I had a good second date with a guy on Saturday who said he would catch up with me the next day (Sun.) I texted him Sunday morning but he didn't respond. He had said Sat. that he was going in to work but would be done early.
I did not hear a peep from him until Wed. when he sent me an email saying he wasn't ignoring me, he was just busy with grad school apps and he didn't want me to forget about him.
Truth is that by Wed afternoon I had made the decision that he wasnt going to call and that I should forget about him and move on. I like this guy but both times we went out on the weekend I didn't hear from him till Wednesday. and twice he has said he would call the next day to make plans but didn't.
Should I respond to the email. If so what should the tone of the email be and what should I say?
Should I just not respond and see if he calls eventually?
2007-10-05 13:26:35 · 14 answers · asked by Jenna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't text or contact him. You want someone who's sure about things and confident. If he's genuinely interested, but busy, he'll contact you.
He may just be a wishy washy guy who can be fun. If you want something long term don't chase him.
2007-10-05 13:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Susan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't respond bec it seems that you are "on call' for him waiting around, and that is not what you want. On the other hand, something nice you can do is offer to help him on his applications. This not only shows that you are interested in him, but it also shows him that you are a caring girl which is a good quality. He may say no to you in helping him, but don't feel bad or rejected, because you still look good by asking. Don't be mad about anything bec he prob needs someone who is understanding to his situation at the time. if it is real that he is busy with grad school stuff, then you need to just stick it out and be patient to see what his next move with you is. If he is the player type, he may just be dating other girls, and you don't want to be another one of those girls chasing him. Do not chase him. Just be supportive. Don't respond in a bad way to him. If you reply back, be nice, say I know you are busy, if i can help you, let me know. It was nice hanging out last week. etc... somthing along those lines. Good luck!!
2007-10-05 20:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Moochie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can respond and be honest with him, tell him he promises to call and doesn't so you didn't think he was going to call.and wasn't interested in you. He may be just the worrying about grad school at the moment but unless he makes time for you also, you should consider him just someone you met once who is a friend and nothing more, and look elsewhere for someone more in tune with you.
As a footnote, I saw a statistic that stated when relationships begin when one of the partners are in college, once they graduate and start working in their profession, the failure rate of that relationship is something like 70 or 80 percent because their life style changes, among other reasons, and especially in the fields of medicine and law. You need to decide how much latitude you are willing to give him and whether you want to wait until he finishes his degree, and so on. If you has no time for you while he is filling out the applications, how is he going to have time for you when he is studying unless he sets aside a period of time for you now and sticks to that.
2007-10-05 20:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space! Just cuz he says something doesn't mean it's gonna happen. He's a guy after all...
If he said he was busy, he was probably busy. It was only, what, 3 days? If you have gone out with him twice and decided to forget about him after three days because he didn't call, text, or email you, maybe you should call text or email him! Or you can verbally talk to him- everything doesn't have to be electronic.
2007-10-05 20:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respond to the email or call, but be cool and casual , just as a friend till you can tell where his directions are.
It never hurts to stay in contact with people you date and have spent time with.
If it isnt meant to be you'll know it eventually. but tread slowly into this water, as you dont want to end up in a full fledged storm of emotions , and feelings that werent really there in the beginning ---- afterall.
2007-10-05 20:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by poetbjc64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my opinon is that u should write him back bc he might have alot on his mind n everytime he gets ready 2 call u somethin might come up. in the email u should say that u thought he 4got bout u n how much u miss him. say somethin bout how he isn t a man of his words. try 2 make him feel sorry
2007-10-05 20:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by heath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should stop calling, texting or e-mailing him. Just wait and see what he will do. Any guy who is interested in any girl would not want to communicated one way or the other.
2007-10-05 20:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till wednesday to reply to his email
respond in the same tone he did
get off the fence before u get an infection
2007-10-05 20:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple of days and then respond.
2007-10-05 20:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cinthia Round house kicking VT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pathetic. If he wants you he will come a calling. Meantime change out of stalker mode and let the chips fall where they may.
2007-10-05 20:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by brady m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋