how do you know if it is really over, or if he/she needs some time to cool off?
And if she/he needs that time, what do you do in the meantime? Leave him/her alone, or try and keep in touch somehow?
2007-10-05 10:56:12 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I can only give you my opinion which is clearly not what everyone else thinks. IMO, it's over when one or the other says: it's over (or something to that effect). Realizing of course that there are people out there who don't have the guts to say it, even if they want it over.
Whether or not a fight is the cause for a break-up is difficult to say. Was it one of many fights over the same issue? Was it really bad? Was it over something inconsequential?... it's really impossible to give a concise answer without knowing the details.
If someone needs time to think or time to cool off, then it's best to leave them alone, esp. if they say upfront that they want to be alone for a while. To continue to fight or to bug them will only make matters worse.
If the other person hasn't gotten in contact in about a week or so, I'd give them a call and say: "are you still sour about the argument? I haven't heard from you and was wondering whether everything's okay (you're okay)".. something to that effect... and then see what they say.
2007-10-05 11:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last time I was so hurt and angry I was determined to leave her alone permanently only to realize (by the incidental unfolding of circumstances) that I could not. As far as I was concerned it was over....she didn't leave me anywhere else to go emotionally, but then she just as suddenly came back on the scene and back into my life telling me she didn't want it to be "this way". (Okay, now what the hell am I supposed to do with that?) All I can tell you is I love her and she confuses me....I doubt I'd put up with this from anyone else; she is most assuredly unique.
2007-10-05 18:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only know it's really over when She/He is talking to somebody else they have met. Fights do break up couples..all the time, but until one of them or both have met someone else, it's still possible to re-kindle the relationship.
2007-10-05 18:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sicilianguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋