My daughter, age 6, tells me that when the kids in school play 'kiss chase' and someone is caught, they are giving eachother lovebites. It's an infant school. Other things I've seen lead me to believe kids are actually making out in school, and everyday. I don't know exactly what happens.
I grew up in London and visited wales(where I am now) fairly regularly.I always noticed how girls here seemed to be really into boys and adult stuff (like real kissing,love bites,rubbing yourself) really young. It didn't happen where I lived. It's definately part of the culture here,I've seen it alot.
How can I keep control over this with my daughter?
2007-10-05 10:11:41 · 12 answers · asked by Acai 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
kazwaz01 illustrates perfectly what I say about the welsh culture.
2007-10-05 10:32:29 · update #1
We moved to Wales when I was 9, found the same as you - suddenly i wasnt normal playing with dolls it was all about boys and kissing and hell of a lot more before I reached 13!
From my experiences - my parents werent there for me emotionally, they were angry at me for wanting to do what everyone else was doing, i was constantly grounded and reprimanded and banned from talking to boys and older girls - unfortunately this left me extremely vulnerable and i became a target for the boys in particular who thought it was great to see who could follow me home and get closest to my house etc
Girls were considered slags and boys thought it was ok to rape ( it wasnt rape because the girls were asking for it!!!)
How to protect your daughter?1.)move
2.)dont be angry at her
3.)be as loving and supportive as you can so she isnt isolated and left vulnerable.
4.)be open and honest - she'd be better off losing her innocence by you telling her things early than by experiencing them if you dont.
5.)go up the school and raise it as a serious issue.
6.)try discussing it with other parents.
good luck
2007-10-05 11:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by happyearthmother 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Aldous Huxley would be proud: this sounds like something out of "Brave New World."
If it's part of the local culture, there's not much you can to shield your daughter from it. It's upsetting, but relatively harmless, since kids that age don't have a sex drive, so it's more mimicking others than anything else (except that the rubbing business probably feels good even without hormones). But if she accepts it as normal behavior, she's going to have a problem if she ever lives anywhere else.
If you have to stay in that environment, the best you can do is keep reminding her that such things aren't done by polite people in the rest of the world.
2007-10-05 17:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You should definately move away from Wales! If you dont like their culture then there is no point in being there. The only other alternative is either speak to her teachers or take her out of school altogether and home school her.
good luck x
2007-10-05 18:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by angelcakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The kid are in theory supervised at break times, talk with the head and dont take any old answer from him. Take a picture of any MARKS on your daughter as proof
Take care and have a good weekend
sorry Kaz no offence was meant and to the welsh people i apologise and remove the comment
2007-10-05 17:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First tell the teachers that this is happening. If the school doesn't stop the kids from doing this, then report them to Children Services or the cops.
Playing out sexually is normal in most cultures Mostly is done in private.
Explain to your daughter that this behavior is not good at this age and teach her ways to say NO. Teach her to report this to the teacher. Tell her that this is private/adult behavior and kids her age need to be playing and not playing like this.
Please go to the school and complain.
2007-10-05 17:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I understand your concerns, i would be the same. As other people have said tell the school. Obviously, some children are being taught things they shouldn't and taking them to school.
2007-10-05 18:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by katiekatjas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there kids , they need to learn this stuff some where , when its just between each other its harmless uless its upsetting your daughter , now if the teachers were joining in on the game....
maybe the welsh are just horny
2007-10-06 06:37:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the school's administrator.
But besides that, you should know, you will never be able to fully protect your daughter from such things, you can only do your best.
2007-10-05 17:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by supertaters 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you really need to talk to the teachers. also, talk to your daughter about your thoughts and concerns, in a way appropriate for her age.
2007-10-05 17:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~BlueMonkey~ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can not. if so you might shelter her to much. Just raise an intelligent child, teach her right ffrom wrong and emphasize the fact that her body is a temple and she should treat it with respect. And if you are religious try to install the fear of god in her.
2007-10-05 17:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by candice c 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋