Are there others that are 10% disabled that just want to end it all?

Question

I have cancer, Diabetes, Heart problems, Hypertension, Perpheral Neuropathy in all limbs, artery problems.

That should be 100% disabled.

Answer 1

First of all, I want to say that what you feel is normal. I think people who "sugar coat" reality by telling you that "it's not so bad" or "at least you're alive" really do not understand the pain and hopelessness you feel. They may even say ridiculous things like "stop feeling sorry for yourself". More than likely, they are 100% healthy and have no idea what you are going through. Or they tell you that you "are depressed" and that medication will help. It may or may not, but regardless, it will not cure your conditions.

The fact is, living with diabetes is hard. Living with diabetes complications can be painful and leave you tired and ill feeling. Living with cancer is painful and hard. Living with all you mention must be staggering. You deserve credit just for that. Realize that you have something in you that makes you a fighter. You are here right now looking for answers, so you must know that you have a chance to make the most of this difficult situation.

First, make sure you are receiving proper medical care. You will never feel better or improve if your diabetes is not well taken care of or if your complications are not treated. Cancer is also not always a death sentence. New medical advances, treatments, medications, and surgeries can help you in every area. The key is to also *take care of yourself*.

Eat healthy unprocessed foods. If you smoke, you need to stop (like now, like yesterday). Anti-oxidants, nutritional supplements, and fibre should be your friend. Do *any* kind of exercise you can. If all you can do is arm rows from a wheelchair, then do that. Please also get your doctor's OK before you begin an exercise routine of any type or start any nutritional supplements. You are not a lost cause just yet. What IS a lost cause is if you give up. Do you have any family or friends that can help support you?

DO watch out for "miracle" diabetes/cancer cures and scams, but DO NOT ignore researched nutritional supplements that may help. For instance, Benfothiamine, a synthetic form of vitamin B1, has been shown to help diabetic neuropathy in clinical research.

Lastly, join a support group for those with chronic illness. This may be through the local hospital, local diabetes/cancer association, or a webgroup. But do it. You are not alone.

Take it one day at a time, and make that your goal. Your goal is not to be 100% "normal" again, it is to do the best with what you have, and be proud of what you have done. Even if you spend the day reading a good book, that's good for something as long as you enjoyed it!

Remember that you have to help yourself first, because no one else will if you don't. You do have a tough lot, you really do. But I *personally* would not write you off just yet.;) I think your condition can be improved upon, or at least you can be made more comfortable.

I think sometimes when you are ill it's hard to look at the small things, like how you like to talk to your niece on the phone or listen to jazz music. Illness takes over and dominates the "big picture". Try to focus on the small things in life that give you pleasure while you try to make the most of your situation.

Answer 2

I am chronically ill and have had times that I wished my life would end but have never attempted suicide. I just had surgery no. 41 and it failed to work. I try to find joy in other ways and live by the thought that everything happens for a reason. I decided I could change what is under my control and developed the mantra that I can be bitter or be better. I chose to be the best that I can. look in your heart and try to help others by sharing your experience and how you have coped with your most difficult times. I founded a club called the "Live For today" Club. It was a support group for all chronically ill people. Listening to others made me appreciate my own life. It's really hard being sick but there's so much you can do to help yourself. You may need to see a therapist or talk to your primary Dr. about your thoughts. He might want to try an anti-depressant or other therapy to make life easier for you. Good luck. I hope you find an answer that is acceptable to you. Call the cancer society in your area (or check the computer) for a cancer support center near you.

Answer 3

You beat me, I don't have cancer but I'm still 100%. But I always look at the positive side, since I have all the complications already and I'm still kicking everything is looking up.

Answer 4

you have one life, you make the choice how you use it. Talk to a minister before you make a mistake that you cant take back.