Why won't our 4yrs and 11mth old son stop crying in school?

Question

Hello,
Our son has been in school since the age of 1yr 3mths. This year he started Kindergarten at a public school. I'm not sure if it's the change of atmosphere or how big his new school is compared to the last 2 he's been in, but his teacher informs us that he will not stop crying. We've tried talking to him about it and asking him questions about how his day went but he tells us all is well. In the morning he gets on the school bus happy as can be, but an hour into the school day he begins to fuss and refuses to do the work at times. When he's home all he ever wants to do is his activity books...so he obviously enjoys the work...just not the school. We don't know what else to try and I feel so bad that I can't help my baby... :( anyone else ever been through a similar situation?

Hi Debbie, in the a.m. he has his favorite which is hot cereal...we're working closely with the school to figure out what's going on. Also, he receives speech therapy and OT...

Answer 1

Something in the other schools was comforting to him. How odd.

Maybe he's not ready for such a big school. Maybe a smaller private school for a year would be better. Or maybe homeschooling. Maybe his teacher will send all the undone work home, and your son will be happy to complete it there.

I have a child that was smart and making A's but his social skills were 2-3 years under his mental abilities. We held him back a year and told him that this year his only job was to make friends.

What do you feed him for breakfast? It sounds like his blood sugar drops. Maybe he needs to eat a snack every hour or so? Maybe he's just a solitary--like montesorri--learner.

You're very blessed to have such a smart, engaging young man who is so interested in school activities. You just have to work with the school, the teacher, counselor and principle, and perhaps the district psychologist to find how your son's needs can be fulfilled within the range of public school.

TX Mom
Mine is 17 now, and my daughter is 21

Answer 2

I think if the teachers in his current class cannot pin point it and he's not exactly coming out and saying what's bothering him--then I would try to take the day off and go in and observe him, quietly if you can. And observe the teachers as well. My daughter's first preschool experience was awful. The teachers were not caring. The school was cold and sterile. I asked them how she was doing, they assured me she was fine. But, she wasn't fine. When she did cry, they left her there to cry. I know a lot of kids have to figure it out (separating, longer hours) on their own, but my daughter just needed some reassurance, a hug, hand held...etc. I observed class one day, and took her out. The next school we tried, big difference. Warm, nurturing...loving. He may just need some time, but it's already been a month. The school, their teaching style, might not be a good fit for your son. I would think this--especially if he's never had any other problems with the other schools. Also, maybe you can talk to his prior teachers and see if they can offer insight.

Answer 3

It is probably just a change in the way things are done and the atmosphere. Ask the school what they think should be done. Maybe he just needs a break from school. Kindergarten is just to prepare him for the first grade. It is an option where I live. As long as he knows the basics, colors and number, shapes....then he does not really need kindergarten. There is also always homeschooling.

Answer 4

Kindergarten is a big change. You do a lot more education learning activities than you do in preschool. It can be a lot for young children to handle. If he doesn't adjust within a couple of weeks , maybe he needs to wait another year before kindergarten or only do half day kindergarten

Answer 5

i'm somewhat at a loss for words on how grounding him from toys and time outs are going to reason him to rejoice with college extra. that must be the easily reason the temper tantrums are continuing. undergo in innovations that young infants will associate the punishment with the college. you're inflicting him extra stress whilst he is going to college. and there is not any actual reason to get in hassle for throwing a temper tantrum. i think of the suitable component to do is to get him right into a on a regular basis habitual whilst he is going to college. After commentary of the artwork era, the instructor could desire to have an relatively stable concept of what form of self-help skills the youngster enjoys. For one baby, it must be an straightforward pouring or scooping artwork. for yet another baby, it must be watering or cleansing vegetation. I even have pupils that are available in crying plenty, whilst they cool down, do this interest they rejoice with. I do this each and daily. After a mutually as, the youngster now and returned is presented in and does it on his very own mutually as crying. Then ultimately looks forward to doing it. i've got even had this artwork on some thing so straightforward as tearing off the date on the calendar to instruct it fairly is the next day. Ritual is very important in education. It feels like this is all he desires. He additionally desires a affected person instructor and oldsters to attend for the duration of the crying.

Answer 6

it could be the change , have you tryed asking his teacher if you can come in and sit in the class room a few days a week, some schools will let you if your child has a problem, i would do this like 3 days in a roll then cut down to 2 days a week and then he might get more comfortable. good luck.

Answer 7

Something is upsetting him, something he is reluctant to tell you. Could be a classmate bullying him (which would be embarrassing for him) or the change, but whatever it is, you need to observe him for a few days in school to see what's going on. Follow him even to the bathroom, just to see if he's OK with the other kids and teachers. Watch how he reacts to them.

Answer 8

See if there is a bully, if it is not the school work then it is somewhere there. If you can just show-up unannounced one day and see what he is doing.

Answer 9

How does he do socially with other children? Does he have friends in his class??