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Question

my 2 year old tyler made my daughter casey also 2 bleed today i put ty in a time out but then he just slapped me and screamed. is he going thorugh a stage?

Answer 1

I have a 5yr, 4yr and a 2 and half yr old. I find if you find the punishement that works for the individual. for example my 5yr when he does something wrong he likes to be told why and what he did he likes to be treated as an adult explanation. This works for him he is hardly naughty. My 4 yr hates to be on her own so i put her on the bottom of the stairs in the hallway with the door shut for 4 mins she hates this. Then after the 4 mins i explained what she did and why it was wrong and bad behaviour has consequences, this works for her. Now for my 2 and half yr old i am still working on him he is at the stage he is trying to find the pecking order so i have not found the right punishment for him but he is like his brother he likes explanations.

Answer 2

Yes and it's a stage that will last a lifetime if you don't do something about it NOW!

Miss TT thinks, like many people, that it is ok to hit a child to teach them not to hit. If the idea confuses you just think what a child would make of it. (Do as I say not as I do?)

In my experience the best thing is:
child is isolated in another room or place away from everyone's attention. The time out only begins when the child is sitting or lying down quietly. Time out lasts one minute for each year of child's age. But if the child can't go the whole time without an out-burst the time is started over. It helps if there is an actual timer so the child can see that the time isn't arbitrary.

Answer 3

Why did he hit her? Did she take something from him? I think the important things are 1) teach him that hitting is NOT okay (therefore, you hitting him will negate that lesson) and 2) How to resolve his conflicts appropriately.

I think he hit you when you put him in time out because he was frustrated. He's two. He doens't know how to tell you something is wrong and his feelings are so strong he doesn't know what else to do. Teach him what else to do.

Before time out, I would have made a fuss over your daughter. I would have taken care of her, fussed over her owie, put a bandaid on it., give her a big hug. Then I would take her over to your DS and tell him, look at the big owie you gave Casey. You were angry and hit her and it made her very sad. Then go from there. If he seems repentent, kisses her owie or something, I would forego time out. I WOULD tell him what he needs to do the next time he's angry (tell you, hit a pillow, etc). Through repetition, he'll get it.

As for him hitting you. Gravely take his hands and tell him, "We do not hit. We use our hands gently." It may take you hold him in time out and restraining him or putting him in his room and telling him he can come out when he's calmed down.

Just my 2 cents.

Answer 4

OMG!! I would HIGHLY recommend watching the show "Super Nanny" on Monday nights.. it is an AWESOME show --: )
She [Jo, the Nanny herself] has a couple of books out to help guide through disciplining at that age, on up...

KEEP giving the time-outs, though...
I also use these techniques with my 2, 3 and 5 year olds...
1) Time out
2) take a "lovey" away [or something that is meaningful to him/her- like a FAVORITE toy or stuffed animal, or a special "blankie"
3) take priviledges away [like NO t.v. for a day, or NO special snacks or treats that day, etc..]
4) No bedtime story that night
5) Continue to give Time Outs until he BEHHAVES himself ....

: ) Good luck! : )

Super Nanny info:
http://abc.go.com/primetime/supernanny/

http://www.supernanny.co.uk/

Answer 5

A time out for hitting his sister and making her bleed? He should have been spanked and sent to bed! If he is showing violent behavior you need to do A LOT more than jsut time outs, and NEVER allow your child to hit you....EVER! What are you going to do when he is a teen and outweighs you and puts you in the hospital because all you did was put him in a time out at this age?

Answer 6

He is probably going through a stage, but in my opinion maybe he needs more discipline

Answer 7

Sounds like he's going through the terrible twos (like my son). He needs to get his timeout and if he slaps again, tell him 'don't hit' in a loud tone of voice. He'll probably scream & cry but don't slap him back because he's just going to get more mad and he'll think it's okay to hit if he sees you doing it .

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Sounds like a normal two year old behavior. My son went through the same stuff at two (thank god that is over now). Yes, it is a stage and it will get better before long, I promise :)

Answer 10

Time out??! For god's sake! PUNNISH him! IDC how old they are, A would of beat his @$$ and sent him to bed without supper! Slap HIM! show him that he is NOT the boss!