you do not want to be in a relationship,you want to keep your chances open,multi date,nothing serious no sex involved,and you like different people,but you can't stand a one night stand ,and you do want to commit.and if u do multidate the guys won't agree..I am in that situation what will u do?
2007-10-09 10:28:59 · 17 answers · asked by lady c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry i meant do not want to commit,and for the people who can't read or didn't finish reading,i said no one night stands and nothing serious.just the regular,movies,rest.and all of that.Plus do not judge me because the things you might have done will make me seem like an angel.Thanks for all of you who understood my situation and answered.
2007-10-10 08:46:52 · update #1
you dont want to be in a relationship but you want to commit???
Guess that's a lil' typin slip.
But no, I haven't been in that situ as I wouldn't toy with others emotions in that way. Multi-dating is not only pointless it can cause repercussions. "whose baby is it, who gave me STD, forgetfulness, slips of the tongue, tantrums etc,etc
Either don't do it...or pick the right guy and go for it. Keeping options open doesn't hold much hope for the guy in the frame at the time.. the relationship wouldn't work because you wouldn't be giving 100%.
(My biased opinion... I wouldn't "cheat")
2007-10-09 10:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It"s hard finding" the one", when your giving your undivided attention to one. I too, don't believe in one night stands. It feels (for lack of better words) cheap.
I am in this position also. I know I want to commit to just one. But how do I find her if I don't date others? Its kind of like taste testing. You want all the flavors around long enough for you to make your final choice. but if knowing I was one of the multi dates, I wouldn't hang around. There's really nothing wrong with the way your going about it. My hats off to you for not being intimate during this lil' dilemma. Sometimes honesty is not the best policy! If your honest to them ,and tell them your dating others, it may turn into more of a competition (or) they may leave in disapproval.
Either way you don't see their real personality. I guess my suggestion to us both is, what they don't know won't hurt!
It does hurt my pocket book though>>>>ha ha
2007-10-09 18:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by david 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you want to date around and see what's out there, then go ahead! Have fun, this is your time. If it's just casual dating and both parties know this, then you're not obligated to tell them that you're casually dating anyone else. However, if you see them moving or wanting to move to the next level, then you need to be extremely truthful with them, or you risk hurting a lot of people. Just be aware or your surroundings and have fun!
2007-10-09 17:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need to think first what u really want. If u want to have and not serious then dont commit. Becuase what if one guy will fall for u. U will break his heart. I think its good that u go on multidate bcoz u are not sure for yourself yet. But u need to stop it when u found a guy whos seriously inlove with u.
2007-10-09 17:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what makes u happy! the other guys dont have to know about the other guys. just keep it all on the down low! lol just do your thing if your having sex with all of them just be careful and remain safe. if you want to commit then date one guy you like and take things form thier. trust your first instinct when it comes to the guy you choose though! never settle for less then what you think you deserve! xo
2007-10-09 17:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep doing what you're doing. I think you've got the system down. If a guy doesn't like it, he can either live with it or move on. You're doing things right. Way to go girl!
2007-10-09 17:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bob Lahblah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are SOOOOOOO not ready to commit. Go out and live it up and enjoy several different guys or girls (whatever). Then settle down. You'll know when you are ready.
You're not allergic to penicillin are you?
2007-10-09 17:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Michael P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have a stiff drink and try to figure what i want out of life
2007-10-09 17:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by gdes_00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eliminate the guy who doesn't agree.
2007-10-09 17:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go somewhere and think about it for a long time and decide who i would date, or go out with. it takes alot of thinking time. good luck.
2007-10-09 17:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋