My 42 yr old boyfriend owns and runs a restaurant. Recently he flirted with one of his female employees in front of me. This flirting contained some sexual connotation. The 19 yr old employee returned his attention. He admitted to flirting with some of his other female employees as well. He says that's part of the restaurant culture. Normally I'm very cool about social situations, but this circumstance made me feel very uncomfortable. Perhaps because he's in a position of authority, maybe it's the age difference, it could also be that I came out of a relationship with infideltiy, so I could be feeling a wee sensitive. He's making me feel like I'm being unreasonable by saying I'm uncomfotable with it.
So what do you think? Is it ever okay to flirt with your employees? Am I overreacting? What about flirting with sexual connotations? Any ground rules?
2007-10-05 12:42:10 · 7 answers · asked by bohogrrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter if its the restaurant culture or fit to be ok with his empoyees or not,,if hes with you and it makes you uncomfortable, then its not ok.
2007-10-05 12:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! you are not being unreasonable, What he is doing IS considered sexual assult, because he is in a position of authority he should not abuse it. I have worked in the resturant business before and that "culture" is always happening, but that does not mean that anybody has to act that way too. What he is doing is wrong, & should stop, If I were you I would re-evalate your relationship, not to sound rude, but it doesn't sound like he respects you or what the two of you share, why else would he be flirting w/ other girls, yes girls, 19 is def. not a woman & that alone conserns me, best of luck to you.
2007-10-05 19:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Skittles Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I think =) I think it's rude for him to be flirting, period. It show you him being disrespectful to your feelings and your relationship. It's not the age difference, I promise. I'm in a wonderful relationship and he's nine years older than me, and he's never once flirted with someone, even in front of me. He's a very sweet, caring guy who loves to joke around, but he's not disrespectul to others or me =) Hope this helps!
2007-10-05 20:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happens all the time and no it is not a good idea. Eventually he'll come up against a person , who isn't afraid of losing her job, and isn't flattered that the boss is taking advantage of his position. And he may find himself with a law suit for sexual harassment.
2007-10-05 19:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset and this would and should not be allowed. It is very inappropriate. You should move on. You'll be in for a let down later if you stay. If it's you he wants then other girls would not make him so stupid. This is showing you his ignorance.
2007-10-05 19:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by skip1960 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i, personally, think that isnt right. he shouldnt be flirting with his employees and the fact she was nineteen...i dont know it just doesnt sit well with me.
tell him you are uncomfortable with it and you'd appreciate if he didnt and he should understand how you feel about this.
2007-10-05 19:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn the tables on him and you start flirting with some of his male employees
2007-10-05 19:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by mommie_29801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋