okay, to start with I'm a Christian! you can criticize all you want but that's not why i'm here. i need help! okay, so i like this guy, let's call him V, and he likes me back, he's also a Christian! we have been friends, and agreed to stay friends even after we shared our feelings, for about a year now and we just goof around and have fun! i recently met another guy who, let's call him M, i also like and he likes me. they both are Christians and really love God and they both respect me and i really like em both. do i go with V, who i've told almost everything about me and got depressed b/c i didn't call or email him, or M, who seems to be one of the most awesome HILARIOUS Christians i've met,? PLEASE HELP ME!!!! If ya need more information please just ask. I've really prayed about it and I haven't seen an answer from God. He may not give me one but I know that He IS the answer and I pray that He will bless each one of you who look at this or answer! THANK YOU!!!!!
2007-10-05 15:10:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay when i said M was hilarious i meant that they both are hilarious. they both make me laugh and i really love em both! but that's just my Christian perspective i guess but anyways. if i did choose to be with M how would i keep any PROBLEMS between them NOT about me. c they will be playing basketball together and that means practices to talk and i just don't want anything to go wrong there. i mean it's just a bunch of junk. i hate that one of them is goin to be without someone they like but i just can't drag them both along and say i like both of them. that's just horrible. and M just got out of a relationship with a girl who was cheatin on him w/ his friend. i don't want that to happen. i mean if M and V become friends that's great but i don't want any problems. well if that makes sense could you possibly give ur input. sorry for all the problems. GOD BLESS!!!!!
2007-10-05 16:24:13 · update #1
If V has been depressed because you haven't contacted him, I wonder if it might be best for you to just remain good friends while you pursue a relationship with M. I'm sure you don't want to hurt V and if he isn't content with the amount of contact that you have with him, it wouldn't be a bad idea for him to go out and find someone who is able to call or email him more often.
I'm confident that you'll be able to identify what the right thing is to do when the time comes, God bless you!
2007-10-05 15:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you are asking for a Christian perspective on this. When you put God first, He will honor that and show you His perfect plan for your life. I have the same trouble. When it comes to relationships, I pray and pray, and often times never receive an answer. The answer God gives me often just shows up in the circumstances He allows. Then I look back and understand what was supposed to happen. Just keep trusting in Him. He may not show up when or in the way you want Him to, but He's promised to never leave or forsake you. Don't get so caught up in finding "the one" either. That will come in time too. Have fun and enjoy yourself and don't get upset over it. Keep Proverbs 10:22 in mind: The blessing of the Lord makes one rich and He adds no sorrow with it. Be blessed.
2007-10-05 22:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by fhfan731 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to keep them both as friends until you make the decision yourself which would make you happier over the long run. Perhaps God's answer is that they are both there for you to make your choice. I could add I suppose that although M is hilarious, so is Jim Carey and even Jay Leno at times but neither would be a good choice in a relationship for you but are better enjoyed from afar. It may even be that God sent V to you for companionship and M to see if you kept looking for something better to come along. It is a choice you have to make and God can only offer the raw materials for a good relationship and it is up to you to use that material to build what you will from them. I pray your choice is right and you have a life of happiness.
2007-10-05 22:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God has a set path in life for all of us, but at the same time he gives us free will. Its time for you to steer the wheel now. Because yu prayed about it, God will asist you in your decision making, but you have to make the ultimate choice. Both guys seem to be really cool guys, and they both love the lord. What more could you ask for?
So heres my advice. Follow your Heart. Which one do you see yourself being the most content with? If it is gods will, then everything will work out perfectly.
2007-10-05 22:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by *~*Gettin' Hyphee*~* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you like both of these boys then maybe you should just think about which one you would want to end up with. I mean, I think you would know which one to date if they really were the 'one'. So, maybe you should wait, and see. Maybe, in the end, god will give you a sign
2007-10-05 22:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by headmelon22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, honestly i think you should stay with the guy you have right now, since he does like you back,(right?) ok anyway well that must be a hard situation because they're both christian, well i know god will answer, just have faith and he'll lead you throughâ¥
2007-10-05 22:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by cute as a button!.♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God will answer in his time, not yours. keep praying about it and hey God has blessed you with two great guys. enjoy them.
2007-10-05 22:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which one gives you the warmest feelings inside? Just give yourself some time beofre you choose either one.
2007-10-05 22:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you like both then find out which has more benefits (not in the sexual way, but the loves you more has more care for you ect.)
2007-10-05 22:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋