I have a friend she has kids of my child's age, in the weekends, about once every 2 weeks, she would drop her children off in my house. She said she and her husband need time without kids. It's probably my culture, but I never ask any favors from her, because we're sufficient about taking care of our own child. I have never ask her for babysitting money either, because she's a friend. I often have to cook for those children during dinner. Do you think it's fair for us?
2007-10-05 10:07:15 · 8 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yeah, I wonder what type of help I will get from them, since they're busier than us.
2007-10-05 10:27:40 · update #1
Sometimes when I read your questions, I feel you already know the answer, but just want some others to reinforce your own thoughts. Because that is absolutely an example of taking advantage of someone. I dont know her and didnt take the time to read the other answers. I do not feel i need to either. Clearly this is not a good way tp treat a friend. Ok I am supposed to be the answerer, but I would like to know, is this the only thing u find that you do for your friend, I get the feeling its not. For them just to assume they have a cost free child care service available is unbelievable. I also think that if you dont deal with this , they could end up calling you mommy. A good test might be , tell her next time that you husband and yourself would like some alone time and can this weekend be her turn. Her response to this will be all the answer you need. I hope you are fine by the way !!
2007-10-05 11:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think they are using you. If they need time without kids, let them hire a babysitter. Explain to your friend how you feel to her, and remind her how you never ask her to do this for you. If she is a real friend, she will understand. My ex-husband had friends that would drop their kids off at our place, saying they both had to go to work, and drive off before I could even say no. At least once a week. I finally quit answering the door.
2007-10-05 17:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kate J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have friends that take care of my girls, and sometimes we take care of their kids.
If you're uncomfortable with the situation you should talk to your friend. She may not realize that you feel this way.
You mention, "...we're sufficient about taking care of our own child." I don't think it's an issue of being sufficient or insufficient. Sometimes it's nice to spend time with your husband without the kids.
2007-10-05 17:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by trigam41 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be different if she offered to babysit your children in exchange but it seems like they expect you to watch them for free on a regular basis. They need to hire a babysitter if they need childcare every other weekend. Of course I have friends with kids and every once in a while we watch them or they watch our kids so one of us can rest. But it is taking advantage if they just expect you to babysit their kids on a regular basis.
2014-11-10 02:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have baby sat my friends children and money never comes into it.. same as at times she's had my kids. same again no money involved.. it's not often it happens . last time i done it i had her 4 children for about 8 hours because her gran was in hospital dying and not many can cope with her autistic teenager. so i was best coice.. even though i had to arrange someone to watch my children i done it..
as long as one friend does not take the piddle i see no problem in free baby sitting
2007-10-05 20:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by Fluffy Cheryl♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All my friends understand that we rarely ever get away and we only ask if we must go somewhere. so they offer to babysit for free. we even have friends that will come up to us and tell us go away and they will baby set for us. I think this is a true friendship when you can always count on your friends.
If you don't want too just explain to them how you feel.
2007-10-05 18:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lori T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you do not want to do it than tell her that you are busy for that day...or, step away from your culture and leave your kids with her. Every couple needs date nite without the kids no matter if you feel like you need to or not. Date nite helps you rekindle the love flames with your mate!!
I leave my kids with family and friends....I do offer to pay but they never take my money!!!
2007-10-05 17:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes u are helping out ask the them for some help they are saying i would help u if u ask
2007-10-05 17:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋