He only got to see the 8 week ultrsound and go to my 12 wk and 15 wk appts bfor he left.
At my 26 wk ultrasound, they couldn't find out the sex of the baby, and they wouldn't print a pic, and I can't get another ultrasound.
I feel bad because he wanted to be here with me for this so bad- we've tried for baby for 3yrs.
He was scheduled to take his R&R around the time when the baby's due, but now he won't be able to take it until 4 months after.
I'll most likely be having a c-section (in December).
He does not have access to the internet.
I only have a regular camera (not digital).
Will the doctors take pix of me and the baby? (No one will be there with me to take pictures).
Can I send a Red Cross message for a birth announcment? (I don't want to get him in trouble).
If I can't send him a message via Red Cross, what are some cute ways to announce the birth and involve him---(via mail, since he doesn't have internet, and he only gets to call once every few months)?
2007-10-05 10:01:28 · 8 answers · asked by badtzgurl420 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
first of all, congrats on your pregnancy...and also, i am so sorry your husband won't be there with you during the birth. You don't have any friends or relatives to attend with you? My heart goes out to you.
Most hospitals now don't allow video feed or pictures of the actual birth (at least here they don't) due to litigation issues that can arise.
However, you may be able to ask an attending nurse to take a few snaps of yourself and your baby just after he/she is born. You can send these pictures along with a written account of the birth with all the details he would have been a part of had he been there. I am sure your husband will be thrilled to see them. Also, contact your local newspaper and add a birth announcement in there (it's really inexpensive)...when that paper comes out, buy a couple, send him one and keep the other in a scrap book. For your husband to see your and his name and the baby's name in print may be a way for him to make the event tangible.
Also, I am sure the military will make sure he knows when you are giving birth and that he gets the birth announcement. Wouldn't it be wonderful if he could call and talk to you during your c section?
Sending my best thoughts, hopes and prayers your way for a safe delivery and a way for your husband to be there...if not physically, then spiritually and emotionally with you as a support.
2007-10-05 10:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by RaddicalGrl25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can send him a red cross message, you can actually send him a message before you go into labor so that maybe he can call you and talk to you while you give birth. The nurses will take pictures for you but I doubt the doctor will, just take TONS of pictures. It will all be okay he will be home pretty shortly after you have the baby which is a good thing. I got pregnant when my husband was home on R&R and he got home when I was 6 months pregnant. If you need/want to talk i will definetely be there for you just email me. Does he not have an internet lab he can go to? At the post we were assigned to they occasionally had days where they would let families sign up to do a video conference with their family members in Iraq. Do they do that where you are stationed? You should check into it.
2007-10-05 10:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sherie D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you in with your Family Readiness Group? In all likelihood one of the other spouses would probably be glad to show up to take pics of the event or maybe just slightly after.
You should follow up with the command either through the Ombudsman/Key Volunteer or the person they've designated to be a go between for the families. When that person knows you're pregnant and when you're due the messages get out to the military member faster. The Red Cross, I believe, handles good news as well as bad but they have to confirm the message with the stateside command structure before they send anything.
2007-10-05 10:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to mention it however no. Most of the time squaddies arrive a couple of weeks after receiving a pink pass message (many times they cannot). I doubt the unit could ship him residence after three months. I wish the army proves me improper. I desire your loved ones the quality. Edit: I noticed a few persons write approximately R&R and scheduling it for that time period. It is viable, relying on demands unit...and so on. But truthfully, they begin R&R at across the five-6 month (mid excursion). Also, we now have squaddies who time table their R&R across the supply date, however turn out to be lacking the beginning (late/early supply). Once once more I wish the army proves me improper and that your husband can go back in your babygirl in Sept.
2016-09-05 19:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will probably not be able to have pics taken while in surgery. in any case the docs and nurses will be busy DELIVERING said baby and will not have time to pose for pics. yes, the red Cross is the way to go, although you can also go through Rear Det/FRG as well.
2007-10-05 12:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
set-up a video feed on a lap-top for the big day. Congrats!
2007-10-05 10:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lavrenti Beria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to have someone in there to take pics or a video
2007-10-05 10:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
computer camera.
can video feed to him
2007-10-05 10:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by LadyAmerican 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋