is it in my head??

Question

my son is 17 almost 18 , making a's and b's in school,, dont smoke, drink or do drugs ,his girlfriend who is 17 , they have been dating for over 1 1/2 years ,and she isin't pregnet yet,,ok so I think I am doing well,, concidering that in today's society,,most kids have tried drugs and drinking, and lot of teen pregnecy,, now here lies my question,,,do you think i am wrong for letting them spend the weekends together, they usually go to her house,stay from fri-sun. then he comes home and does the school thing. he is a little mouthy, but other than that a great son,, my mother-in-law says such filthy things,,about his girlfriend,her parents,, but she has always done those things,,as long as i have known her,
to me it sounds like she is jealous that my son isin't here to listen to her petty naggin, (being polite) and one of these days i might snapp.... would I be wrong to tell a 74 yr. old woman , she had her chance to raise her kids and leave me raise mine?

Answer 1

Hahaha, no it wouldn't be wrong, a little touchy maybe but not wrong. Your son sounds wonderfully normal and healthy and there is nothing wrong with letting them stay together on the weekends. ( their going to find a way any way's) Just remember to nag them about safe sex. As for grama, you should stick up for the kids to her, but don't expect her to change her ways as you said she's always been this way. I would just tell her to keep her opinions to her self when she starts. Good luck

Answer 2

You have two questions... are you wrong to let your son spend the weekend at his girlfriends AND should you tell your mother-in-law to mind her own business.
I say "Yes" to both. I would not allow my son to spend the entire weekend with his girlfriend for several reason. That's your choice though and ultimately up to you. As for telling grandma to mind her own business, I also think you should do that but in a very sweet way. Just say something like, "well, he's my son and I make the best decisions I can. Isn't that what all mothers do?"

Answer 3

You're never too old to learn! As long as she's not on her death bed or anything and you're sure she can handle the truth. Go ahead and tell her. You're son is doing great! Ask the grandmother if she remembers being 17. It's an exciting age! Let him enjoy it! He's obviously behaving himself and not getting into trouble. So, he's a little mouthy. Big deal! What kid isn't mouthy?! Grandma needs to mind her business.

Answer 4

try not to give her your sound advice, you are by no means wrong, but you dont need the bull s@!? to go with that. sit back and think, if you mother in law has always had a filthy mouth, and only sees the negative in any good situation, then there is a high chance that situations in her life has lead her to truley believe these awfull things she says.

what has happened to her to hold strong ground on the crap she says, for instance, woman who has suffered traumatic relationships, will then always hold a strong belief that males are cutns (purpose mistake) if you cant try to ease her mind in seeing the lighter things in life, then water off a ducks back, dont snap, her points of view on life arnt yours to considerate.

for her to talk badly about your boys girl shows that she herself has experienced some form of pomiscuity whether herself or someone close. and is it really your biz if hes gettin down with a chic, hes 17, it wuld be cruel to force him to be a virgin>

as log as her parents dont mind your son staying over for nights and eating dinne there and banging there little girl, then who cares, kids are gonna be kids, and least hes gettin some in a comfy bed then in a uncomftorble park or car? right.

Answer 5

Sounds like the teenage pair are sensible enough to take precautions to prevent pregnancy.

Teenagers are going to have sex whatever the parents do to try and stop them - at least you know where he is.

Ignore your MIL or tell her what you think. If you can go out yourself too on Saturdays and leave hubby with mummy and give yourself a break.

Answer 6

Your son sounds fine and normal to me, and a good lad. He is nearly an adult in law (well UK where I live he is anyway). Ithink no harm in telling your mother in law that you are doing your best, your son is fine, and you don't want to listen to her comments and in future you will walk away when she starts saying such things.

Answer 7

older people like naggin all the time, because they've got nothing else to do....they usually think they know best...ignore her...can you do that?as you say you've done a good job raising your son, she can't tell you how to do it better...don't snapp, ignore her....

Answer 8

damn right! sounds like you have raised a normal lad who likes to spend time with his girlfriend so what if she`s got a past who hasn`t? especially i bet your mother in-law!

Answer 9

No its not bad that he stays at his gf house... Its better than him experimenting with drugs or being with numerous girls yah... Is she on any birth control though?