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We broke up and now we are just friends but now he is going out with a girl and he told me that he wasn't going to go out with anyone. I don't know if i can handle seeing them together.

What do i do ?

2007-10-10 03:40:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

12 answers

He told you he wasn't going to see another girl because he probably thought that was what you wanted to hear. But honestly it is unreasonable for a now-single guy to not go out with other girls...that is the whole point of being single.

What to do? Avoid him. Or just don't let him get to you. Not easy, I know, because obviously you are still not over him. And you are probably upset at the reality that he is totally over you and going out with other girls. Totally understandable.

2007-10-10 03:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Well, unfortunately reality has reared it's ugly head. We would like to believe, even when we break up, that the other person can't or won't get over us especially soon.
The truth is that it was only a matter of time before one of you started to date etc..,
I know it is weird and if you still have feeling for him, now would be the time to let him know. But don't confuse jealousy or insecurity with wanting to be back with him.
If you know that it won't work out and you are better off without him, then you've got to let him move on. You may let him know that it is weird for you and may take you a while to adjust to the change. During that time, you may need to keep a distance.

2007-10-10 03:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 2 0

Grin and bear it. He went back on his word about not wanting to see anyone, so now you may have a good idea that even if he'd stayed with you, he may not have been honest with you about being true to you then either. Just tell yourself you're the better person and don't be friends with him anymore since most in this type friendship doesn't work very well anyway.

2007-10-10 03:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

well,
Since you two broke up.. You need to respect that fact that he is in a new relationship. If you can't handle it then don't stay friends with him because that's just going to make you hurt even more.. But If friends is all you can be then be friends even get to know his new girl. Don't hate on her just because you don't got what you had.. Its not her its him..

Did he break up with you or you with him?

either way.. even if he told you he wasn't going to go out with anyone he made a different choice and you have to respect that as his friend.. so either you respect it or you move on.. and Leave him alone

2007-10-10 03:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

Sorry to tell you this, but your "friend" is a scumbag. A very similar situation happened with me when I was in high school. My high school BF and I broke up, but continued to hang out (and of course I was still in love with him, I thought...) and when he started going around with a new girl it broke my heart wide open, even though he denied they were going out. Of course, when I found out that of course they were going out and he was just lying so he could sort of keep me around just in case, I was very sad and angry. You're better off just severing ties with this guy completely. Avoid him when you can.

2007-10-10 04:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0 0

Tell him. A true 'friend' would tell you the truth. I bet there are ton's of guys that want to go out with you. Still be friends, just get a b/f and then you won't feel so bad. But make sure you new b/f really loves you for who you are.

2007-10-10 03:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dancergirl 1 · 0 1

given a chance anyone will tell you ANYTHING if they think that it is something that you want to hear; or if it will make them or the situation look better. in your case i think that it might be best, for you, to just let him go. he went back on his word; it is besides the point if he meant it or not.. he still lied to you for whatever reason. no one deserves to be lied to or treated badly. for your own sanity try your best to move on. it might take a little time depending on how you are able to handle tough situations. i hope that everything works out for you in the end. good luck :D

2007-10-10 03:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by ndnchk84 3 · 0 0

Brace yourself and get ready to accept something that you can't change. Focus on what you CAN change which is yourself, get a new guy, go other places so you won't see them, get busy in your life so it doesn't matter so much, eventually it won't.

2007-10-10 03:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 1 0

How long is it since you broke up? If it wasn't long ago, he's probably just on the rebound.

2007-10-10 03:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by arrabella 3 · 0 0

get over it... its not the end of the world.. people move on and it doesnt seem realistic to break up with someone and not expect them to see other people... you should do the same... find a new mate.

2007-10-10 03:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by howie r 5 · 1 1

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