yet out of your regularly occurring description, there does not seem reason to panic. He does no longer purely advance out of it, in spite of the indisputable fact that it oftentimes gets extra advantageous over the years. Such subjects may well be motivated; you are able to advance his sensitivity with, as an occasion, massages, particular routines, or in spite of. i do no longer understand, in spite of the undeniable fact that, which remedies are on the marketplace, and how plenty experience they make. regrettably, whilst bobbing up remedies, human beings will purely seem on the seen effects, and thoroughly ignore with regard to the effects on the youngster's soul (like forcing an autistic new child, it quite is plenty extra companies to rigidity besides, to paintings 40 hours a week). and then they ascribe any progression to the scientific care, ignoring the undeniable fact that youngsters certainly make progression. So, you will could desire to contemplate that very heavily, and not purely settle for the subsequent proper "therapy". I additionally study your placed up in the different section, the place you reported ear infections. Have they checked his listening to? yet even in spite of if this is okay, he could nonetheless be hyposensitive to sound, or have situation to technique auditory advice. that should for effective consequence his speech, and a few speech scientific care could be efficient. additionally - in case you desire to look into that stuff in extra element (in spite of if this is "purely" sensory subjects, you probably can examine in the context of autism, because of the fact they have the same form of situation, plus others), verify you ask effected adults. professionals and - in consequence - mum and dad often have somewhat questionable techniques approximately what the youngster "needs". returned - do no longer freak out. different than the speech subject, that doesn't sound such as you are able to desire to assume considerable problems. this is solid while you're attentive to his peculiarities; and with some ideal advice, you would be waiting to preserve that.
2016-12-18 03:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by eatough 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should get ahold of a parenting coach.
Toddlers behavior doesnt just "happen", they learn how to behave and react, even if its just by your failure to react to a certain behavior.
You cannot blame the child, part of being a parent is realizing that if something is amiss the issue lies with you.
I can tell right now you're inconsistent in your expectations with her, and also with your punishment. "she will not listen to us" and "she doesnt care what kind of punishment." Those are not words that go hand in hand with consistency.
Without knowing more, without knowing how you handle her, how you teach or, or what the dynamic is in the house hold, its hard to give you anymore advice.
So, contact a parenting coach and go from there.
2007-10-10 04:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
this may be old news, but: maybe she just wants attention and she's getting this in the form of "punishment."
give her lots of attention when she's doing right, and when she's in a tantrum, just ignore her. never give in. the object is to make her understand that the tantrum will not be an effective tool to get what she wants. this may take days, even weeks to sink in, but it will sink in
2007-10-10 04:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by bitoy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hed the same problem with my son. Counseling was
suggested. I took the advice and it worked. My son is now 13 and is a great kid.
2007-10-10 04:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋