My bf n i been together for almost 6 yrs. I cheated 7months ago.im easily persuaded. My bf was very hurt, in a lot of pain, didnt want to eat etc..He fought me back. I didnt want to see him hurt. I do love him. We r 2gether now, but he doesn't comfort me,always pick argument especially accuse me of still wanting to be with the other guy when i dont. I am faithful to him and have no secret. I comfort him always. Sometimes he is happy again like normal, then all of a sudden he is easily angered and brings back the past over and over again. He tells me that the only reason he stayed with me was because he loved me too much to let go, but at the same time he wants to let go. I think he is trying to make me hurt the same way i did to him. He says things like he wants to be with another girl/hes getting tired and gets very impatient of me then, I caught him emailing a girl.hes very faithful guy. i suggest to break up, he doesnt want to. I want us to be happy again, but he's making it hard.
2007-10-05 13:29:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not trying to hurt you on purpose, he's dealing with this betrayal in the only way he knows how. No-one can tell someone else how to react and I know because my fiance cheated on me recently. It's a very difficult thing to get past and your mind is constantly playing tricks on you. You can't know how much you hurt him and you can't pretend to know. He sounds like he hasn't learned to forgive and in order to move forward he really needs to, at least for himself. You have to earn his trust back and that will take time but you really need to be patient with him and give him time to sort himself out.
2007-10-05 13:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if I slapped you in the face (which I would never do) I'd have no say-so in how you'd retaliate. If I don't like those rules, my best bet would be not to slap you in the first place. You slapped your man, but now you want to decide how and when enough is enough...it's not your call. You violated the trust, you set this whole ball of misery into motion so you get no say-so in when and how trust is re-established. Hell yeah, he's angry and he's hurt. You shouldn't expect any less. And if you can't be patient with him as he recovers from damage you've caused, then you should make a clean break with him right away because he deserves time to heal and it takes what it takes. It's incumbent upon you to do what needs to be done to make him feel "okay". (I would tell any guy who cheated on his woman the same thing). Trust can be re-established but it's not a quick process, it's not easy, and it's not automatic. Every reaction he's having is normal for a person who's been through what he's been through. Can you give him the time he needs to make a recovery? Or do you need to kick him again? Good luck to you both.
2007-10-05 13:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating for any reason is wrong. It doesn't matter if you think you have a logical reason to do it. If you know he is cheating do something about it. Don't just cheat on him because you know he is doing it, you doing it back to him makes you just like him. If you still want to be with him work it out if you don't then dump him, because it's not right what you're doing and it's not right what he's doing. And more than likely you will want to do it again.
2016-05-17 06:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to let go sweetie. It will never be the same, never. He will never forget. Been there, my man cheated on me and as much as I wanted to move past it, it never happened. He will always question you if not about the guy you cheated with then with some random guy he will question you which will result in yet another argument.
You have to let him go not only for him but for yourself.
2007-10-05 14:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so you cheated but its in the past. is this guys loves you so much like he says he does then why is he brigning it up and making you feel bad. if this is what your relationship is going to be like then you should either leave or tell him how you feel. tell him that you honestly dont want to get back with your ex. tell him you could never apoligize enuff for what you did to him and you will kepp on. tell him how much you love him and how much it pains you to see him like this. and that if he cant get over it and trust you agian. then your going to have to end it. a reltionship is built on trust so. tell him you want to start over or take a break for a little while so he can see if hee wants to b with you still. cause if he dosnt hes wasting your time.
2007-10-05 13:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to dump him. he should not be doing any of that to you. you might of cheated on him, but when you got back together that should mean he forgives you, but yet he continues to blame you for the problems in your relationship. he thinks he can control you now because you cheated on him, and even so, you are not is dog and you dont have to put up with that crap. tell him its over if he cant forgive and move on, you have proved you are more mature now and wont cheat again, and he should trust you.
2007-10-05 13:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being easily persuaded is not an excuse for cheating...but.since you are not married..why is he so pissed..i don't see a ring on your hand..
ALL that said...don't get married either if you think it can happen again,
but honestly...when you did this..what did you expect to happen ??
2007-10-05 13:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on
2007-10-05 13:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋