I'm not prepared for my grandmother's death..?

Question

She's around 76. She's always there for me and i can trust her with anything. Whenever i wanted to go to the movies she would offer to take us to another city to see the movie.
She always did whats best for us.
A couple of years ago my grandma had a heart attack. She survived.
Last year, around this time, she had another heart-attack and survived that. She became so worried she wrote her whole will in the middle of the night.
Last Thurs. She had a stroke. She was released that day.
Yesterday (Thurs, one week later) she had ANOTHER stroke.
She was supposed to leave the hospital today but had to stay longer...she also has diabetes (as discovered last year)
I know she has today sometime. I'm really close with her and so's my niece. By the way i'm only 13, and i'm afraid about my niece also and how she'll react.
I'm really not prepared for my grandmothers death. What should i do?

Answer 1

First of all, no one is prepared when anyone they are close to dies. They might think they are, but they aren't. The thing that you should do is keep your Grandma in your prayers and visit with her as much as possible. Sometimes just seeing people they love helps the sick and injured. Death is part of life. I wish I could tell you some magic secret that would make it easier to deal with, but there isn't one.

Answer 2

Hey I understand where you are coming from my GrandMother made the journey(died)when she was 76. I saw it coming about 5 to 7 years before it happened and at first it made me sad. A week after she passed I felt like life couldn't go on for me. So I went and talked with a preacher who told me that at times the only anwser is time. From the day that we are born the clock of life starts ticking. We are born grow from childhood into adulthood then into old age and then we die. This is very sad its true but this is the way of things. We start out on our path and people join us along the way. We see these people and we realize they are human but we think they will always be around. The thing about it is that the people who we start out on our journey sometimes leave before we do or we want them too. This makes us very sad. What we have to come to understand is this that person may not have wanted to leave us but the body couldn't take the wear and tear on it anymore. So just like at night we go to sleep to rest our body has to return to the Earth to rest. The thing about it is this that person will never be far away from you(there are times when I wish my Grandmother was here because she was my biggest supporter and like your is she was always there for me.) You and you alone have to come to a point within yourself that says I love my GrandMother enough that when the time comes I will love her enough to let go. This is not to say that its forever just for a while. I promise your heart will mend in time and your joy will return. When you get confused and don't know which way to go and you feel confused and alone then remember the things she taught you and the love she had for you and she will be right there. When the time comes and your grandmother isn't here in the flesh realize she is with you in spirit and no more than a whisper away. Right now what you need to do is to go to her and let her know how you feel. She is in need of a healing so to speak. The healing that I am speaking of is this let her know that you will always carry her love for you on the inside and let her know in the days ahead you will always remember her. I believe this will heal your and her spirit. I do want to say in closing that this may not sound eloquent or beautiful but I hope that I have said somethings that have touched your spirit in a good way. Each day take her love with you. Hold it close and never let it go.

Answer 3

The only way to deal with death is prayer.
I don't know of anyone who can prepare for the death of a loved one and not be affected.
Just be sure to let grandmother know and hear you say "I love you"....peace and God bless to all of you..

Answer 4

Hon.. there is no way to prepare yourself for your grandmothers death.. there is always hope.. and where there is hope there is life.. you must try to keep your hope going... for your grandmas sake...try to think positive... dont count her out yet... you dont want her to think she is dying.. and she would not want you to be sad......just be yourself.... and continue to love her........its never easy to say goodbye...but I believe a soul never dies...and you will see her again someday... remember that......