after a relationship that has lasted over 1 year, being totally in love, and being completely happy together, his feelings suddenly change. He lives 1 hour away, all along we had planned that he'd come every weekend, and I'd come to him every time I got a chance, and then all of a sudden, he doesn't feel the same way about me. This transformation happened in a matter of days. And I have not been nagging or being unsupportive - on the contrary, I've been more positive than usual.
I'm really confused how this could happen...
2007-10-05 11:50:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we used to see each other almost every day, so the 1 hour-away move was a new thing.
2007-10-05 11:50:53 · update #1
The distance thing probably played into it a little. It is hard to go from seeing someone every day to once a week. There is a good chance (unfortunately) that he is interested in someone else or he feels that the distance is very constrictive on his style (Being 'forced' to go see you every weekend')
I don't know how to solve this problem, just some insight into what might be going on.
2007-10-05 11:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See that's just it...I don't honestly believe you can fall out of love! Love is uncoditional. But at the same time, I do believe it's similar to energy. It can't be destroyed, but it can be transformed. I bet he still loves you, just in another form. And this happens for many reasons, people grow apart. Some of things you used to want you no longer do. It's not to say he doesn't love you, bit he just doesn't see you as his gf! I know that's hard to understand, but love can change. It can go from being mostly about sex to being about the emotional. It can go from seeing someone as a friend to a wife or from a wife to a friend. It's hard, but God makes things work this way for his plan. so in other words, although it hurts now, stay positive...God has a plan!
2007-10-05 11:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anita,
This usually happens when one of the parties involved no longer feels they are happy. Also distance is a great factor in most relationship break ups. If he is not happy let him go, an d allow yourself to heal. I suggest to get to know yourself during this time, make a list of what you want in aperson and look for someone that has the same thoughts and beliefs. It takes time, but slowly and surely you will find a person that will respect you, and cherish you. Some people dont know what they have until they loose it, in most cases they realize once its gone. Dont sell yourself short and put your self first. Remember that you and only you can search for your happiness and only you know whats best for you.
Have a great weekend and enjoy life.... you only live once.
2007-10-05 12:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by wtf!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this happens all the time... There are a few possible answers... Since this guy lives an hour away, it's very possible that he has met someone else that has caught his eye... It's also possible that he didn't see the relationship going anywhere. Feelings change, it's just something that happens and no one can really help it. And you can't really help it later... I'd get on with your life as quickly as you can.
2007-10-05 11:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Romocop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he found someone else where he is from? I know it sounds bad but that may be what happend.... you might want to ask around and see if he is seeing someone.. or maybe you can try sending him this and see whats up www.crush007.com all the answers he write will go to you.... you also get a free question to ask but you would need to make it something like . Out of all your past relationships which was the one you disliked the most? (you can answer this question by naming the year of the relationship or the name of the person you were with).
2007-10-05 11:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by dontmesswithheather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he met someone else, or he got bored with the relationship. The distance can make things difficult as one of you has to travel to see the other. And the cost of the travel can become prohibitive for the person who is doing the traveling.
2007-10-05 11:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by paulaj2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey may be tired of the long distance so his feelings are fading. I had this same problem with my current boyfriend but he moved back to my town after 2 years so all has been repaired. He may have feelings with someone else or is interested in someone else and he doesnt know how to tell you. Just tell him to be completely honest with you whether its good or bad newz. U deserve the truth
2007-10-05 11:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something becomes to much of a routine or boring then someone could loose intrest. Especially if he has his eye on someone else. Although the grass is not always greener on the other side, it looks that way some times.
2007-10-05 11:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by BPZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes seeing each other everyday can bore someone. My friend for example broke up with his girl cuz she wanted to call him 2 a day it did not give him time to miss her. Sometimes people like the space. Hopefully he didnt meet someone else why dont you ask him
2007-10-05 11:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by mystcarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter if you are a guy or girl, falling out of love is the same process, and it is an awful and inexplicable experience. i fell out of love with my first boyfriend. for me, it was the culmination of all of his flaws that i hadn't before recognized. i guess i conjured up this image of him in my mind as the perfect guy, and really, he was the exact opposite. well, he is a decent guy and we're friends now, but i felt awful for what i did to him. it was like one day a switch flipped and i wasn't in love with him anymore. it took him a long time to heal, and i felt terrible, but neither of us deserved to live a lie.
i totally feel for you, hun. just stay strong and remember to open up again. we've all been burned, and it only makes us stronger. but that can only happen once we stand up on our own two feet again. good luck :}
2007-10-05 12:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋