how do you get over commitment issues?

Answer 1

I guess first you have to be able to identify what it is exactly that you are afraid of. Most people qualify just about everything as "fear of commitment" :)
When you know specifically what it is you deal with it accordingly.

Example: If your afraid of feeling trapped, then you need to find someone who is laid back, has good communication skills & similar wants and needs as you.
How can you feel trapped if your with someone who-
1: you enjoy being with &
2: they want just as much "alone" time as you do?

It's all about really knowing yourself and what you need & finding the right person!

Good luck to you :)

Answer 2

Using analisis.

Like everything in life you must first STOP. yes, stop all lines of thought. When we are confronted with a situation the first thing we do is hide behind the wall of emotions. Nothing wrong with that we are built to react this way. However, we must not let emotions control us. So #1 stop your line of though and try to calm down.

#2 try to get to the root of the problem. Example, make a list of reasons to commit and reasons not to commit. For example, why would you not want to commit. What will you loose if you do not commit and what will you gain? By the same token ask what the possible outcomes will be if you do commit. What could happen? What are the reprecaustions. Remember list the bad things but also list the good things.

#3 take a break and do something else so that you can comeback and think clearly. Perhap a snack?!

#4 ok, look over the data. Take a look at the reasons to commit vs the reasons not to commit. See if there any reason why commiting is not a good idea. An example not to commit to lets say a contract is that the contract is unfair. The contract may ask you that you will only get 10% of all your artistic income for the next 20 years. thats a good reason not to commit. If we are talking about a person then it maybe something like is the person abusive. Is the person reliable? If so, how unreliable? Questions to consider for commiting can be things like is there a real reason to not commit besides the fear of commitment itself?

#5 make a decision.

#6 later on in life and this time may vary evaluate your results you have obtained from your desicion. Example, if it turns out the person was a bastard then you can still get out. Or if by not commiting are you better off than if you would had?

The thing is that we fear what we do not know and or understand. Ina commitment we fear what might happen because we are launching ourself into an unknown. It can work out or it may fail miserably. However, with some analisys we can atlest try to determine if it is worth the risk. If it is then why not try it. Is the risk is noth worth it then is a good thing you found out without signing on the line.

Answer 3

Grow up

Answer 4

Time.

Answer 5

you have to grow up and find the person that is right for you