I have a boyfriend and i heard from at least a couple people that MY boyfriend has a STD (clymadia).
So i decided to ask him if he has it and if it was true. He told me that after he had sex with other girls he got checked.
What guys get checked? He doesnt seem the type that would.
I remember WAY before asking him that some "birdie" telling me he gave it to a 15 yr old girl (at the time my BF was 25) and he said "NO it was a 17 yr old..."
Im beginning to think he's lieing to me about the fact he has an STD.
Should i go in with him to the Doctors so i know he's ACATUALLY getting checked, just to make sure?
Or should i dump my BF and move on?
2007-10-07 12:57:15 · 13 answers · asked by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Its sounds like you don't trust him. With no trust, there is no love; so I say leave him.
Personal story:
About 3 years ago I hadn't had a boyfriend or any sexual contact with anyone for over 3 years. I decided to get out there and mingle. Before long, I had a boyfriend who wasn't exactly up to par (with my standards) but I decided to give him a chance - he really down to earth and sweet.
A year into the relationship we stopped using condoms. About a year after that we broke up. I decided to go to the doctor because my period had become irregular. That's when I found out that he had given me Chlamydia. I knew it was him because I wasn't with anyone else for 3 years before I was with him and no one after him. At the time, I hadn't talked to him for 3 months. I called to tell him that he gave me Chlamydia and that he should get treated before he gave it to someone else. He flat out denied having it saying that he had recently gone to the doctor and had no STDs. He said the doctor had given him a blood test. Well, I caught him in a lie there because bacterial STDs are tested in ONLY two ways: urine testing, and swabs from their penis. Needless to say, I was furious.
Come to find out, it's ILLEGAL to have an STD and not warn past and present partners. If someone is reported for knowingly spreading a disease, they can go to jail - so I reported him. He was tested for it my the County Department of Health and it came out positive. He was sent to jail for three days.
Chlamydia is one of the only STDs that displays no outward signs in men, and only more discharge in women so you can go for a very long time without ever knowing. If you have it for too long, you can develop Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) which can potentially sterilize you prevently you from ever having kids.
PLEASE don't underestimate this guy. Get tested!!!!!
2007-10-07 15:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by CK 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 17:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Efrain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you don't think he's the type to get checked, you know he has sex with multiple partners, including young girls, and you think he might lie to you. Doesn't sound like this guy is a keeper. Even if you go to a doctor with him, and even if he doesn't have an STD, can you trust him to be faithful to you? The way to stay safe is to ALWAYS use condoms: are you both willing to do that? Sounds like the answer is no. Which is also the answer to whether you should keep him. But you already knew that, I think.
2007-10-07 20:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesnt know that he has the STD.
Chlamydia, like other STDs can go undetected for sometime. Or present symptoms that are ignored by the patient.
So I wouldnt automatically assume that he is lying.
However, you need to have an open, honest and frank discussion re this situation. If you don't feel that he is being honest or you are in doubt, its time to re-evaluate your relationship. Im not saying break up with him. Just REALLY think about this.
Ive had many patients feel safe because they were not engaging in risky behaviors...yet their partner were.
Get tested..talk to you partner...dont get confrontational.
Good luck!
2007-10-07 14:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by aisydaisylady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men are responsible, others aren't. The desire to have sex often trumps any social responsibility, including STD transmission or prevention of pregnancy.
Your BF sounds as if he has some baggage. Consider moving on. Look for someone with a good track record, or at least some potential.
2007-10-07 13:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by greydoc6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is BOTH of you get tested for std's and hiv. Show each other a copy of the test results. If he won't agree to this, dump him. Its not worth the risk. A relationship is built on trust. If you can't trust someone, move on.
2007-10-07 14:30:02 · answer #6 · answered by momwhoknows 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are uncertain about your boyfriends past sexual activities,and think he has or has had any venereal disease,its either time to give him the flick,i sincerely doubt if he will let you go to the doctor with him.hope all your sex with him has been safe sex.some std"s are very difficult to cure and are a reportable disease to the government.be very careful
2007-10-07 14:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by fatdadslim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check his drivers license and if it doesn't say Jesus Christ on it then it is a possibility that he is lying to you. If you don't feel that you can trust him then either break up with him or don't do sexual things with him until you know that you can trust him for sure.(But my advice to you would be to abstain until marriage, but in this time that is considered unreasonable for most people...)
Hope I helped.
2007-10-07 13:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Brian M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is any doubt in your mind about his truthfullness....especially concerning a STD. Get rid of him and get someone who you can trust. Why choose to put yourself through this?
2007-10-07 13:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the times, rumors are true. The bottom line is, if you are with someone you don't trust, you shouldn't be with them.
2007-10-07 15:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Robert F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋