My daughter is engaged, we made arrangements to meet her intendeds parents...just a nice quiet sit down dinner party at home..our married children their spouses, and a few close family and friends..everyone arrived on time we chit-chatted over drinks..I noticed the boys Mother was missing, thinking she may have stepped into the powder room..I went to the kitchen to check on the cateriers..when what to my surprise..she was in their DIRECTING THEM...adding salt to the dishes...dismissing our heirloom china and silver for PAPERPLATES!!..critiicizing the wait staff..causing our caterier to threaten to leave..
I quietly guided the MOTHER out of the kitchen so the catiers could get on with dinner..when the MOTHER went into a fury, screatching at the top of her lungs and stormed out..my daughter spent the night in tears, and the mother is refussing to attend any of the wedding parties or showers..
How could I have handled this diffrently...
Like I said Im so angry I could spit
2007-10-05 09:58:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well, if this is going to be someone you have to spend years meeting for holidays, celebrating births of grandchildren, brace yourself.
Try to arrange a meeting with her to get a better feel for her. She may be an attention freak or have major controlling issues.
Be yourself without ruffling any feathers.
Why was your daughter in tears ?
Did she not realize what the mother was doing?
Maybe this is her way to break up your daughters relationship.
What ever the case might be do not allow her to come between you and your daughter.
How is her relationship with her son?
What about the relationship with your daughter?
Does his family have a history of mental illness?
Is your daughter mad at you? Is he?
Please respond under comments.
2007-10-05 10:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you did othing wrong at all, and this woman is a control freak. Find out more about her from your daughters fiancee re her character, and if this is typical behaviour. Is there any reason she would behave in this way to try to sabotage the union?
She is either incredibly rude, or has another agenda - you need to find out which.
2007-10-05 17:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by cobra 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. You should be happy that the drama queen isn't attending future parties. Your daughter should know what happened and speak to her fiancee about his mothers behavior. At least she knows what kind of mother-in-law she's going to be dealing with.
2007-10-05 18:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well there was only 2 ways to handle this,One was your way and the other was to walk away and act like you never seen her doing this.She was in the wrong not you,as long as you handled it with dignity and respect you are fine.
2007-10-05 17:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You acted perfectly, in my opinion. The MOTHER sounds like she's been wayyyy too tightly wound.
But, to be the bigger person, I would suggest that you come to her, apologize (even though it's not your fault) and smoothly talk it over.
And you do have every right to be angry!
2007-10-05 17:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by ♪♫♪♫♪ 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You did everything right. It sounds to me like that woman does not like it when she is not the center of attention.
But I have to agree with Amber, the only way to smooth this over is for you to apologize even though you were in the right.
Some peoples parents.......
2007-10-05 17:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Tor 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
apologize to her for no reason and then kiss her "a" until the wedding and after your daughter leaves the reception and is happy let that bag know what a heinous ***** she is.
2007-10-05 17:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by irish398 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋