They're not looking at me mean or anything, just staring at me. In class, at the mall, whatever. Not all the time, though, just sometimes. I'm ordinary looking and don't dress revealingly.
2007-10-05 10:59:22 · 36 answers · asked by Jane T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe it's just in your head and the more you think about it, the more it feels like everybody's looking at you. I'm sure people take glances at all kinds of things...
2007-10-05 11:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Then again, maybe you are very, very ugly or abnormal and when most women are too scared or queezy to look at you, only men have the courage to face your hideousness?
I mean, come on! Really? Why do men look at me? I think you know this. Dressing revealling is not the only reason they might find a woman so a attractive it draws their gaze. Do you wear tight clothes? Do you try to dress (even though not revealling) in a way that you want the attention? I think the answer to these kinds of questions are easily answered when you look inside and realize there is a reason why we do everything we do.
Try doing just the opposite of your normal. Dress in very shabby, baggy clothes and don't wear make-up and hide your face. See if they still look at you. Do you feel embarrassed? It probably means that you want the attention and have a warped view of self-esteem, trying to please others by the way you appear.
As humans we all have the need of 1) to know others and 2) to be known by others. That statement might reap some backlash but I hold that anyone who does not have the minute traces of these needs has some other serious issues. How do you want others to know you as? I'm betting that society has trained you that you are who you appear as--thus you subconsciously and consciously dress for attention and approval.
Really, do a 180 with your whole appearance and see what others' reaction is and what your internal reaction to that change is. Do it over some time. Talking about it isn't going to solve anything. Do some research. It's easy enough--but are you willing?
2007-10-05 11:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rickwar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what type of clothes that you wear.
Most guys will check out a woman, but if something is showing more than normal you might find them staring. Guys are very visual and most wont stare as a matter of not wanting to be caught or they dont care and want you to see them looking at you.
Its all in context though, there is a reason for it.
2007-10-08 10:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep up the good work. Most of the young girls are very competitive especially in their dress. They follow most of the current fads so they are at best lookalikes. It's a trashy look with push up bras low neck lines and skin tight jeans etc. Your a novelty to them. A little modesty always turns the guys heads. I myself am so tired of that cheap sluttish look. Modesty makes any girl sort of mystically appealing.
2007-10-05 11:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by happyharold4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could be several different things...Do you dress slutty or dress unusual?? men are always staring but if your dressing in a way that encourages them too, it probably makes the situation so much worse. Hey, you could be really pretty, I dont know you, they do it to every girl basiclly because they are geared different than women and are always lookin for hotties :) hope this helped.
2007-10-05 11:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you don't dress revealingly than it should be your personality that attracts men. I mean seriously, don't you know the answer to your question? You Are Attractive!
2007-10-05 11:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by interesting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be you are also paranoid, unless you actually are attractive. I am sure not everyone who you think is "staring" at you actually is. Consider at the mall, in class, or where ever there are actually often many people around.
2007-10-05 11:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by julvrug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to see a pic, but they might think you are pretty.
or, if you carry an alligator, that would do it.
you could also be nuts. take a friend with you and ask her about the men staring at you. if she says there are no men around, you are nuts. or your friend is.
im sure it is just because that is what men do, we stare. it is like window shopping.
2007-10-05 11:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all men do this, whether the girl is attractive or not, I think that it is a biological thing that has to do with sizing the other sex up as a possible mate.
2007-10-05 11:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you probable is an attractive young lady however its good to ignore attention you sound like a high school or college young lady stay within your age and ignore those old perverted ones
2007-10-05 11:08:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋