HELP!!! trouble with guys?

Question

Hey, i need ur advice. c all the guys think im cute but none of the guys like me. i dont get that. theres only one guy at mi skool that likes me and he happens 2 b the wierdest guy on the planet. and he gets sent 2 the principals office every day. but i like them bad... lol jk! hes a jerk and UGLY!!! ewww!!! anyways... so any advice?? how do i win them over?

signed,

frustrated and confused

Answer 1

just try to say something to him

Answer 2

You assume that beauty is the only thing there is of a person. By your logic a person who is not attractive can never achieve anything. We know better since the people that run the country are usually the least attractive. That is not to say that beauty is a bad thing. If you are lucky enough to have beauty that people admire then great. Use that and be appreciative of it. However, this is not enough. You said it yourself, that you are pretty yet, no boy would come towards you. This can only mean that there is something about you that turns off people. It could be many things. It is really hard to say because I don't know you. However, from experience I can give some hints. Things that turn people off are, bad attitude. It is one thing to be cool and another to be hatefull. If you mistreat people people will run aay from you. Nobody wants to be mistreated so, why would they put themselves in that situation. There could be a lack of emotional connection. Yes, I can look at a girl and think wow she is hot. But, then I may start talking to her and find out we have nothing in common. If we have nothing in common then what is the point? A question to ask onceself is how approacheable I am (by this I mean you). LEts look at the two Jessicas for this one. On the left we have Jessica Beil. On the right we have Jessica alba. To me Biel has the hotter body. Alba is too skiny for my taste. However, it appears that Biel is not an approacheable person. I mean I don't know these people. I can anly assume. The thing is that Biel seems like if you don't agree with her ways then you are not worthy. Maybe it is not this way but, that is what it seems like and perseption is very important. On the other hand Alba seem like the kind of person you can meet on the street and say hi and she will smile at you and say hi back. Again, who knows for real right. It is perception. Maybe Alba is the biggest Bitc? in the world but on tv she looks like an aproacheable person.

The thing with dating and flirting is that both men and woman have some stereotipical roles that really have not changed through the ages. Even in the animal kingdom both sexes play a certain role. The short version is that men like to play the persecutioner while girls like to play the goal. However, what most people fail to realize is that is the girl that chooces and not the guy. You see the male does his dance and display much like a bird would show his plumeage and song to a female bird. The female then shows interest or not. According to how well the song is she can then say yay you are cool or Nei go away creep. So, to be successfull at this and you being a girl you have to play the passive agresive role. Your role is to show a little bit of interest. Not too much though. You have to show enough interest so that the guy gets the courage to pursue you. Don't make the game too easy but also, don't make the game too hard. If he shows some interest then you let him pursue you. Then you reward him with more interest. For example, on the first day you notice he was looking at you so maybe you give him a quick smile. MAybe he takes a hint and finds the courage to talk to you. Ok lets say that on another day you go on a date. You see nothing official. Maybe just lunch. If the date was successfull and he should be trying to make it successful then you reward him by indicating that hey!!! maybe another date would be fun. So, again, he gets the courage to ask you on another date. So, on and so forth little by little.

Answer 3

well maybe u r cute but saying hes ugly is bad carma so be sweet and ur good carma may come back as the perfect boy u never no best of luck luv maybe u just havent meet a goodenuf one yet.

Answer 4

dear frustrated and confused,

i am not an expert on romantic affairs, but what i can say is that mabey you need to lighten up and try to be less harsh towards people. i always say that you should kill them w/ kindness, and i do not mean to judge you, but based on the paragraph you just wrote you seem to treat this kid who likes you pretty harshly... now that may be rightly diserved, but mabey the opposite sex would find you more approachable if you lightened up alittle bit,

best of luck

Answer 5

uhm, just talk to them and act cute and flirt a lot.....♥