severe depression?

Question

My best friend of nearly 12 years is married since a month and is gone. I am depressed and do not know how to come out of it.I am on certain drugs to remove the loneliness. My friend has done it for their own future and good.

Can any one suggest how I come out of this negative trip

Answer 1

A lot of people experience these "episodes." I have experience taking medication...I no longer take it though and I'm totally against it. Eating whole foods, getting enough sleep, walking outside in the sunlight on a daily basis, journal writing, breathing exercises, watching funny movies, talking to people I trust and getting out of the house (even when I don't feel like it and I have to literally force myself) are all things that I do to alleviate symptoms of depression...and they are much more affective than any medication! I know the worst part is that feeling of hopelessness...like you're never going to feel truly happy again. But you will! It may not feel like it but YOU WILL! Remember, depression lies! Good luck!

Answer 2

You may want to start a fitness plan:

Here are some good ideas:
1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.
2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.
3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn't be eating.
4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)
5. Stop smoking, drinking beer & wine, and drinking coffee.
6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.
7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.
8. Avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.

Tone up the muscles:

1. Join a gym and get a trainer.
2. If you're short on cash, start a light stretching & yoga regimen.
3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.
4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike
. 5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.
6. Join the local YMCA..

Mental Health:

1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.
2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.
3. Learn how to meditate.
4. Join a support group for the issue you're dealing with.
5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.
6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings & thoughts.
7. Write a 'gratitude' list every night.
8. Do something that makes you happy each day like: listen to your favorite music, draw, paint, write, or anything creative.
9. Do something for someone else who needs help.

Answer 3

Find some other friends to hang out with or join a club or two to meet new people. Plan a get-away for just yourself or with another friend. It is hard when our closest friends move away. Give yourself some time to be upset but then get busy with new and exciting adventures!

Answer 4

aaawww, you remind me of me... i know what you're saying, my bestest friend ever is gone, i still talk to him but it hurt sssoooo much when he first left, i couldnt see or talk to him for 6months at first because he joined tha navy, and i felt like i wanted to die, because i was around him every day for years and years and no matter how good or bad i felt, he always made me feel better, i still think about him a lot, but it doesnt hurt to bad anymore...dont get me wrong though i still have those days whre i just want his company and i know i cant have it which hurts...but what helps me is keeping my mind occupied on other things, and i know that will be hard at first but just cry when you need to and it will get easier...as for drugs, dont do that man, i would say exercise would be the safest and most effective alternative to meds cause exercise takes out cortosone whic is the stress hormone in your blood(you know hiow when you get too stressed out and you get ulcers? well that is cortosol circulating in your blood in either too big of quantitys, or for way too long) exercise will take that stress hormone out and turn it into enery for your body, it is physically impossible for your body to be stressed out while you exercise, if you feel stressed out when you do it is a mental thing...i would say keep occupied and for gods sake exercise so you dont get an ulcer!

Answer 5

I don't believe drugs help. If you are lonely then get out and breathe fresh air. Take a class in something you like. You have to be able to talk to other people in order to not be lonely. But here's the clincher-you have to like being alone before anyone will like being with you. Don't be dependent on anyone but yourself. Your setting yourself up for another fall if you choose this road.

Answer 6

Get out and volunteer somewhere. When you are helping others you will forget most of your own problems. Being involved with others is very uplifting. Stay on your medication and you might want to be in touch with a councilor for feed back.

Answer 7

well how far away is she. You can still email and call her when ever you get lonely. Try and make some new friends i know no one is going to be able to take her place but find some new ones or maybe go to a support group for depression

Answer 8

It's hard to know....Is your friend a woman or a man?
If its a woman....join a woman's club.....
play backgammon on yahoo
you would be surprised how many women you can meet there;
Join a backgammon league or any other league. That way you can also meet men if your best friend was a man.
either way get on with your life forget that best friend ; If she was a best friend she/he wouldnt have left you like that.
What kind of anti depressants do you take?
I am depressed to but effexor xl and wellbutrin has taken care of me. Ask you phyciatrist what he/she thinks.

Answer 9

Shure ! I know you will came out from this sitchuation,it will take some time. I am not a doctor but before 4 years I am also in such sitchutation. I dont know my theary will work or will not . We have to try our best. It is not need to win need is to try. Sending tips after some time .Wait !

Answer 10

A natural way to enhance your mood is a bit of light exercise. A walk, whether on a nature trail, or in a mall if you prefer, can do you good.

If you're looking for a social outlet, and don't mind religious people, church is a great place to go.