i took my daughter Chealsea to toysRus today and the only things that attracted her were boys toys. i dont want her to be a tomboy but by the looks of it she might what should i do?
2007-10-05 11:49:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she's going to be a tomboy there is little you can do about it. Embrace her for who she is. Accept whoever she chooses to be.
Forcing her into a lifestyle that is un-natural will only make her unhappy, which will in turn make you unhappy. And, later in life she will probably blame you for her unhappiness and alienate herself from you.
All of this for some "boy's toys"? Is it worth it?
2007-10-05 11:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always thought that being a girl is the best. It's cool that you can play with everything. I had all sorts of toys when I was a kid, from dolls, to Lego's and toy guns. I'm a girly girl now, but I wouldn't trade my "tom boy" childhood for anything!! If your a boy, you don't have the same options(at least not without other boys teasing you). Just be happy that she's interested in all kinds of things. Anyway, these are modern times and girls need to be free to chose what they like now. Good luck, and just let her be herself.
2007-10-05 12:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Roxanne S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her embrace it! I was a tomboy, then I went through a huge Barbie phase, and then I went through legos, and kinex, and I was always doing stunts on my bike, but I still went back to Barbie. Don't try to stop your child from doing what they want to do, even if it is playing with toys from the opposite sex. I had a cousin who played with Barbie dolls with me, and everyone thought he was gay, and he's not. It is just the curiosity that a child has. Let her embrace this, being a child is the only time someone truly has to be able to do what they want and experience things as they want before the real world hits you in the butt.
2007-10-05 12:02:34 · answer #3 · answered by Om... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be a tomboy. She's not going to be, heaven forbid, lesbian (I have nothing against lesbians. I'm just stating that most parents are afraid that their not-strictly-gender-acting children are going to "turn gay") because she's playing with cool toys.
She'll grow up how she wants to. You're in charge of her, but you shouldn't be pushing her into these things - she may resent you, depending on her age, or she may end up doing something stupid later because she repressed her natural impulses.
Honestly, I've found that the less "girly" girls tended to be more practical and when it comes down to it, better people. I'm not saying that you can't be feminine, but I am saying that you can overdo anything.
2007-10-05 11:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Yuki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my niece to toys-R-us and all she wanted was girly-girl things. I think girly-girls are victims, and cream-puffs. I want her to be a tom-boy. The more I try to shoe-horn her into being something she doesnt want to be the more it causes her to resent me and resist harder.
Eventually I had to realize that she is a person, and parts of that person are flexible and others are not. If I want to try to play God and crush who she is then I should keep doing what I was trying to do. If I want to help the person that she is, within the constraints of who she is, to be the most that she can then I have to be willing to change what I want for her to become. I have to give her room to be herself.
2007-10-05 11:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so? whats wrong with being a tomboy? let her choose her identity. if you try to keep her from things she likes then your doing nothing but harm.
2007-10-05 11:57:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry all girls go through a phase and if this phase last it will be ok because she will do what she likes and eventually you'll adapt
2007-10-05 11:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by love me cuz im cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be who she is. Love her unconditionally. Accept her unconditionally.
2007-10-05 11:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Auntie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well,let her be herself.you cant change a persons self anyways...good luck!!
2007-10-05 11:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋