We are both Marines in California, and have been deeply in love for a year now. He is not the kind of man to show his emotions , but in the past few months he has opened up to me so much and tells me as to how he feels about "us". He told me that he never wants to be with any other woman and wants me to be the mother of his children. Everything he talks about is including "us" and the future he wants us to have. He told me that being with me is like "finally coming home!". He says he never wants to lose me and if I did it would crush him for the rest of his life. He said if he lost me his world would end. He asked me to move in with him so that we can finally get our life started and have a solid foundation for our lives. Doe it seem to you that he wanting to propose to me or am I just misreading the things he is talking about? He has talked about marriage as well and did say he wants me to be the woman he will marry in the future
2007-10-05 14:07:19 · 25 answers · asked by one Life to live 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we have know each other for 3 years dated one, i am 36 he is 30, and we both have masters degrees
2007-10-05 16:41:01 · update #1
Before my answer, like the other person stated "Thank you" for serving America.
OK, so my answer now. It does sound like there is a deep committment, love, and respect for each other. And sometimes you just KNOW when he's the right one in a matter of jsut a few months. But one year is not a long time. You still need to build and grow your relationship. Enjoy exactly what you are doing now-dating, still learning about each other. Moving in with someone is a HUGE step! And think about if you're moving in for the right reasons.
It still may take your guy time to build the confidence to actually propose. Don't pressure him-if it is meant to be, it will happen when the timing is right.
I just KNEW that after 4 months of dating, I was going to marry my BF. Well it took 4 years later to propose! Then we lived each other for one full year-then we got married. Still together for 14 years-but he always reminds me of how much I nagged for a proposal. He always had it in his mind that when it was going to happen, it would be the right timing.
All the best to you and your future with your special guy.
2007-10-05 14:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure of how close relationship you have with him. Meaning, if you both had sex already, then his talk could be a little bit more on the serious side. If you did not have sex yet, then his talk could be just to get into your pants.
So, if you already had sex, it could be meaning that he is serious and this could be a step towards the right direction. Although it comes to me like he is a cautious person and hence trying to have you move in first to see if he can live with you. If such is the case, give it a shot but dont come to conclusion that he will propose sometime soon. It could be a long haul, given that you already moved in. Other suggestion is to talk about it with him. Maybe, setting an expectation that you dont want to waste your time with him if he is not thinking of marriage and a timeline as to when you both would be comfortable to get married. :). I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
2007-10-05 21:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by vnj 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Based on what you write, I think this will lead to a proposal, but it's impossible to say when. Could be next month, next year, or maybe 10 years down the road. Before moving in, I suggest asking what is his time frame for marriage. You don't want to get stuck in a living together indefinitely situation.
2007-10-05 21:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he will propose eventually but he's not planning on proposing soon. The old sayings are pretty much true though. Guys will plod along if you let them and be perfectly happy about it.
I wouldn't move in with him until you get the proposal. I lived with my fiancee for 3 years and the whole time he talked about how great it would be to get married, even made some plans. It wasn't until he relocated for his job and I let him know I wasn't following unless we were ACTUALLY getting married that he finally got it in gear and proposed.
2007-10-05 21:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely tough when you're in a situation with military significant others. I find that all emotions are amplified. It probably means that at SOME point he'll want to marry you, but it doesn't necessarily mean that he'll be marrying you any time soon. You said it's been a year, wait another or two and see where you are and if your relationship is strong enough to last through the stress of being in the military.
2007-10-05 22:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if all goes well, he will propose someday in the future. Not necessarily now. Since he wants you to move in with him he is obviously taking the steps towards that, but it does not mean it is coming right away. Live with him first, see how you guys get along together 24/7, then take it more seriously when you see you get along fine. Good luck!
2007-10-05 21:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by mrr86 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well he hasn't asked you..yet. Move in with him if that is what you choose and if he feels that things are going good, then he will probably propose. But don't move in and avoid problems, (since little things might come up, toilet seat, etc). Show him the real you so he knows what he is going to get. Just say hey, what would you say is I move in or vise versa? Good Luck.
2007-10-06 00:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Just a girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experience when a man gets on like that and wants to live together than he wants to live together.Thats not a proposal. I agree with living together first.Maybe you guys wouldn't be compatible as housemates. I had a boyfriend who said the exact same things but when push comes to shove he bailed when a commitment was needed. He wanted all the perks but nothing else.Sorry to be so brutal but I really don't want to see you get so emotionally attached and get hurt.
2007-10-05 21:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by newfiemomma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He clearly wants to be with you - he's said that :D Lucky you!
Some guys are awkward about proposals, though. Since he's "not the kind of man to show his emotions," you might not get the down-on-the-knees thing.
Basically, all the things he's been telling you are his proposal. Tell him yes, you would love to be his wife and spend the rest of your lives together! :D
2007-10-05 21:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by slishou 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The honest truth is this:
If it's not an actual proposal of marriage, you can't assume that's what he means! Just because he asks you to move in, doesn't mean he is about to propose. In fact, it doesn't mean he is ever gonna propose!
Even though he may really love you and means what he is saying, it sounds like he is speaking in abstract terms. Like, he talks about your future, but gives no real specifics. He doesn't say, " we will start looking at rings in a month", or "I want us to be married to each other in a year", does he? Then that means, he likes the idea of marriage, and he may even like the idea of marriage to you. That doesn't mean he is ready to marry you.
If he was ready to marry you, he would have asked you to marry him instead of just moving in.
2007-10-06 17:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by valschmal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋