Isn't Spanking Barbaric and Primitive?

Question

I'm getting tired of all these parents who spank asking questions to non spankers, trying to convince themselves that what they are doing is right. People are entiltled to their opinion, but I would like all of the non violent parents to be able to voice their opinion.

Spankers are welcome to comment too. If you do spank make your best argument for spanking and please try to convince me that hitting your child with your bare hand on their bottom isn't violent.

Answer 1

I'm with you - yes, it's barbaric and primitive. It's funny that spankers think they are the real parents and the rest of us are just being naive. If you were to make an educated decision on whether or not to include corporal punishment in your disclipine, you'd realize that study after study has proven that it simply isn't effective at behavior modification. And to the answerer that claimed kids were so much better behaved in the "good ol' days" and attributes it to spanking - I have some beautiful ocean front property in Arizona that I would LOVE to sell you.

Answer 2

Nope, not barbaric nor primitive. I was spanked, as were my siblings. We turned out fine. :)
Our children are spanked, only when they have done something very wrong. Nothing violent. A swat or two on the bottom isn't at all abusive. I'm totally against violence. Hate guns, hate fighting, hate the war, hate crime, hate abusive parents. It's a horrible thing.

Spanking, on the other hand, isn't something that is considered violent by normal people. If one thinks it's violent, they were more than likely abused as children, and I feel for them. Abuse is never right, and it must be stopped. The parents out there who are actually beating their children are the ones you need to be speaking to.

It's really sad that spanking has been an obsession on this forum. It's also sad that people just don't have a clue about the difference between a simple spanking and abuse. I'm just glad that I do. :)

Answer 3

I don't know about barbaric and primitive, I know that I was spanked as a child, I don't remember it too much, but as a parent I almost feel like it is a last resort, after everyother method has failed and nothing makes a difference, right or wrong it does the trick. When I think of spanking a child in anger or to release frustration, I view that as wrong, meaning that parent needs a time out and I myself find that I use timeouts most often with good results. However, on the days where time outs are like one timeout every 15 minutes, in those cases a spank is in order, that is just my opinon!

Answer 4

What is "barbaric and primitive" about getting a teenager's backside well-warmed with a belt or hairbrush? I mean, sometimes we teens behave in barbaric and primitive ways, don't we?

An occasional reminder as to who is boss and we are not ... it sure ain't fun getting that reminder on the butt. Yeah, it HURTS. But "barbaric and primitive"? No way!!

Barbaric and primitive might describe parents who beat their kids with fists and such, punching a kid in the mouth, all such abuse.

Getting spanked with the hand, belt, or hairbrush isn't necessarily violent. Unpleasant, sure. Maybe very unpleasant at the moment. Argument for spanking? It is quick and effective. Sure better than lenghty grounding or loss of privileges. And it makes very clear who is boss, and that I am not.

Grounded for a week or two? It would be like being in jail ... and the parent would need to be the jail keeper!! Rather, spank (get spanked) and then get on with life!!
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Answer 5

i could be wrong but i think this is response to my question. I am a pro spanker...not because i don't think that hands off approches are a bunch of hooey...its because i believe there is one thing that the hands off approch does not do. That is finality. I was not brought up with spankings and there are a few things that stick out to me that i did wrong and i mean very bad things, like forging my dad signature multiple times and i frankly cant remember the consequense, however i know that the disapointment of my parents kept me from doing it again, however to this day i still feel guilty about what i did and that was almost 15 years ago. I think with a spanking you can "pay your dues" but then there is no longer the feel that there is still disapointment or a grudge and all is forgive. That is one thing that i believe hands off punishments don't do, they don't get rid of your guilt feelings and at least i never felt like i parents ever forgave me or i actually paid my dues.

Answer 6

If you think spanking a child is "violent" then you must live in a wonderfully sheltered place. Because you can turn on any channel on the TV and take a gander at what "Violent" really looks like.

Spanking is dicipline, it's not "a beating", it's not "violent" , for crying out loud all this melodramatic BS is why kids are a complete mess now a days...

Do you remember the days that kids behaved, and were respectful and didn't cuss out their parents, or ignore everyone because they are taking a call on their cell phone?? I'll bet not.

You all are entitled to your opinion just like I'm entitled to mine..but lets not get childish and dramatic here ...lets call a spade a spade. I could call non spankers candyassed fluffy nonparents and say that their form of "dicipline" is more a form of avoidance of dicipline ...but I don't.

Go ahead put your kid in a time out...good luck with that...but you can mind your business as to how I dicipline my child.

Answer 7

You answered your own question, people are entitled to their own opinions.

Some parents spank, I happen to be one of them. I spank for the most basic reason of all, it works.

Some parents choose not to spank and that is their decision. I would never question another parent's competence based on the fact that they choose not to spank their children.

I am not obligated to try to convince you of anything. Spanking isn't violence, its parenting.

Answer 8

Lol this comes back to lierbal non spankers and conservative spankers !!
thats why its called spanking because its a spank, not a slap, punch, kick, blow. thats barbaric and stop over dramatizing a simple spank for Gods sake!!

i just asked this question 5 mins ago and i was aksing a simple question and ppl just read it out of context and saying not to bring politics into parenting!
a bunch of liberal stiffs here!!

Answer 9

You just said that people are intitled to their opinion, but you would like all the non-violent parents to be able to voice their opinions too. Isn't that what you are doing? Your getting tired of all these parents who spank asking questions to non spankers, trying to convince themselves that what they are doing is right. How about us getting tired of people like you making out like we beat our kids, and that we are violent people??

I don't really care what you do with your kids. It's none of my business. But how the rest of us choose to raise our kids, isn't any of yours. So why are you trying to convince us that we are wrong, by insulting us by calling us violent?

Answer 10

It isn't, I am 15, I was spanked and I am OK. I'm not emotionally distraught, violent in the least, and I make exceptionally good grades. Most children need it to be honest. I think you are being extremely biased by calling us violent. My mother is not violent or barbaric, and it offends me that you would say that. I think your opinion is very rude and I doubt I'm the only one who feels this way.

Answer 11

Violence, properly controlled and measured, is the point. You are associating pain and humiliation with some undesired (on your part) behavior. Most humans will be deterred from engaging in behaviors when so associated. With a child that lacks the proper reasoning skills, this can be very effective. I'd rather spank my child if they won't stay out of the street than bury them when they get run over by a car.

When love and reason fail, violence will usually work.