so i sat with him at lunch today and we like almost didn't talk the whole time. I asked him questions that i thought would start up a conversationg but he answered in a short sentence that i couldn't respond to. he was making it difficult for us to talk. and we were just sitting just the 2 of us so nobody could save the silence. i still like him but i dont know if i should sit with him again cuz he hardly ever talked. what should i do or say?!?
2007-10-05 10:19:47 · 18 answers · asked by spurs_fan921 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it go and bow out graciously!
2007-10-05 10:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really like him, be bold and try again (nothing ventured, nothing gained. Your first attempt at communication sounds a discouraging disaster, but maybe he was in a mood over something he could not talk about. I'd give it a bit of time and have another go. If you get the same result, then you can be sure it's a non starter. I'd rather embarass myself and be sure than be left with doubts. Good Luck!
2007-10-05 17:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when that happens!!! Maybe a lot of it has to do with nerves?! That never helps things...... so I'd suggest that if you really wanna try to make lunch with the two of you work, then brainstorm tons of different topics for you two to talk about! Maybe think of things to talk about that might interest him or that he can relate to. Hopefully he'll catch on to the fact that you're making an effort, and you'll have great talks! Good Luck dear!
2007-10-05 17:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by Elsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. whenever im talking to the girl i like she always answers my questions with short responses that have no way for me to respond back and then i have to think of something new to say and then i just sound like an idiot for asking so many questions. sorry i dont have an answer, i dont think there is one since ive had that problem for a couple months but you could try a different approach like something slightly physical.
2007-10-05 17:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with this with many guys. With him not trying to hold a conversation, it just means that he doesn't have much to say to you or he doesn't really want to talk to you. So when you see him, don't ackwoledge him until he talks to you first, and don't sit by him. Let him come sit by you. Don't pay him any attention until he can act like a gentleman and stop having one-sided conversations. Meanwhile, just talk to other people, possibly another guy...I bet he'll start talking then.
2007-10-05 17:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the way he's always been, kind of shy or is this unusual. I would ask if he had a bad day if this wasn't normal behavior or he may be trying to get you to break up with him.
2007-10-05 17:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Juan A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're not compatible with him or not asking him the right questions. Try to be persistent and scope things out more
2007-10-05 17:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by stoove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would ask questions about himself. Topics he's interested in. Or if that doesn't work, throw in a conversation, "I want to go and see (MOVIE), but I have no one to go with". That kind of thing. Be sneaky, it'll work, trust me!!
2007-10-05 17:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by TurnerLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just been introduced to another member my species--the introvert. Seriously. That's how introverts are. We rarely talk. But when we do, as others say of us, our words have meaning. Give him time. He'll loosen up.
2007-10-05 17:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should really just be straightt up with him and ask him if he likes sitting with you or if he considers u as a friend beacuse there really is no point of waiting around him to open his mouth just to say something
2007-10-05 17:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did it ever occur to you that this person wasn't in the mood to talk or may have had other issues going on not willing to share with you possibly?
2007-10-05 17:26:23 · answer #11 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋