Yesterday, I was working with this guy and we were chatting about our favorite restaurants. I then mentioned this one restaurant that I really liked. I asked if he had been there before or if he knew which one I meant. He responded with the comment: "Are you asking me on a date?" I was completely floored and simply said no. I have no interest in this guy and was just making polite conversation.
Was this the wrong thing to say to a person? Do many guys respond this way to an offhand comment such as this? Should I address the issue again with him? It was a very awkward situation.
2007-10-05 10:11:04 · 13 answers · asked by beautyqueenjustine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me you are a little more interested that you are willing to admit....
No it was not the wrong thing to say to him, if you are truly not interested in him. Awkward, what is there to feel awkward about it, if the thought didn't run through your head until AFTER it was all said and done. No you shouldn't address the issue with him again, UNLESS you have changed your mind and would like to go out with him. I suggest forgetting about it, and if it is mentioned by him again, making a joke out of it.
But really, let's think about this, you have no interest, but you are asking in yahoo answers...... someone liked the attention, which is perfectly normal, I think you got flustered, and entertained the idea.
2007-10-05 10:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the type of statement that , had he been right, would've successfully bridged the gap between where he was and where he was trying to get. We do that on occasion and we KNOW they're risky, but (1) they motivate us past shyness-induced intertia, and(2) sometimes their sheer shock value works in our favor with the object of our affection...(in this case, you). Kinda sucks when they're wrong, though. Maybe you could just leave it alone unless you're really interested in rubbing his nose in it.
2007-10-05 10:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha.
Just think, he could have been joking to.
I mean, if you were all "have you been there?"
*bats eyelashes, bites lip*
He might take it the wrong way,
But if it still is REALLY awkward,
get a group of friends again,
bring up the subject and be like,
"hey, you should come. It is really causal
and we could party like too old FRIENDS"
or something like that.
Just be causal, like nothing awkward happened
and If HE brings it up,
just blow it off like it was no big thing.
Goodluck!
(:
2007-10-05 10:16:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a try. Bring it up again, but don't completely blurt it out one day. I got asked out by a guy yesterday. I wasn't interested in the guy, but I found out that he was real sweet. Every guy deserves a chance. You never know how one will be till you give him a chance. And yes, guys do do that alot. :)
2007-10-05 10:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Casey ChaVig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A really easy way for girls to ask out guys is to tell them what they like and ask them if they've ever been there, which (if the guy likes the girl) prompts him to say "We should go sometime". It's likely something that has happened to him, and instead of being the one to ask, he simply came right out and asked you if you were asking him on a date.
No, not many guys respond that way unless they're teasing you or want to ask you out. Don't bring it up again unless he does, then say "Thanks but no thanks."
2007-10-05 10:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, sound slike he was serious when he asked you if you were asking him out.....but maybe there is some small chance he was joking? Or maybe in his mind he was being funny? If you don't think that's the case, I'd just avoid it and him.......sounds very awkward, so who knows what a confrontation would turn out like!
2007-10-05 10:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Elsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn´t pay any attention to that. Nothing to do with what you asked... Don´t address anything with him if you´re not interested, because if he twists again your meanings, he´ll say that you just want something else with him..Wew...forget it..
2007-10-05 10:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he over-reacted just a bit... maybee he took it the wrong
way cuz he had that on his brain....
if i was you i would clear it with him...
be like.... "i didnt mean anything by it... im sorry if you took
it the wrong way.. i was just trying to make conversation"
2007-10-05 10:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by KrYsTaL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny!! And that's strange!
Maybe he was just fooling with you - you know -yankin' your chain?
Because if dude was serious, I'd have to steer clear of him if I were you. Dude's got warped abnormal thinkin'!
2007-10-05 10:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by purplex62 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt take it seriously. i think he was just playing with you. now if he asks you on a date, then its a different story then.
2007-10-05 10:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by xnismosr20de 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋