What is something (or, who is someone) that you could not bear to lose?

Question

And why?

If you answer that losing a special someone would be unbearable, have you taken the time to let them know just what they mean to you?

If not, why haven't you done so?

And yes, I am just as guilty. I wonder why we do this.

Milomax...I don't think any reason is good enough. This is a failing we all seem to have as human beings.

Such beautiful answers. Thank you all.

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Answer 1

too late i lost my fiancee 8 months ago i still miss her and think of her every day

Answer 2

I would be lost without my family and son. I haven't told my Dad or my brother and sister, yet. I talked to my Mom, a little about getting older, etc. My son is 13 (Oct 26) so no I haven't talked about loosing him, well sort of did when he moved with his mother to Costa Rica. I was worried and talked about it, now I know he remembers me and all that stress is gone.
I do not like anyone I know leaving R&S because of %^$@ people, as they know the rules and do not break them.
I'm actually glad to see a question from you - so I can say hi, (illegally). Here in R&S I miss my contacts and favourites, been here a year so I have quite a list (hand written before contact list was made). I guess Pangel was deleted so I'm jonesing for a hug, I bet many are, kinda jittery here. Oh, pushing the limits here, into chatting.
If I knew how hard my contacts pushed the limits - while I'm not here (yes, I am not here 24/7) then I guess everyday I would tell them how good they make my day with their wit and care of others.

I do not have a 'thing', except my truck, that I feel strongly for. (And then that's just for fast reliable transportation, not a truck thing.) Plenty of Naval training on living without 'things' being underwater. So I value talking and interacting with people.

Lastly I could not bear loosing my community/state/country, warts and all, as I have grown very fond of doing and saying what I want, and other freedoms.
Peace.

Answer 3

I could not bear to lose my relationship with Jesus.

In the natural world I would hate to lose so very many. I have already lost both parents, a sister, and a husband.
The man I am married to now, though the grief would be great I have absolute confidence we would be reunited in heaven.
I let my loved ones know how greatly I appreciate and love them on a regular basis. Still maybe not often enough.

Ray, my heart goes out to you for your loss. And others that I may not have seen. It is so difficult to go through.

Answer 4

I think the French song "Ne me quitte pas" expresses this concept perfectly.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEAGoLHMMoA&feature=PlayList&p=CAF91FF573E09628&index=0

It tells a person that if you leave me, I am nothing. It ends by saying that I'll even be glad to be "the shadow of your shadow; the shadow of your hand, the shadow of your dog"!

We can love someone because we admire who the person is, what the person does and we can be like him or her in some way. But love is not total dependence on someone else. One does not become a carpet to be walked on because he or she loves another. To admit to that means to tell the other person that we are nothing, usable and disposable people who can even be exploited, abused, commanded. No person of dignity would enjoy being in relationship with someone who is so lacking in self esteem to be content to be just "a shadow of someone else's shadow."

That's probably why it's not a good idea to let someone know that we feel that way and it is a good idea to re-assess why we feel so miniscule while raising the other to a supernatural status.

If someone should says to us that we are everything in the world and one could not live without us, our ego is unrealistically inflated. We really don't believe the person is making a rational assessment and we lose respect instead of gaining love.

Answer 5

My mom, my dad, and my brother. And I tell them I love them about every day when I get off the phone or I leave the house--and I often express how much they mean to me in roundabout terms ("I don't think I'd be able to survive without you guys", or "I'd like to live in England, but I don't think I could handle being so far away from my family"). I don't know why I don't outright tell them how much they mean to me...it's really not something that you think about saying randomly. You have to have the right time to say things like that, or your family might think you're suicidal.

"You do know how much I love you, right? And that losing you would be unbearable to me?"

"I love you too but...are you all right? Is something wrong?"

Answer 6

my children and husband
and yes I have told them ...

with children it is innocent reminders....
for instance my 6 year old just loves the film Annie , and she is always saying that she is glad she has a mum and doesnt want to be adopted
I remind her that I wouldnt give her up for the world and she tells me back that she loves me and that I am the best mum in the world

with my husband it goes deeper
he has been at deaths door so many times and without going into detail , knows all too well that he means the world to me and without him I would only feel like only half a person
he is the other half of me

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goodness I am sitting in tears at some of these answer

Answer 7

Well my brother and I ALWAYS getting into big fights over absolutely nothing...and I even told him once I hoped he died...

of course my mom yelled at me, and he stormed out of the house...

But the other day I was driving along and I just thought about him being dead and I couldn't control myself. It was that strong of emotion, now I know that I shouldn't take family for granted and love every minute I'm with them.

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Ray, I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 8

My children and my husband. They are what makes life worth living, for me. They give me so much love, I don't think I could handle it if they were ripped away from me.

I'm probably guilty of not letting them know how much they mean to me. I hope that they can feel my love for them the way I feel their love for me.

Answer 9

I'm goofy affectionate with my family and friends...there really isn't a time when I talk to them or see them that I don't say I love them or at least act in a loving manner.

I should call my brother more though....thanks for reminding me!

Answer 10

My husband. And when I have one, a son. That's why you must live as if each day was your last, because someday it will. Let the ones you cherish know you love them and care for them, and not assume foolishly that they know that already.

Answer 11

A couple of my friends. I hope they know. I'm not the most expressive person, but I try to let my feelings show through my actions.