My question is how important is physical attractiveness to you? Have you ever been with somebody who is not the most physically attractive person, (I'm not saying a dog, but maybe you've dated much better looking people)but everything else about them is the best? Does this bother you some, and do you ever think about what if I had all of these things in somebody that was a little more attractive than the one that I am with? How about guys with ladies or maybe people who think they are not the best looking person and have somebody who is really attractive? I need some opinions as to how you all feel about this.
2007-10-05 08:11:54 · 6 answers · asked by starchild4485 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have found that the more I like someone's personality and character, they start to look better to me than ever. It doesn't work if the person is completely revolting to me. However if it is simply the case that I didn't find them attractive before, his personality can make him look like prince charming if he's high quality on the inside.
2007-10-05 08:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'd like to say that what I find attractive is about the complete opposite of every other female on the planet, but I think the same thing applies to everyone.
Physical attraction is the spark that gets you interested in getting to know someone who is a stranger to you. (You see a guy at a party, you think he's attractive, you consider dating him.) However, if you've known someone for a while and they have a great personality, that might make them more attractive to you.
So I would say it's only important to the point that it gets you interested and talking; after that, if you're only in the relationship because the other person is good-looking, that's harmful to both of you. I think in the end, you're going to want to spend your life with someone who complements you and treats you well, not someone who looks good standing next to you.
2007-10-05 08:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are important to me, but they are not the final factor.
The final factor is how they treat me and how I feel when they are around.
I read that most people rate the most desirable quality in a mate as Kindness. Yes that means different things to different people, but it all works out to how you feel around that person.
As far as men going for looks and women going for money/success/value, those are jsut where the two sexes differ most in how important those things are.
There is a range of looks that I find physically attractive. If they don't fit it when I meet them, it probably won't work. However, some people have made the leap.
2007-10-05 08:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by soelo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People seem to think this is "wrong" but I am only usually attracted to guys who are very attractive. I've tried to be more open minded and date less attractive guys but some of them turn out to be jerks anyway! Also, I feel justified about being picky because in my experience most men are *extremely* superficial, sorry to say.
However, looks aren't everything. I have dated good looking guys who didn't fit me in other ways (e.g. weren't good kissers or weren't ambitious). I've also dated less good looking guys I was really attracted to for whatever reason.
2007-10-05 08:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by quirkyfunnyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worried a lot about it when I was with my ex husband (when we started dating) because he was SO much more handsome than I ever was "pretty"...I felt we didn't "fit"...but HE didn't seem to have a problem with my looks (or lack of them).
I have never turned down a person for a date/relationship based on his physical appearance, and I don't believe *I* have been rejected for that reason, either.
2007-10-05 08:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very important
2007-10-05 08:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋