I have a couple questions about sex in the Bible.?

Question

The current dogma says no sex before marriage.Does anybody have any scripture to back it?I am not saying it's not true.Just want to know.The other question is about lust.If you look at a girl(not married),and have thoughts.BUT,it reality you have NO intention to act on it.Is it still lust?
I have read the Bible several times.I have read no sex with same sex,realives,and animals.I need actual scriptures.Not just beliefs.When in doubt.You should trust God and his words.Not peoples dogma.

Answer 1

I think it's very intelligent of you to look to sources rather than trusting just what you hear. If applied to all areas of knowledge your curious about, you'll end up being quite bright, if you are not already.

The Bible treats sex before marriage very seriously. Here's the verse for a woman, who is discovered not being a virgin upon marriage:

"If, however, the charge is true and no proof of the girl's virginity can be found, she shall be brought to the door of her father's house and there the men of her town shall stone her to death. She has done a disgraceful thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father's house. You must purge the evil from among you." Deut 22:20-22 look it up to get the whole idea.

Before that there is Tamar and Judah's response:
"About three months later Judah was told, 'Your daughter-in-law Tamar is guilty of fornication, and as a result she is now pregnant." Judah said, 'Bring her out and have her burned to death!'" Genesis 38:24 (Tamar was his daughter-in-law through two dead sons. She was a widow.)

That was before Moses Law was revealed, and they had only their own prophetic insights to go by. It seems Judah considered Tamar the daughter of a priest for whom fornication's penalty was more severe than stoning:

"" 'If a priest's daughter defiles herself by being a fornicator, she disgraces her father; she must be burned in the fire.'" Leviticus 21:9

Answer 2

The act of sex outside of marriage is called fornication. You will find Jesus speaking against it in Matthew 5:19 and Mark 7:21.

The early church leaders forbid it in Acts 15:20 and 29

Paul condemns it in Romans 1:29, I Corinthians 10:8, 2 Corinthians 12:20,21, Galatians 5:9, Ephesians 5:3, Colossians 3:5, 1 Thessalonians 4:3, to list a few.

On the subject of lust, Jesus himself said that if a man looks on a woman to lust after her, it is the same as if he has already committed adultery with her in his heart. So Jesus treats the thought and the act as the same thing. (He also says the same about anger/murder and other sins.)

Does this mean that if you see a pretty woman and your minds does a "she's pretty" that you have sinned. No. You can't stop thoughts like that (or pretty woman) from passing by. But if you dwell on it, take a second look, try to stare at inapropriate places, etc., then it is a sin. When your looking is for sexual purposes, it is wrong.

Answer 3

It's not "current" dogma -- it's ancient dogma, and it's found in every single culture. Did you know that? Every single culture of every single ethnicity and every single religious foundation has discouraged sex without marriage.

But you want Scripture, so here you are.

I Corinthians 7:36
"If anyone thinks he is acting improperly toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if she is getting along in years and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married."

So if you think you are improperly lusting after your girlfriend, the proper thing to do is to marry so that you can have licit sexual relations. Sexual relations are ONLY for the marriage bed -- anything else is adulterous, even if neither party is married. (Matthew 5:28, see also Ex 20:14 and Deut. 5:18). It is sexual immorality and that is resoundly condemned in Scriptures.

Hebrews 13:4
"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

(See also Matthew 15:18-20. Mark 7:21, Acts 15:20, 29, Romans 13:13, I Cor 6:9, 12-20, I Cor 10:8, Gal 5:19, Eph. 5:3, Col 3:5, I Thess. 4:3, Jude 1:7, Rev. 21:8)

Now then, if you look at your girlfriend lustfully and you are not going to act on it, is it still lust? Yes, if it's lust, it's lust even if you aren't going to do anything about it.

But do you know what lust is? It's looking upon a woman or treated her as if she was an object for your sexual satisifaction. It's belittling to her and to the holy act of sexual intercourse between a married couple.

If you look at your girlfriend with authentic admiration and love and are attracted to her and hope to spend the rest of your life with her and feel a strong desire to take her in your arms and kiss her, that's NOT lust, because it's not belittling her or the holy act of sexual intercourse between a married couple.

Answer 4

Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

This indicates exclusivity in sexual relations. The following also supports that.

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

The following is pretty comprehensive -
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6.


The Ten Commandments list the chief or principal sin. All sins are subsumed in that chief or principal as Christ expounded in Matthew 5. Verse 28 makes it clear that it is the lust in the mind not just the act that constitutes sin.

Pro 24:9 The thought of foolishness is sin: and the scorner is an abomination to men - so even the thought is sin.



1Ti 5:2 The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity - indicates that the opposite sex is to be regarded in purity.


You are right to demand authority from God's word and not depend only upon what men say.

Act 17:11 These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so.

Answer 5

Look in your bible topical guide under chastity or fornication - mostly the whole "no sex before marriage" is a matter of interpretation based upon scripture that indicates chastity and purity and no fornication (which most have taken to mean sex before marriage, but perhaps more accurately means sexual impurity), and virtue (a virtuous woman is a crown...). There are a ton of scriptures addressing these ideas as well as the whole 'body is a temple of God' concept.

Lust is a little clearer.....
Matt 5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Answer 6

To be able to find it in the Bible, you have to know the proper word to look for. Pre-marital is a term not found in the Bible, but fornication is. Fornication is defined as consensual sex between two unmarried persons. If you have read the Bible, then I am sure that you have seen the term, but were unaware of its definition. Look at I Corinthians 6:18 and 7:2, they clearly state that fornication (pre-marital sex) is a sin.

As far as lust, that answer is in the Bible too. Look at Matthew 5:28. Jesus tells us that when we look at a woman (or man) with lust in our hearts that we have already committed adultery in our hearts. I believe that if you have a fleeting thought (like a girl walks by and you think, "She's hot") but then push the thought from your mind, you have not sinned. If, however, she walks by, you think the same thing, and then dwell on the thought and fantasize about her, then you have sinned.

Answer 7

Ok. Fornication is sex before marrage. This is two verses. There are many more.

Act 21:25 As touching the Gentiles which believe, we have written [and] concluded that they observe no such thing, save only that they keep themselves from [things] offered to idols, and from blood, and from strangled, and from **fornication**.

Rom 1:29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, ***fornication***, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
Rom 1:30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
Rom 1:31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
Rom 1:32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

Answer 8

When the Bible says "no fornication" that means sex without marriage.When it says "No adultery" it means one or both of you is married to someone else.
You never got that out of the Bible? And you have read it several times? Come on ,Dude.
One of the things the Church of jerusalem told Paul to tell the gentile churches was ,no eating meat sacrificed to idols,no eating the meat without draining the blood and no fornication.
Therefore both the Old and New Testaments say flee fornication.

Answer 9

one million. intercourse earlier marriage is complete in lots of cultures to be certain the couple are fertile with one yet another. it rather is a prevalent attention for many in getting married. that's no longer a sin except the girl gets PG and the guy runs out on her. 2. the 1st commandment God gave to mankind grow to be to go forth and multiply. meaning having young little ones is robust and via extrapolation, something that stops you from having young little ones is undesirable. hence beginning administration is undesirable. 3. i comprehend of no record that ranks the sins in accordance to which one is worse than the others. Of the "huge ten" i might think of worshiping yet another God could be worse than homicide. i might propose while you're quite against abortion yet for pre-marital intercourse you utilize 2 kinds of beginning administration. Get on the tablet and use a condom.

Answer 10

I went thourgh this same thing one time and i asked god to give me an answer and he wants us to wait to have sex before marriage not only that it is safer than sleeping with alot of people and getting a STD or something