She is mad at me and wants to break up. (Understandable) But I love her to death and want to change my ways. She is for me the one I want to grow old with. What should I do?
2007-10-05 09:31:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first things first....lose the booze buddy!!
im sure u feel like crap!! as you should!! alcohol is not your friend...especially if it makes you violent.
unfortunately, you have to wait until she's ready to talk to you or forgive you. right now she's afraid...she doesn't know if she can trust you b/c of this. if she is where you want to be...just be patient and fix ur problem in the meantime. if u have a alcohol problem...fix it, ASAP on your own. in the event that she ever speaks to you again, let alone take you back, please believe that you her and alcohol will not be a welcomed combination. dont go back to her in the same condition you left her...improve yourself if its nothing more than getting a hold on your drinking issue or anger issue(whichever applies).
Also, if she is what u want....STAY AWAY FROM OTHER WOMEN!!!!!
although she may not be speaking to you rt now....u being with other women in the meantime will not turn out good for you if ur leaving her msgs saying u still want to be with ur g/f yet ur seeing other women until she decides she can try the relationship again.
take the time off to work on you...if ur g/f decides she cant continue the relationship rt now.
If you truly want to change ur ways...DO IT!!! dont just say u want to, you have to actually do it.
Good Luck...sorry things happened that way. learn from it though..and for your sake, dont do it again EVER!!
2007-10-05 09:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by Growing day by day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for recognizing what you have done was wrong. That's a very important first step. But now you need to anylize the situation a little further. Would this have happened if you hadn't been drinking? If the answer is no, then you may need to look into laying off the liquor. Either way, you need to focus on what provoked the incident and find the appropriate help so you don't let it happen again. We are always in control of our emotions and our reactions, although sometimes it's more difficult at times. I think if you talk to her and explain that you would like to get help to correct the problem (even if it's a one time thing, it's still a problem), she may be willing to work with you, but be prepared to accept the fact that she may not be willing to face this one head on with you
2007-10-05 09:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal_Clear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is two bad you behaved that way getting her back could be hard i wouldn't tolerate it either drunk or not. I would give her sometime in the mean time start your changing make big changes so that she sees them don't just say what you want to change actions speak louder then words show her something different and worth her time you feel me but time will tell her needs to cool off for one flowers and apologies could help
2007-10-05 09:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize, apologize, apologize. Tell her that you know what you did was wrong, and that she has every right to be upset. Furthermore, I'd suggest not getting drunk with her, or probably any other female, anymore. Now that you know first hand it will cause you to make these kinds of bad decisions, you've got no excuse if it happens again.
2007-10-05 09:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by corny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking and go see a counsellor. She should be mad at you and never see you again, there is NEVER an excuse to "put you hands on her", unless she intent on causing you grave bodily harm. Drinking is not the reason for this kind of conduct, it is just an excuse for letting it happen, you need professional help.
2007-10-05 09:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She treats you like that as a results of fact you permit her. you will possibly desire to placed your foot down. I had a married couple that lived with me as quickly as and that's how she taken care of him. He in basic terms permit it pass until eventually he ought to no longer take it anymore and then issues have been given rather grotesque. you will possibly desire to tell her, "look, im working, i don't have time to be working around the domicile for you, arise and do it your self". she would be waiting to offer you mindset and he or she would be waiting to mad yet basically for a quick time. i'm no longer asserting be a jerk, what i'm asserting is do no longer me one among those push over.
2017-01-03 04:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by terrero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking is not an excuse for any behavior. Don't drink if you can't control yourself. That would be a good place to start with an apology.
2007-10-05 09:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that your sorry,what happened that night was a mistake and promise her that it wouldn't happen again,give her a dozen roses to make it all up
2007-10-05 09:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by lancelotdelapaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take u back... move on and get some help before it gets worse
2007-10-05 09:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by ★★pixie★★ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it took you to do that because you were drinking then you need to stop drinking If you're scared to lose her.
2007-10-05 09:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋