my 2.5 year old never has tantrums in public.It is usually only when i go to the kitchen that it starts. I swear he can hear the fridge open from 20 metres!
It's as if every time i go to the kitchen he decides he wants something to eat. He can finish breakfast and 10 minutes later be looking for food when i go to the kitchen.
Does anyone have any idea as to what is going on in his little head and how to deal with the situation. He does not speak many words - only yes, no, all gone, bye, hi. (am going to speech pathology again next month).
2007-10-10 02:33:04 · 11 answers · asked by cybachic2000 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
LOL. He does the same thing my cat does. Every time I rattle plastic or other wrappers she associates it with plastic grocery bags and getting food. :)
What he's doing will probably pass in another little while. All of these things usually do.
If it were me I think I'd make it a point to announce to him ahead of time, "I'm going to go into the kitchen to put the dishes away. Do you want to come with me and bring your toy?" If he says "no" (which he probably won't, if I know two-year-olds) then fine. If he says, "yes", walk together into the kitchen, ask him if you can help him carry his toy (or puzzle maybe), and talk about what you'll be doing in the kitchen.
You could also keep paper and crayons in the kitchen and ask him, "Do you want to come color while I put the dishes away? We don't need food right now, but I have some work to do in the kitchen."
It may not work right away (and it may not work at all - I don't know). It may work, though, because the big problem with two-year-olds and tantrums is that they love routine and don't like it broken (opening the refrigerator, to him, equals a routine of open/take out food); and also they don't like surprises.
Two-years olds also have a problem because they're aware enough of routines and goings on to know how things usually work, but they're not emotionally capable of dealing with the "shock" of not having all go as they thought it would, in their head. He may not be able to speak all that well right now, but he probably pretty much understands what you say.
You could even try something like talking to him in a different room, and when all is calm, and telling him, "You know what I'd like to do? I'd like to keep crayons and paper in the kitchen, so you can draw while I do my work there." You could then go together, find some paper and crayons, put them in a box, and find a place to keep them in the kitchen.
You could say, "Do you want to color at that table now, or should we put the box away until I'm doing my work in the kitchen?" He'll make his choice, and if he wants the box immediately tell him, "When you're done we're going to keep the box on the shelf over there."
2007-10-10 02:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, don't feed him all the time, but to make him stop throwing tantrums for food, try all the other answers and if that don't work, last thing u can try is whenever u feed him and after that he asks for more food and throws tantrums, give him something hot, its gonna burn him a few times, but he will learn a lesson.
don't worry about speech pathology, he will be ok, some kids don't speak at this age.
they r just lazy and don't try enough, but he will try once he sees other kids talking in school or play group.
2007-10-10 02:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the tantrum. If he's just eaten and didn't show any signs that he was hungry, then he doesn't need anything. Step over him and let him scream. That way he knows you saw him and knows that you are choosing not to answer him. If you're eating every time you go in there, then I'd suggest you stop and eat when he eats. If he wants water, give him water to drink, but other than that, don't give in. Problem solved.
2007-10-10 02:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teach him the meaning of "NO"
Take him out of the kitchen when he has a tantrum and confine him in his playpen
Ignore all the howls and crying, just keep an unobtrusive eye on him to be sure he is ok.
He will soon stop his tantrums when he realizes that he is not going to get his own way.
2007-10-10 02:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by credo quia est absurdum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont let him throw the tantrums. Children only do what theyre allowed to do, or taught to do by your lack of action.
If you dont want him to throw tantrums whenever you go into the kitchen, divert him into a different activity. Spank his little hiney if he does throw one, let him know he can use words to tell you instead of screaming (i dont care if he only has babble, my 8 month old understands "use your little baby words" he'll stop crying and talk to me instead) tell him we dont throw tantrums, and then move him back into another activity.
His ability to communicate with english does not inhibit his ability to commicate to you, or to understand english from you.
2007-10-10 02:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he hears you open the fridge, he thinks you're getting something to eat. Whether he's hungry or not, he's going to want some of what you're having because at that age they don't want to be left out of anything. If you're cooking, why not have him come watch you cook? If you redirect him to something other than crying, you'll find it works faster than trying to cater to his fits.
2007-10-10 02:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
children can understand many more words than they can say, so don't let that fool you into thinking your son doesn't understand you. the more you give in to him the more he will do it, tell him clearly that he has just eaten and can wait until snack time, if he decides to have a tantrum let him and he will eventually learn that no means no.
2007-10-10 02:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by loulou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the 2.5 year old out of the kitchen.
Wow, that was easy, 2 points for me
WC
2007-10-10 02:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by the_wandering_critic 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He did not get what he wanted. That is why he threw a tantrum. You should know what his favorite food is by now. Just give him cookie, milk, juice, etc., and see how he reacts.
2007-10-10 02:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by OKIM IM 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont give him food all of the time.
2007-10-10 02:36:08 · answer #10 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋