My parents are fighting right now. my mom thinks my dad likes little 12 year old girls. my mom acuses my step sister of taking her missing stuff, and recently taking my phone, when i know i lost it. my dad says that shes putting words in his mouth. i don't wanna take sides, my dad said he wants to take my little brother and i to dinner to get out of the house, and i nodded my head. how do i avoid taking sides? they both go to me for help. please help!
2007-10-05 11:21:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That stinks. I will pray for things to get better. Hopefully things will settle soon.
2007-10-05 11:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your parents are putting you in the middle of their disputes. You don't have to take sides both are you parents and I'm quite sure you love both of them and right now they are acting like children so you sit them down and say Mom,Dad listen I don't want to be in the middle of your fights I love you both and it makes me feel uncomfortable when you come to me. I hope this helps
good luck sweetie
2007-10-05 18:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Bookbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents fight too... everyone does. What I try to do is just keep my mouth shut, so I don't say the wrong thing. Don't take sides because then one parents will think you like the other one better. When my parents fight, they usually forget about it the next morning. So just try to keep quiet. Good luck.
2007-10-05 18:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by smileygirl636 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we teach our kids to not intefere with adult situations but in this case, babe, you need to work up the courage to tell your parents that although you love them both it isn't fair for them to put you in the middle of their war. if dad wants to take you to dinner and you want to go, then get dressed and go have a nice time. but, if the conversation turns to slandering mom let him know that you came to dinner to be with him and have a good time not to talk about mom behind her back and vice versa with mom. you, unfortunately, are being forced to become an adult too soon. this can get ugly, but you do not have to take anyone's side except your own. good luck, sweetie:(
2007-10-05 18:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say something like, "I am the child, you are the parents, I do not want to be in the middle of YOUR fights. I love you both and it is very unfair of you to put me in the middle."
I know you are young and this may be hard for you to say but practice it before you confront them. Try to get both of them between fights, when they are both calm and then say what you have practiced.
Good luck. I know it is very hard to caught in this messy situation and I wish you the very best.
Peace.
2007-10-05 18:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand in front of your parents and say: you are both npt acting like responsible mature parents that a child can look up to and i feel like you are putting me in the middle. take your fights to a place where i can't see them or hear them. i am not going to take sides, and my decisions on what to do or who to spend my time with should not be taken as taking sides. and stop coming to me for help. if you two can't figure things out go to a counselor. thank you.
and if you can't say that to them, put it in a letter. it'll blow their minds!!!!
2007-10-05 18:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both to leave you out of their fighting its not fair that either of them are using you for emotional support damn your only 12 you should be worrying about 12yr old things not the stress that your parents are putting on you
tell them both to grow up and seek professional or their friends support not yours
2007-10-05 18:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might suggestion they sit down and have a long talk with a third party like marriage councilor and tell them flat out you are not taking sides.
2007-10-05 18:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you don't want to take sides anymore and that you love them both. They will be frustrated, but you shouldn't be put in the middle when it's their argument.
2007-10-05 18:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them bluntly that you refuse to take sides and they must solve their own problems. Walk away when they are arguing.
2007-10-05 18:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by auntieknowsbest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋