I know its a serious decision but why do the majority of men seem to swear by the motto " I'm not ready. " What is so scary and why do you think there are there so many women out there waiting for a proposal? How did you know when you were ready or have any of you proposed just to keep your girlfriends happy?
2007-10-10 03:51:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To vie045- were you concentrating on 'being yourself' when you accepted 3 proposals? Surprised anyone asked with an attitude like yours.
2007-10-10 04:41:34 · update #1
men dont swear by that motto they are actually a lot smarter with the whole thing, now i have had this descussion many many times with my male friends,
all us woman think we are always ready but we are the ones who always end up asking for a divorse are we not?
its not that they are not ready its that they are making sure that they have the right woman some one they know for sure they can spend the rest of there lifes with and they will wait as long as they need to find that right woman,
also alot of my male friends have said there woman hint all the time they want to get married all the time... but think about the stress thats on there sholders picking out the perfect ring finding the perfect time and the perfect way to propose maybe they are just waiting for those things....
dont ever think they are not ready or they dont want to marry they do and they will do it in time... just let them do it there way
2007-10-10 05:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Day Dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To play Devil's Advocate... why are so many women in such a RUSH to get married? Why do they feel the need to pressure a guy when he's not ready... or maybe he is just not THAT into you?
Would you like to get a proposal just to shut you up? then you will be engaged for a long time with no plan to get married until he finds someone better and you are even more crushed.
How about if we women stop focusing on being someone's wife and just focus on being ourselves? When/if a man is ready to make that leap, then and only then, he will propose, and you will know he means it because you didn't have to hound him until he caved in.
2007-10-10 04:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you aren't in your 30's, or even late 20's.
Guys just don't seem to mature as fast. I was 25+ before I was settled down enough to even think about marriage. Don't forget his body is still settling out of all the crazy hormones of adolescence if he is younger than that. He may just realize he isn't ready, and still has some growin' to do.
Unless you are planning on having kids, is there a real rush? If you are still young, it may be in your best interest to let him finish growing into whatever he'll become - make sure you still like that future him as much as the present him!
2007-10-10 04:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by SWEngr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
of course some women settle. unlike adult males, we gained't have toddlers as quickly as we are old. as quickly as you hit 35, the possibilities of having pregnant decline with each year that passes. So, now and lower back, because of the fact they actually want a family individuals and don't want/can no longer arise with the money for to be single mum and dad, women settle. with regard to the "love of their life", by utilising the time they hit 30 maximum women have suffered heartbreak and lose faith in that suited. whether a woman does locate the "love of her life", he might no longer be good husband/father fabric. ultimately, as human beings age, they do replace and that they get to comprehend themselves greater valuable. What i wanted in a guy whilst i replaced into 30 isn't unavoidably what i want now.
2016-11-07 21:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men use logic, rational thinking, and practical viewpoints to determine where they want a relationship to go. Women rely on emotion and demands, almost manipulation if you will. When women learn to channel a man's logical side and think critically rather than emotionally, they can understand the "I'm not ready" mantra.
I applied this when I wanted to marry my husband. I focused more on the practical and logical side of things. What would work for him, how he could best see things. I refrained from using emotion and instead relied on what I knew from a practical standpoint. It helped, seriously. It got him more focused and content with the idea of getting married.
Seriously ladies, if you want your man to propose, think like one for just a moment and tap into their logical side. Focus on the realities of marriage, not just the romance. Once you do this, don't be surprised if you get a proposal within weeks or months.
EDIT:
Nice. I got a thumbs down for being HONEST. And I wholeheartedly agree with the poster playing Devil's advocate. Smart. And spot on too.
2007-10-10 04:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
the only thing that is stopping my boyfriend from becoming my fiance is that he is too scared to ask my dad! HAHA!!! but i dont mind.. i know he'll do it when hes ready. i know alot of guys say when they are young that they arent ready but hes 22. and hes ready, hes just afraid of my dad! :)
2007-10-10 03:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Adrian- Roll Tide!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AMEN SISTER!!!! I don't think that question will ever be answered to our satisfaction.
2007-10-10 03:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie Queen of All ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋