My husband and I are having a debate over this issue. Our daughter is 27. Her boys are 4 and 6. They were at our house all 3 taking a bath together and we disagree on the appropriateness of this - even though she was wearing a suit.
2007-10-05 17:07:41 · 32 answers · asked by momof4 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
For the above situation to be inappropriate, one of the parties involved with the bath would have to be attracted to the other one in a sexual manner. Is that to say that you think something sexual is going on between this Mother and her two sons?
I should hope not!
Sharing a bath with a child is great bonding time. If these two children were girls then this question would never have been posted. I think the issue is that the kids are boys. Yes, they are boys, but they are also her BABY boys.
They are so lucky that their Mommy is so great that she is willing to climb into the tub with them and share a moment. Most Moms are too busy to do that.
It sounds like you both have raised a very loving, fun, playful, caring daughter. I think you should trust her judgment and let her parent her children in her own way. You had your chance with your kids, now let your daughter have hers.
2007-10-05 17:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy 3 · 13⤊ 0⤋
To some people, family baths are a bonding time. They are not viewed sexually or perverse.
The problem is there are alot of sick people out there and they use groups to try to fight what they fantasize all the time about. So the reality is the "religious people" are the biggest perverts and are only manipulateing true of faith to make people look the other direction.
No,.. there is nothing wrong with this. The bathing suit is further proof. She has to help them bath, many children are like that until their teens. What helps is to be in the tub, it prevents the feeling of being trapped and makes the tub a safe comfortable place.
What happened here (in the USA) is the Bath Houses became synonamous with gay men and HIV and AIDS (which some people still believe is only passed along through homosexual activities). The Bath Houses went through alot of problems and eventurally shut down. There are still things like Bath Houses in Spas, Gyms, YMCA,.. etc, but not as clean ( so actually more people are getting sick from these places,.. the Bath Houses were focused on clean.)
Bath Houses still exsist in other Countries. Japan is a good place for examples. Parents, children, and siblings bath together at home as well as other places. Friends bath with Friends (that happens here often enough). There are other factors to other things. Once you have children a certain age it may be a preference to wear certain things or certain towels while bathing together.
If you disprove of the current combonation, then maybe their grandfather would like to attempt to bath them. You may find out these are Anti-Bath boys. Some times there are additional factors. Some children have nightmares they will be sucked down the drain and the only way they feel safe is if someone is constantly there to grip onto and someone else is there they can see is not being sucked in or that will stop the drain if it tries to eat them. These dreams actually strike people at any age but children responde differently to Nightmares then more seasoned/experienced adults XD
Some times children have problems they cannot communicate that make them feel weird in water, like an inner ear infection effecting their balance or a weak bladder infection. There are also some people that have their brain not set up right for a short period and they devolope irrational fears of baths, pools, and/or water (hopefully temperorially). It is helpful for some of these cases if they see people that can trust are safe in water, especially water they must deal with the most like sea, baths, or clear glasses... this way they can complete devolopement with the proper understanding of these waters ( they are good, no reason to fear,.. otherwise if they are given negativity towards them they may have a fear for the rest of their lifes with no cure).
2007-10-05 22:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by sailortinkitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think it's okay, not inappropriate. I wouldn't say it's necessary "normal" though especially not if she always does it, but it depends on the circumstances. Sometimes children ask for a bath with the parent and see it as being fun. Or some people had a close call of drowning in the bath. In some cultures it's very common for families to all bathe together, like in other cultures people go swimming altogether...
2007-10-07 16:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm .. if you are in a bathing suit -- I don't consider that "taking a bath" .. because there are necessary parts that need to be cleaned that are covered up by the bathing suit.
That to me is the same as going into the hot tub (or swimming pool) .. NOT taking a bath.
Anyway, if she is in a bathing suit .. I don't see a problem with it? What's the difference between them being in the bathtub together [in swim wear] or being in the swimming pool together? all the necessary parts are covered ..
2007-10-05 20:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy of One 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
she should be monitering the children any way. But bathing together is not wrong. Nudity is fine as not done in a sexual manner. It seems strange to me that kids on the farm view animals having sex all the time and know exactly what it is all about yet are hidden from human sexuallity which is not that different. I have vieded this for many years and find the kids that had seen nudity and whos parents were open about love and sex were more open to other things and opportunities. They seen to think on their own a little more. and did not seem to chase the opposite gender their peers did
2007-10-05 17:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Tim P 2 · 12⤊ 0⤋
It's totally alright! The kids would love it. It'd be like a miniture pool to them. There is nothing at all wrong with it since she is wearing a bathing suit.
2007-10-06 02:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by Pistachio 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a 7 year old. He has started to notice that mommy has different parts than him. I would feel uncomfortable bathing with him. I do not however feel uncomfortable if he is nude around me or if he walks in while I am changing. I do not even care one iota if he comes into the bathroom with me while I am bathing. It is all a matter of if it makes you or the child uncomfortable. I know when I feel uncomfortable and I know when my child feels uncomfortable. I am his Mom. I spend the most time with him. Sometimes when he walks in and I am changing he walks back out and shuts the door, other times he comes and tells me what he wants me to know. There is nothing wrong with taking a bath with them if she doesn't feel uncomfortable. End of Story.
2007-10-05 18:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly ok! Were the 3 of them happy sharing that time together? Did any one of them appear to be uncomfortable? I would still think it is ok even if she was not wearing a bathing suit.
I can't imagine why anyone would think it was INappropriate.
2007-10-05 17:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
What is the world coming to when people have to judge others for situations, that 100 years ago, nobody would have thought anything of it. At that age, the kids still need to be supervised to make sure they get clean. Why shouldn't mom be able to make it fun by sharing bath time with her children.
2007-10-05 18:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by Promised Attitude 2 · 12⤊ 0⤋
not something in any respect is misguided with this. She is wearing a journey, so as that covers the physique subjects. from time to time my daughter and that i take baths jointly in basic terms for the heck of it. she would be ready to play together with her toys and that i will ensure a e book. this is relaxing to spend the time jointly. we live in northern Minnesota, so exterior swimming pools are not an selection this time of 365 days. Our jacuzzi tub is a huge selection as quickly as we are feeling the cabin fever.
2016-10-21 04:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by gustavo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋