^Why do i hate on my mom and dad so much already??

Question

Plizz take a minute n read. * It's not normal for me..saying these words, but think how u would feel n help. :
I mean..honestly, i really dont care about them anymore. The only reason i live with them is beccause i have to. Well, its because im goin to college, and i work in a pharmacy for a couple of hours.from 12:00 to 4:00. I am 19 by the way.
-- As you can imagine..thats not gonna bring me that much money to move out or anything. I mean i have -No plans of moving yet..cuz i know that i wont survive a day bymyself..n again thats because of the money. I have a sister who is 24, n will be getting engaged very soon, so shes got her life all planned already. ,Oh god..i dont know what to do anymore..my education is really important to me. I wanna finish that first.
--There is of course a reason why i say all this. Its because they dont give me a chance for Anything.

I have my driver's lisence for a year already..n they dont let me drive..unless one of them is with me. Only that way. As my relatives..n frieds say..its because they care about me a lot. But cmann..i dont think so. :( I feel like im a sick kid or something. Why da hell would i ask Them to take me somewhere..when im 19..adult. My friends are all having fun..n it makes me feel so sad..when my 16 or 17 year old friends say.."its ok hun..ill come pick u up..n we'll go here" or "where ever u need to go..jst let us know" Please help .! Thank u so much.

I FIND ALL THE ANSWERS SOO FAKE. SOME WORDS..THAT U HAVE JUST LEARNED TO KEEP IN YOUR MINDS...WITHOUT TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION.
--i MEAN I STILL DO HAVE A LOOOTT OF RESPECTC FOR THEM. i still love them. but i dont like them--as people.
-I LOVE THEM BECAUSE I HAVE TO. IM USED TO THEM. But when it comes to my happiness...their minds are empty to think about what they can cdo 2 make me happy. Besides the frikin "Education".

Answer 1

You need to stop and re evaluate this situation. You don't make enough to make it on your own, so you have to live at home. So, who is paying all the bills for you to stay at home? Could it possibly by your Mom and Dad? Think about them. Maybe there are things they would like to do also, but they put your needs before theirs. Personally, I think you're being a little selfish. As a parent, we have needs also, but we will give up almost anything for our children. You should think about this situation and be more grateful to your parents. My children were 5 years apart and if they had not chosen to continue their education, Dad & I could have gone on a lot more vacations and had a lot more luxuries, but their education was more important than any of those things. Your parents probably feel the same way.

Answer 2

First of all you don't hate your Mum and Dad. You are so close to being fully independent and yet so far away from it. Changes are happening your sister is getting engaged and has a 'life' and you are still 'stuck' at home, with rules.
Parents sometimes need to be shown you can be responsible and not 'need' so many 'external' rules. How do you do this? You take on some of the daily tasks around the house, keep your room tidy and your music at a reasonable level. You don't get 'huffy' when they talk to you and honestly, you don't know everything yet and neither do they.
Relax and learn from your parents those things that will stand you in good stead in the future.
Find out how much it costs to run the household budget and draw up a budget for yourself from this. Why? So when you do move out you wont be 'surprised' by how expensive it is. Make up a budget for what you earn now eg save at least 10%, presents, movies, treats, clothes, etc. and show it to your parents Why? so they can see you are being financially responsible.
Enjoy this time of your life and get your education because in reality you will never have it this easy once you are responsible for yourself.

Answer 3

At 19, they have you staying with them working only 4 hours a day and going to college and you think they aren't giving you a chance???? I put myself through college. I worked full time, paid for an apartment and all my bills, and went to school full time. ALOT of people do that. This is the only problem you list, but I'm assuming there are more. Good luck. Focus on the big picture. If you really didn't like your situation, you could move on. you could get a roommate and easily pay your bills and such.

Answer 4

I am sure you feel like that now being young and all but you have admitted on yourself that you basically need them because they take care of you. You have a job but I'm sure that is only to buy extra things for yourself. They pay for clothes, food and school. They might be a lil' overprotective but they do all these things because they love you. There are parents who dont love their children, who dont put a roof over their head or feed them and couldn't give a damn about them. I know its not what you want to hear but think about it. There are people out there who have been abused, physically, emotionally and sexually by their own parents. You might have it a lil' better than you think!

Answer 5

I think you already answered your own question. What do you mean by, "they don't give me a chance for anything? It just sounds like you really want to be out on your own, probably need to be out on your own. It sounds like you are feeling trapped. Have you applied for financial aid at your college? Also have you looked into having roommates. That would help financially. You are living at home, but you have really already left in your mind. You probably resent the fact that you have to be still with your parents. How much longer do you have to be in college?

Is there someway to assert your independence to your parents in a way they will understand? Maybe they need to let their controls down...you are 19!

Good luck, and don't despair!

Answer 6

You need to re-think what giving you a chance means. If they provide you with a home, food, the ability to go to school, money for books, etc, then I would say they are giving you quite a big chance for something.

Even if you just live there and pay for school yourself, thats still a big chance.

Re-evaluate the situation. Good luck.

Answer 7

well the best you can do is keep doing what you are doing and you will get everything you want, as for your parents, hate is a very very strong word and i don't think you mean that you hate them, it just sounds like you want things to move faster and they are not, which is good. paying all the bills is definitely more responsibility than staying at your parents and paying close to nothing or nothing at all, so show some gratitude rather than attitude you need them right now - good luck

Answer 8

ok...well u said u have an older sister,maybe they are trying to hold on to u as long as they can.im the yungest in my family.im almost 19and im living with my mom.my mom was like that untill i sat down with her and talked to her about it.we made some compromises.ask them if u can go out sometimes as long as ur back by a certain time,tell them that u are working and going to school,and ur gonna keep doing that,but u just want to have a life of your own also.let them know that they did raise u right and ur gonna be responsible.make some deals with them.your parents do love you and they do care more then anything.they just seem a little TOO over protective.but if they didnt care about u then you would be out on the streets.if they didnt care then you wouldnt have food in ur stomach,a roof over ur head,a bed,blankets,and pellows.just sit down with them and try to work something out.and start saving up to move out on ur own.good luck and hope it all works out for ya

Answer 9

Our younger family members don't drive either unless they are paying the way through car, gas and insurance, once you have all that under controll hey knock yourself out.

You have admitted to using your parents for a place to stay because you can't handle things by yourself.
You sound spoiled and need to grow up and see how lucky you are.
Want more freedom by a moped.

Answer 10

Please don't say you hate your parents. They may be overprotective or controlling but they sound like they care very much for you. Some parents kick their kids out at 18 to fend for themselves. Have you tried to talk (not yell or scream) to them as an adult? Do you have your own car? Have you done anything to make your parents not believe you will be responsible? Think about these questions and answer them honestly.