what is the best way to stop your toddler from running away from u when you call him?

Question

My 2 yr. old has stoped listening to me hes saying no and is being very hardheaded i know hes trying to see how far he can push me and i'm at the point were i want to spank him the only thing is i don't belive in hitting children, what can i do to get him to listen

he dose this when we r at home hes good when we r outside he loves to go 4 walks in his stroller its when he dose something bad & he knows hes in the wrong,thats when he shows off
and acts out this is a new thing that hes doing its like hes testing me

now one of the main problems is that he puts a lot of things in his mouth i know that is how they explore new things but you know as well as i do that babys pick up all kinds of things and most of the time they pick up small things that they can choke on now i am not a rookie at this i also have a teenage son and he did'nt act out as much as his little brother,the baby has a temper on him & he is very determand to do what he wants but i'm the boss and i need some ideas on punishments

Answer 1

Get a leash, that is way worst than spanking man will that upset him. Don't laugh, if he isn't willing to listen you have to do it, and hopefully he'll eventually realize the cause and effect... on the leash when bad... look I know it sounds bad... but really it'll work. especially if you dont want to spank.

Answer 2

What are you doing to make him run away?

What could you do to make him drawn towards you?

Most importantly,.. this is a phase that didn't exsist before and will pass.

BTW,.. those words tend to be what they hear the most. No just happens to be the clearest, loudest, most directed to them word that is most commonly pushed on toddlers. This is why they pick this,.. that and the reaction. Maybe you can teach from new words, sentences, and phrases with positive reinforcement, like "Candy, Please", "I feel hungry", "Potty".

I remember when I was a baby and when I was a toddler. I was VERY frustrated because I could not get my lungs and mouth to do things as well as an adult. It was hard to say things and find people that could understand me. My mom would tick me off by doing baby babble back at me when I was trying to have a conversation with her. You get very very frustrated. I also remember before I could communicate in English, there was a universal or nearly universal language between us babies. Unfortunately, I lost that in my teens,.. but I am very attentive so I can some times understand things a speedy tired parent wouldn't catch in a thousand tries. So try to find some visual communication tools.

Answer 3

The thing about the running kids and the yelling mom.
Try this before you become frantic.
Get in his face eye to eye. He knows more than you realize.
Tell him that you are tired of yelling at him.
Figure out some simple words. Write them out. the rules and conquences. (don't make it so hard that you can't keep your end of the deal) You little one can't read, but you read them and discuss it. point out the consequences. Make another chart of things he does good and those consequences which will be good. For instence if you go to the store and you remind him that if he tries to crawl out of the cart or if he fusses, he doens't get a vidio in the afternoon. Then tell him that if he is good he gets.....a little toy (some sort of reward)

You are laying the foundation of helping your little one deal with the world. tough as it is. You will also have a better teenager.

I know there are times to give a little spank.

Answer 4

I know how you feel, my 2 yr old boy has really hit the terrible twos lately.
I don't believe in hitting kids either but I discovered my boy hates an incredible hulk doll that my brother gave him last christmas.
I've put the doll away in the linen cupboard and when he is naughty or has a tantrum I'll say 'I'm gonna get the green man out' and he quickly changes his attitude and starts behaving or the tantrum will stop immediately.
I've even bought a smaller doll to carry in my handbag when we go out and for now I have a better behaved boy.
I'm fully aware that this method has a use by date and will have to think of something else eventually, but at least I don't spank him or have to use a 'naughty corner'.
Maybe you could find some object or activity that your son doesn't like and use it to your advantage.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I had to spank my daughter too, I don't like it either and I avoid it at all costs, but sometimes it's the only answer. My husband and I only had to spank her a few times before she undertood what she was doing wrong. Now we just say, come here or you're going to get a swat or time out, and she doesn't like either, so she listens. For the saying no, my daughter is also two and answers no to every question with a question mark at the end as she shrugs her shoulders :) We just pretend we didn't hear her say no, and if she does happen to say YES once she's sees saying no wasn't getting her anywhere, we get excited and praise her for saying yes, and obeying our wishes. Good Luck

Answer 7

At two yrs he is starting to want Independence and he testing these waters right now, you say that he runs from you at home, as long as this is in a safe environment -- DO Not chase him, ignore him as to him this may be a game, you should ensure that your home is relatively baby proof so you have little to worry about. You may also find this recent defiance is learnt from some one around you ? possible your elder son so it may be wise to keep in mind his behaviour around the little one, possibly asking him to mindful of how he talks and behaves, it may also be other children who are influencing his behaviour. The best thing is to avoid acknowledging his behaviour as he is looking for your reactions. Spanking a child only encourages violence and fear this will not be the answer to your problem.

Answer 8

The BEST way is to swat his behind - HARD - when he disobeys you.

But failing that, clear out a small space with no distractions and physically place him there when he misbehaves. Tell him what he did wrong and how long he'll be there. It will take longer than a properly administered spanking, but he will eventually get the idea.

Do it BEFORE he pushes you to your limit. The first time he disobeys, put him in his quiet space. Don't threaten, don't wait for the third time. That just teaches him that he can get away with misbehavior.

Answer 9

It depend if you use the stroller. If you do take him out and make him hold the pram/stroller letting him know if he runs he must go back in. Let him know he will be rewarded for staying next to you and punished for running away. They quickly catch on that they will be able to walk for good behaviour

Answer 10

my daughter will be two in december and i hate spanking her. but at times.. it must be done. if we are out and she isnt in the stroller i have a wrist leash that i put on her. it connects us at the wrist and gives her about a 2-3 foot gap to jump, dance, skip, twist, etc along the side of me while we are walking. they just need to burn off the energy and a wrist leash is the safest way to do it. i dont have to worry about her running away or running in front of a car. at home we have a time out chair that we put her in. if you havent used one before it will take a few days for him to get the idea. just set him down over and over and over again till he sets there for 2 min. its one min for each year in age. make sure when you let him get up that you get on his level and look him in the eye and tell him again what he did was wrong and tell him that its not going to be allowed. they understand more than you would think at that age. when our daughter is having a bad day we first use the time out chair... second offense the corner.. third she gets a spanking... and finally if she still is not behaving she has to lay down in bed with no tv or toys. we started to have problems with her at about 17 months old and i read somewhere that they should be getting at least 14 hrs of sleep total each day and my daughter was only sleeping 9 through the night and a 1 hour nap during the day. we started to lay her down for 3 hours before lunch.. wake her up to eat let her play and then let her take another 2 hour nap before dinner time. she was much happier throughout the day and it was great for me as well. i had a few hours to do housework and prepare lunch and dinner! good luck and hang in there.. dont let him run over you know cuz you are right, he is "testing his limits" with you. make sure you let him know that he isnt the boss... best of luck :)