my boyfriend's 4 year old son has Pneumonia. My boyfriend just came back in his son's life and his son is his world. he would lie, kill, steal, and cheat for his son. as he should. knowing my boyfriend he would drink his pain away or just sit alone in a dark room. i don't know what's worse. but me being his girl i want to be there for him.but he doesn't want to talk and i understand that. should i just step aside until he come's to me? i don't know what to do. i want to be there but i know he wants to be alone and i know know that he wants to look up and see a pair of eyes assurance. sighs. i know when his son pulls thru he would never want to be away from his son again. i know this. so if that means him gettin back wit his son's mother just to be wit his son everyday of his life. that's what's his gonna do. period. no questions no if ands ot buts. so meaning loving my bf as much as i do i would step aside and not fight him gettin back with her for the sake of their son
2007-10-05 12:31:19 · 7 answers · asked by auroa26 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you seem like a good woman and i hope he recognizes the kind of support he has in you.
let him know that he can confide in you and that if he really needs to talk on the phone or in person, or have someone to hold him, or even just have someone to be around, then be there.
if he doesn't want to talk but you still want to help, make him dinners and help around the house while he is down. if he makes himself sick with sorrow, then look after him.
let him know that he will not help his son by hurting himself, getting drunk or wallowing in grief. tell him he needs to be strong for his son. encourage him to visit his son in the hospital as often as possible.
if either of you are religious, try to have a clergyman or pastor come by and talk to him.
2007-10-05 12:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That must be seriouse pneumonia! You sound like a good person and your right, all you can do is bee there for him. You cant forse him to talk put maybe thats not what he means. All you can do is make sure he understands that your with him and that you love him and no matter what happens, youll be there to help him through anything. On the other hand, him getting back together with the mom may not be such a great idea. im sure they broke up for a reason and if their son has to live in a world where the parents are angry and unloving towards eachother, it will do a lot of emotional damage to him. I think that you should make sure your boyfriend understands this. just because he is there every day does not mean that he will be making things better. he better be ready to restart a good and deceint relationship with the mom, or their son is going to have some tough years.
2007-10-05 12:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my prayers.
Choices are so hard....
I pray That God guides your steps in this.
I hope also that you will have a chance to bring it up in a calm manner.
My husband use to blow up at me with things just raising his voice so I would clam up and not be able to speak my mind for the sake of him rejecting me and leave. So I would wait for the perfect timing and say..."I have something really important to talk about" and respectively tell him what is on your mind. Men want respect and encouragement. And God made us women to do that.
I had to tell my husband something very important about 6 years ago and that was a few years into the marriage. I was nervous but we both already was changing our ways through God but I looked Him in the eyes and told him and it was such a relief he just shook his head and said okay. It was easy.
It took prayer on how to approach and the timing.
† EveryDay Prayer Warrior†
2007-10-06 08:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Auroa,
You seem like such a loving person to even think about giving him up for his son's sake. I can see why you are in such a dilemma. Children will always keep the parents tied in together at some level....even if you married him. When you go to God in prayer for any problem you cannot go wrong. God promises to give you wisdom if you ask. (James 1:5)
I will pray this for you. God bless you so much for caring.
† On-call Prayer Warrior †
2007-10-06 08:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Prayer to" i will comprehend yet "prayer for" is a few thing previous me because of the fact I could have concept that Saints do not % any prayers for them because of the fact they are straight away linked to God and don't % our intercession. Have an excellent Day.
2016-11-07 09:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Bless! I hope everything works out for the both of you!
2007-10-05 13:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be praying the Lord's will be done in this situation, and that you will have peace.
2007-10-06 09:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋