so i fell really hard for this one guy i started dating because he was the sweetest person ever..he took me on several dates, we texted constantly, we called each other, have so many things in common, he cooked me my favorite food, we saw movie together and holded hands..then he drops me off and we kiss finally..it was so adorable..but just that..than the next day he calls me to tell me that he wants to stay in contact just that he doesnt want to be in a relationship because he has never had a single life...he had a 3yr relationship and a 2yr relationship so he wants to take it slow..BUT I REALLY LIKE HIM AND DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM..wat do i do? how do i act? to not lose him and i dont know if he should know that i like him? did he leave me because i kissed him?! im so confused..and it seems that he doesnt even know how much i liked him
2007-10-10 03:11:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A guy leave because he kissed you????No o wayy!!!
But i'll have to say, everyone is different, and perhaps his previous relationships have got him thinking that sometimes taking it slow is better.
That does NOT mean that its not a good thing. He's called to tell you he wants to stay in contact and that he's willing to let things happen, as long as they're not too speedy. Remember?
I really dont think he would have gone to such lengths to take interest in your foods, spending time with you at the movies, or feeling comfortable holding ur hands if he dint have feelings for you
perhaps its just his personal issue/situation that he needs to let things stay neutral, no matter what he feels. Its only if you see him definitely drifting away, THEn you can suppose he's uninterested. After all, if you see things from his point of view, perhaps he's seeing something special in this one, thats why he's not going to rush it. Rushing things is really not good in relationships. Its the longer, sweeter ones that last a lifetime.
Otherwise, things are looking pretty good. And let him know subtly that you take interest in him. Dont go overboard and slobber him with affection. He's not ur boyfriend yet, and that might just freak him out or he might take you for granted.
Keep things mutual, but keep it special at the same time. You probably both know you have feelings for each other, so dont let him forget
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2007-10-10 03:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really likes you too...maybe too much and he sees himself falling for you also. like he said he's never been single and that's something that everyone needs to do in their life to be sane so to speak. we all need a single period in our lives where we have no one else to answer to but ourselves and sow some wild oats before we get back into a serious a relationship. and this obviously what he needs and wants right now. it seems to me he enjoyed himself also, but found he was falling into the usual the pattern....relationship hopping. he needs a break from the serious relationships but he can see himself jumping right back into one with you.
Maybe you two could stay friends...AND just friends. no sex just enjoy each others company. he can date other ppl you can date other ppl and when he feels like he's ready for a serious relationship then he can come back to you.....it doesn't always work that way but *shrug* it maybe worth the risk.
2007-10-10 10:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't leave you because you kissed him. That's not it. I'd have to say he's being honest with you. He probably wants to see what being single is like. If I were you...I'd be glad that he realized this now instead of further into your relationship. I would just let it go. Play it cool and see what happens. If he comes back...great!! If not...he's just doing what he needs to do to be happy. Good luck!
2007-10-10 10:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He scared himself when he kissed you. He's afraid he'll jump into another relationship and he knows he needs some time off. Which he does - he's been tied down for five years and has nothing to show for it.
Curse the timing and move on.
2007-10-10 10:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as it might kill you, if you are willing to wait it out, play it cool and be a friend. if in a few months it looks like the guy is moving on with another girl or still enjoying playing the field then distance yourself then. this way you are keeping yourself on the scene so he won't forget you but still keeping your cards close to your heart. don't get desperate or clingy and don't let him play with your heart. you can be a winner in this situation, even if that means you don't end up with the guy.
2007-10-10 10:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by dream_ticket07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the good side, he likes you and told you the truth, he respect you, you should take the time to see if you really like him and give him what he needs in a relationship.
2007-10-10 10:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Minnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you try to become possessive it will most assuredly drive him away. By showing him that you want to respect his wish to keep things on the cool side, and I think that will impress him. sometimes less is more...just be yourself and enjoy spending time with him. Hopefully, sooner or later, he will come around. WHATEVER you do, don't scare him away by becoming clingy.
2007-10-10 10:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship...at least not with you and not right now. If you can't handle being a friend, then maybe you should just distance yourself from him for now.
2007-10-10 10:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and that you'll try to be patient and take things slow...you gotta respect his wishes
2007-10-10 10:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by warrenwhyte2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you dont want to lose him and how much you love him
2007-10-10 10:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kinomak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋