O.K., I have no problem getting a female's phone number, going on a date, or even getting sex with a female. My problem lies here: I can get them, but I can't keep them. I want so bad to have a relationship, but I can't seem to get a female who wants to commit to me. I've been thinking what could I be doing wrong? I seriously want just one female, it's more stable and convenient for me. Money wise anyway. LOL Seriously, help me out someone. Why are females evading my proposal for a relationship?
2007-10-05 08:01:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look, if you do nothing else tonight, just trust me on this one and believe what i say....ok....you dont tell any lady that you want a relationship....are we clear on that....you tell no woman that you want them to commit to you....you stay schtum about anything in the future...do you get that....its hard to explain with out actually speaking to you but ill try to explain.....picture a relationship as a circle....divide that circle into 2 halves....each half must consist of ying and yang....opposites...do you get that....so what ever you give out to the ladies...you will get the exact opposite back...the more you tell them you want a relationship the more you will find yourself with ladies that dont...i knw this is gona be hard to grasp....even if you dont grasp it...please just do what i say....and watch the results....good luck...you sound like a lovely fella x
2007-10-05 08:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start cultivating yourself. Spend at least 3 hours/day away from work, TV and internet doing something that fulfills you. Develop your interests and longterm goals, not just those that are work related. In this day and age of instant divorce and hordes of guys looking to score, some of them hotter than you, there is little incentive for a girl to stick around ANY guy unless she is attracted to his personality, to who he is as a person.
My suggestion is to scrap dating when looking for longterm relationships/potential marriages. Most (not all but most) of these couplings come from social circles. Go out with the objective to meet and befriend as many people as possible, but only go for quality friendships rather than quantity. Once you find a girl you REALLY vibe well together try on an overt level to be friends with her, and if the vibe is good on her end she will definitely not object, but also covertly game her at the same time, under the radar, until she is ready to be seduced. Yes, it's a risk, you'll have to steer dangerously close to the "let's-just-be-friends" zone but if your sense of self is strong enough you will not land there.
She needs to feel strong attraction AND friendship to you to accept a long-term relationship, and the latter is what I believe you need to work on.
2007-10-05 08:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's bizarre b/c most women/girls would kill for someone who wants commitment. I think that maybe there is something you're tellin them that's puttin a few red flags up and possibly pushin em away. Maybe you are tryin too hard, being too pushy, or maybe they feel like its all about sex. Also maybe your rep has made it hard for you...could that be it? Just take your time and dont be too pushy with the whole serious thing. Plus, it could be the girls you are going after, maybe you should try and look/date/see different types of girls. Good Luck
2007-10-05 08:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God's Strength it sounds from your question like you are perhaps trying way to hard to convince yourself and a girl that she needs you and you need a relationship. Well if you act more non-chalaunt regarding finding someone it may just occur naturally. Give yourself some time and do not seem so desperate and good things will happen.
2007-10-05 08:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, you're not telling them the "It's more stable and convenient for me...money-wise, anyway" comment.
Could it be that your proposals might sound a little too casual to take realistically?
2007-10-05 08:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are a playa dude. Do you think you are something special? Because judging by your statement you can get any chic you want. It is you that isn't holding on to them and maybe that is because you don't want just one.
I don't know. I know guys like you though. Not saying you are bad or anything but some guys give off that impression and girls don't like it.
2007-10-05 08:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably when you meet a girl and you make small talk you give off the vibe that your just looking for a good time and most girls assume that that means no relationship but you need to somehow explain that you CAN want to have a good time and a serious relationship. (and i didnt necessarily mean in bed)
2007-10-05 08:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by cleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are coming on too strong or too quickly. Good relationships take time. It sounds like you are pushing the issue... you have to have a relationship. Just kick back and relax and don't push.
2007-10-05 08:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by manymeese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly becos its glaring that u are a chauvinist, i havent even finished reading ur question and u're already stating how cheap it is to have one woman. well news they avade u becos u are a personified PUT OFF and your case must be realy bad. but no sorry to u and u wont get a steady relationship if u dont change and i mean really truly change.
2007-10-05 08:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sounds like you haven't found the right one yet. Be patient and above all, stop looking! That's what happened to me, and I met a truly wonderful man. Good luck!
2007-10-05 08:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋