whats up with these mothers ?

Question

that leave there children in cars and suv's and FORGET that there in there. my god how do you forget i have three and there sure as hell not going to let me forget there in there. i haven't never forgot them . whats up with putting a teddy bear in the front seat as a reminder theres preciuous cargo in the back seat. how many of you forget?

i know the one i saw was the woman that went into target and forgot her infant was in the suv for thirty minutes and yea there are times that i would love someone to watch all three of mine while i go do erands but my thing is i gave birth to them they can be my shadow until they are able to stay home which my oldest one is old enough but still doesn't stay home.if i jump out to pay for gas they all go in with me. is that to overprotective?

stay home and wait till someone can watch the child till u do your erands.

ok this is something else that just came to mind , this happens so much that most all these huge shopping malls or anywhere for that matter should hire some one to stroll through these parking lots and look for children and animals in vehicals .

Answer 1

I honestly cannot believe that a mother could forget her child in a car. I mean, those little guys are truly "attached at the hip" to Mom from the day they're born.

How tragic that some little children actually suffer because of their mothers' lack of basic responsibility and common sense. If you don't want kids or can't care for them, USE A CONDOM!

Answer 2

Yahoo News had a report on this a couple of months ago in regards to people who forget, as opposed to deliberately leave children in cars. These incidences are very rare, but unfortunately, often end in the death of the child. Consider that there are 4 million children born annually and less than 100 are forgotten in the car (I don't remember the number, just that it was under 100).

In general, those who forget are usually responsible, well educated people who adore their children. They also tend have a personality that 'blocks out' everything but what they are doing. If the bear thing works, great. I certainly wouldn't ridicule something that may save a child's life.

We have had 3 incidences locally in recent years. In one case, the mom was suffering severe exhaustion due to another child's situation. In another, the Dad normally didn't even have the child and forgot to drop him off at the day care. In the 3rd case, I don't remember the details, but the baby died in less than 10 minutes. In all 3 cases, the baby was sleeping and thus making no noise. These are all terrible tragedies and if you have any bright ideas on how to prevent them, I'm sure people would like to hear them.

Finally, the same report said that these incidences increased exactly at the same time that children were moved to the back seat due to air bags.

Answer 3

I can't forget nor would I ever forget my three boys they are 15,12,10 and i love my boys to much to do that to them and if you ask me I think it is just plain out carelessness on those parents part for leaving them in the car,you would no if you stopped at the nursey or the babysitter so I say try that again,and the thing about the teddy bear in the front seat that's not going to help you remeber that is nothing but a distraction to you.I mean come on be serious I think the parents that have left or will leave their children in the car should be charged with murder and no parole at all,an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, and a dead baby a dead parent to serve life with out visits and strict punishment.

Answer 4

The police that are on scene comment that they never forget their purse, cell phone, or laptop, but they forget their child and they die! There was only one time that I was so out of it that I forgot to turn the car off. My good friend's mom died and we went to the hospital to comfort him. I was so focused on the death that I forgot, anyone could have taken the car. That was back when I was in high school (teenager)and it was the only instance with a car that I forgot something important. Now I have been a mom for almost 4 years now and I have never forgotten that I buckled up my child and that they are in the car with me. I look at them and see how they are doing, like at stop lights and it fathoms me how someone could forget. You put them in the car so why would you suddenly forget they are there. My kids make noise and I can see them through the windows when I get out of the car.

Answer 5

these people are not forgetting their kids they are doing it intentionally. I remember one time my boyfriend and I left the club. I was about to get in the car on the drivers sides and i happen to look in the car next to me. What did I see in the car next to us, a CHILD! THE parent obviously had every intention of getting there party on because the child was in the car, windows cracked open( it was a summer night) and the child had a bottle. I say child but she was REALLY a toddler. The look on her face said this was nothing knew to her. So I told my boyfriend to come over and look at the baby. I started talking to the child, she was at least 18 months to 2 years old, sh could talk a little bit. Pretty soon a crowd gathered around the car. We all stood there for about 20 minutes thinking maybe the mom went into the grocery store. Finally one guy called the police, my boyfriend went back in the club and told the DJ that there was a baby in an car outside. The DJ stopped the music and guess who walks out the club, the CHILD'S FATHER!!! He claims that he just wanted to go in an talk to someone right quick. the crowd nearly jumped on him. He got in the car about to drive off, I say hey" are you going to at least put the child in her car seat. Unfortunate he left before the police came. I would have loved to see him get ARRESTED!

Answer 6

well my husband is a police officer he had a call about 2 months ago when we had 100plus temps that there where 2 kids in a car at McDonald's he went sure enough there was a 4 month old and a 2 year old in the car windows up and everything he opened the car got the kids out which were pouring sweat and the mother came out wanting to know what right he had to be opening her car well needles to say we been ttc for over 5 years and she went to jail and both kids were placed with dhs it is completely stupid oh and she was also sentenced to 1 yr in jail and has to serve every day of the year no parole so at least some get what they deserve

Answer 7

I think the mothers you are talking about should have their parenting licenses revoked.

I live in a place were we have snow and below freezing temperatures in the winter, and extremely hot, dry temperatures in the summer, with a period of time when the temps are above 100 degrees. I used to have a vehicle which told you the inside vehicle temperature, and I know from experience that even on an 85 degree day, the temperature inside a parked vehicle can easily go well above the triple digit mark. With all that, it is still fairly routine for people to leave their children in a parked vehicle.

It's so bad in my state that one of the counties in the southwestern corner, which is one of our hottest areas (I live in Utah, the area I am speaking of borders Nevada and Arizona) passed a law a year ago last summer that police and private citizens will not be held responsible for breaking into a car immediately if they should happen to see a child in the car. There are to be no questions, no running into the store and having the car owner paged, no nothing. It's see the child, break the window furthest away from the car seat and get the child out. Would you believe that people actually protested against the law? The main complaint seems to be that since it's a law, insurance companies are not required to pay for the damage to the vehicle. The only conclusion I can draw from that is that people would prefer to either pay for an emergency room visit and hospital stay, or for a funeral, rather than having to pay for a broken window. I think it's shameful.

I don't have kids. I do, however, have a dog I love very much. She loves to go for rides in the car, and she does not get to go for a ride from about May to September, and sometimes into October. Why? Because even if I leave the windows down, the temperature in the vehicle quickly climbs into the "too-hot-for-living-creatures" range. If I can love my dog enough to leave her home, why can someone not love their child and be responsible enough to take them out of the car when they go out?

I am not naive. I understand that it can be difficult, especially if you have more than one child, to remember all the things you need to remember. I also understand that it can be hard to get two or three little ones out of carseats, etc., and into shopping carts or strollers. But how, exactly, does one forget? I have tried to wrap my head around that one, and I cannot.

Last summer, there was a case which made the evening news. A woman ran into the grocery store "just for a moment," and left the baby in the car. As she was coming out of the grocery store, she ran into someone she knew from high school, who was getting ready to go into a boutique in the same strip mall. They started talking, and she walked with her friend into the boutique. Once inside the boutique, they started talking about the cute clothing and accessories in the store. In the meantime, a 15-year-old bagger at the grocery store went out to pick up shopping carts and noticed a baby in a locked car with all the windows up. He tried thumping on the windows to make sure the baby was okay. The baby didn't wake up, and he was immediately worried. He ran back in the store, asked someone to call 911, and asked if anyone had a tire iron or something with which to break the window. The person who called 911 also sent out a page over the loudspeakers telling shoppers that their window was about to be broken if they didn't get their butt back outside. Of course, by this time, the woman was in the boutique with her friend. By the time the young boy managed to get the keys from an employee who had a tire iron in their trunk, a police cruiser had shown up. The officer used his baton to break the window of the vehicle, and he got the baby out. The baby was unconscious. You know when the woman finally "remembered" her baby? When she saw all the lights from the ambulance in the parking lot. The EMTs had taken the baby's temp, and it was 108 degrees. Because she had "forgotten" she had a baby. A few days later, there was a follow up on the news. She and her husband were trying to sue the 15-year-old, the woman who gave him keys to her trunk to get a tire iron, and the police officer who actually broke the window. Up north where I live, we don't have the same law they have down south. (I live in the suburbs of Salt Lake City.) I never did hear what the resolution was to the case. The only other thing they mentioned was that the baby was so overheated that it had to be taken to the hospital. I hope the judge who saw the lawsuit read the woman the riot act. And I hope the baby did not suffer long term brain damage from being exposed to such high temperatures.

I think people who "forget" their kids in the car need to have them taken away for a while. When they are able to "remember" that they have little tiny human beings in their care, and that they cannot go around "forgetting" them, and once they have taken an intensive course in parenting, maybe, if the authorities say it's okay, they can have them back. If not, they should go to someone who will care for them in the proper manner.

Answer 8

I saw this on TV yesterday and thought the same thing. I could not believe it either. I wanted to know how a 2 year old gets in a car and you not know that they are there. The teddy bear would not do these women any good. They would throw it in the back seat. I have never forgot my son. He is one and jabbers in the car. I could not fotget him.

Answer 9

That is dangerous. I once saw a mother go into a store and leave the baby and it's carriage just right outside the door. She was only in there for about a minute, and if I hadn't been across the street from her I would have yelled at her. Even if it's for a minute somebody could have went off with her kid.

Answer 10

I never forget about my child. One time my front door got stuck at the apartment and the bacykdoor was lock. I didn't have a set of the back keys on my key chain. I had a window up in the kitchen I was talking to him. I called my dad and he stay by the apartment till I ran to my grandma house since she had extra set of keys of my apartment then. To get the keys since it had a set that when you my back door. My father was where he could see his grandpa. When I got there I got him out of the apartment. I was worried and I was scared of myself worried about him and my son was crying because he want mommy and he was scared. I went to the manager on monday since it happened over the weekend demanding to fix the front door. Now on I make sure on everything, But I never forget my children, my kids are noisey in the car all the time I know they are in the car.