ok so im only 12 and a-half. And my boyfriend is almost 15, even though he is in the same grade as me(7th).He always want me to hug him. He also touches my butt all the time, then when he says good-bye to me at school he wants me to kiss him, but im not ready to yet.Because he is only my 2nd boyfriend and i'v never had my first kiss.my last boyfriend didn't even talk to me so i don't know what to do.someone help me plz.
2007-10-05 09:00:58 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear one, you are too young to have a boyfriend. Please try to get involved in groups, activities, school, your family....
Boys have only one thing on their mind at this age and you don't need that.
2007-10-05 09:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Deb S (SFECU) pray4revival 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all your only 12. Don't rush things cause you don't want to get yourself into a situation you can't get out of. To you the age difference between 12 and 15 doesn't seem a lot, but sometimes when it comes to experience it can be more than you think. I know you said he's only in 7th grade with you, but that is probably cause it wasn't very smart with school and failed or got held back a few times. Which is not a good sign for him either. If your not ready for something which at your age there should be plenty you are not ready for cause would your mother approve? Then you shouldn't do anything you don't feel comfortable with and if he can't except that especially with the age difference then you should just get rid of him. Kick him out of your life he can't tolerate you not be ready to kiss him yet. That's my opinion and I'm a mom. I don't want my daughter kissing guys at 12 either so I'm for sure not going to tell you to do it. I say wait a few more years or so and gain some maturated and then you can think more about boys.
2007-10-05 09:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should NOT be touching your butt. If he is 15 in the 7th grade then I am assuming he was held back?! You deserve much better. You are only 12 and should not be worrying about a boyfriend, especially this guy because he sounds like a jerk.
Tell him that you do not appreciate him touching you inappropriately, nor are you ready to kiss him.
2007-10-05 09:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Yomama 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never let a guy, whether he's your boyfriend or not, do anything to you that makes you uncomfortable or push you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable. Period.
If you don't like him touching your butt (I don't blame you!) push his hand away next time he tries. If he questions you, tell him you don't like it. Same deal with kissing. If he tries to plant one on you, avoid it. Chances are he'll ask you about it, and it's perfectly fine to tell him that you aren't ready for that yet.
It might feel a little awkward, but it's important to communicate with him, and a good guy will respect your decisions.
I know you've probably heard this before, and it will probably show up in half your other answers, but you're only 12. You've got plenty of time for boys, and you're the only one who can decide what's right for you. Good luck!
2007-10-05 09:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by corny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly do you like this guy in a boyfriend mannar? If you dont want him touching your butt and you dont feel like you wanna kiss him, dont and tell him the reason why. If you really like this guy and feel ready to be in a relationship with him you wouldnt feel like this, also the fact that he is 15 he should know better. He is old enough to know right from wrong as are you, so just tell him it doesnt feel right to you, be honest with him. Also as he is 15 i am guessing he has had other girlfriends with whom he kissed etc, so be careful this guy isnt wanting more than to hold hands and share a few kisses. Tell him where you both stand before you in a situation you feel even more uncomfortable in. Good luck. Take care. xx
2007-10-05 09:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what is right for you, when I was about your age (maybe a little older) there was a guy that wanted me to sleep with him I told him I wouldn't be ready till I was ready to handle the consequences if I got pregnant. He dropped me like a hot potato years later he told me that even though he was mad, he respected me for taking a stand. If this guy isn't ready to wait, dump him plenty more fish in the sea! Good luck you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders!
2007-10-05 09:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, break up with him. if hes 15 and in the 7th grade, not gonna be a winner in life, you can do so much better. second, if he refuses to stop touching you, tell a teacher, principal or parent. he needs someone in authority to tell him to stop. what hes doing is wrong. and finally, you are only 12, enjoy life, you can get a boyfriend later.
2007-10-05 09:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter if he's in the 7th grade,it just means he's kind of stupid.he shouid be in the slow class anyway. he's too old for you and he's nasty so break up with him,make him stop touching your butt tell a teacher/principle.and dont kiss anyone who your not ready too. you can always meet a nice,respectful boy your age to date.
2007-10-05 09:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a good girl, he isnt a good boyfriend if he pressures you, besides if hes in the same grade as you and your 12 and hes 15, i believe you are dating a mild retard, and everyone knows not to let retards touch your butt, expecially if your 12
2007-10-05 09:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have plenty of time to kiss take your time and if he is 15 in the 7th grade he is a bit slow you need to study hard and not date but if you do atleast get a smart boy
2007-10-05 09:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your not ready to do those things yet. Don't ever let a guy make you feel uncomfortable. If he's a good guy, he'll understand. If he gives you grief about it, then dump him! Your only 12, you'll meet someone else.
2007-10-05 09:05:14 · answer #11 · answered by Cassie R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋