I overheard my mother in law talking about my husband and I on the telephone. I told him about it and he confronted her. She apologized and now they are speaking. It's been 2 weeks already but she won't really talk to me unless I speak to her 1st and when she does it's with an attitude. I've had it, I'm ready to flip the script on her.
2007-10-05 14:57:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You listened to a private conversation and expect her to be ok with it? She's allowed her feelings. Apparently she's not wrong about you.
2007-10-05 15:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you can really talk out of this one. Did you already say you'd come? Maybe make plans and say you are busy lol. There is no polite way of saying someones cooking is bad. Just try to go there for dinner the least amount of times possible. Maybe you could try cooking with her, just a suggestion. Another thing you could do is ask your husband to help you out with this dilemma. Good luck!
2016-05-17 07:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Politics being what they are... I say suck up to her. That way, the more she tries to be nasty to you or behind your back, the dumber and more petty she'll look, not you. Kill her with kindness for a few years at least. Otherwise this will go on and on, and ultimately what she wants is for her son to take her side. There is a strange bond between mother and son. Mother always wants the son to favor her over the wife. I don't know what it is, but it really really sucks.
2007-10-05 15:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by scout out 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea to flip the script on her. In the respect for your husband. You had every right to discuss what you over heard on the phone. Your husband is your family.
When she drives her nasty attitude toward you, its best to ignore her. This is the trap she throwing at you. She would be please for you to initiate an argument so she can tell your husband about it, by making it your fault.
What's more important is your beautiful family, so keep focus on them and let this past. When she comes over to visit keep a bright smile on your face. It might drive her crazy...God bless
2007-10-05 15:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a baby she is. Kind of controlling, eh? Well you can take the high road and speak to her first. Forgive her for being a brat but don't forget it either.
You could just things go on like they are and put more bad feelings and distrust out there.
Seriously, with the holidays right around the corner, I would just talk to her first. I wouldn't bring up the subject and I would just let it go. You will feel much better when you do.
2007-10-05 15:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by T H 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok, i did for about 17 years and all it got me was a slap in the face and a " i wish you were dead". most ( and i did say most) MILs are trouble for almost every married woman. you naturally want to get along with the rude nosey old bags, but they make it impossible. i finally told my husband that i have had enough of this sh*t and they ( most of his relatives including mommy dearest) could all just go f*ck themselves. and now i don't even bother.
2007-10-05 15:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a good question. do you feel you were wrong to mention it to your hubby? if so, you may keep the door open for a civil relationship with her again - but i wouldn't suck up to her at all. if you feel you did nothing wrong then develop the attitude that you don't give a rat's *** what she thinks. don't chew her out, but don't give her much of your time or attention either. just live your life in spite of her as if you are not bothered at all by her.
she is acting like a child and when children act like this we don't give in, or even give them attention. when she sees she is getting no reaction from you she will eventually give up her childish grudge. good luck to you.
2007-10-05 15:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember the old saying about keeping your friends close but your enemies closer? I keep my MIL very close just to keep my eye on her....I don't trust her as far as I can spit. So suck it up,be nice but don't let her get to you.
2007-10-05 15:22:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is angry at you I think cause you got her in trouble. Now she is having a hissy fit pout session. Don't fall into it. Let her have her pout session and come to you.
2007-10-05 17:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by kickindevilbutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that you should remember before you do that is. That is your husbands mother you have to show respect to her. Even if she doesn't show respect to you. But just pull her aside and ask her what are her problems with you. And just talk about it with one another.. Let her say how she feels and then you say how you feel.
2007-10-05 15:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by Shizzy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't really like your inlaw from what you've written. but, it's never good to have problems with relatives. so go ahead and just suck up. what could it hurt?
2007-10-05 15:01:33 · answer #11 · answered by dazedandconfused 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋