my friends keep tellin me that dan is only goin out with me cause he says i have a great body and stuff and that he wants to have sex with me, i dont know what to do, like if i try to talk to him i wouldnt know what to say, i dont know who to believe now, my friends, or dan
2007-10-05 08:00:02 · 46 answers · asked by Beth 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him you want to wait before having sex or else you want to take a break from sex for a bit. if he breaks up with you then you know your friends are right.
2007-10-05 08:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Beth.
Well do YOU like to have great sex with Dan? Great sex is hard to come by most of the time. Most guys think that any sex is great sex...so if YOU think it is great sex and are happy with Dan...then do not worry about what your "friends" think or say. They might just be hating and wishing they were with Dan.
You brought up something else.....you said that you can not really talk and communicate with Dan. Communication is the key and foundation to a great, healthy, relationship. It took me a very long time to find my girlfriend. And now I am soooo happy. We talk about everything. And the by-product is AWESOME sex!
So again...figure out what is important to YOU. Your friends do not have to live your life or walk in your shoes. Follow your heart and own feelings.
Peace and hugs, Sonny
2007-10-05 08:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by S. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. First, don't have sex with him until you are married. Tell him you are saving yourself for your future husband, no matter who that may be. See if he still wants to date you. If he does, still do not have sex with him, no matter what. Your feelings are right. Dump the bum and don't give him any. Find a nice guy, you like and then after a while see what happens in the sex department. Most guys will dump you after the sex and call you a slut. If you get pregnant they will say it is not their baby and that you slept with the whole town. Your friends will laugh at you and not support you when you get pregnant. Do you need a kid in your life right now, without a husband and a good income.? Don't let that happen. Good Luck.
2007-10-05 08:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by FILE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't talk to him about it. If you do then he will just deny it. If that is what he is after. Take a new leap and tell him that you want to wait until you get married to have sex. You will see if he stays or not. Or you could just tell him that you are not in the mood all the time and you will see.
Your friends are probably right, but if you don't find out for yourself then you will never know the truth. He may really love you and then you may regret it.
Try one and see what happens.
2007-10-05 08:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beth,tell Dan that you are not going to have sex with him are anyone until you are ready and see how long he stays around that's your answer.Go look at yourself in the mirror and know for yourself that you do have a beautiful body,So now he won't be telling you something that you don't Already know
2007-10-05 08:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by ladydy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you TRUST Dan? You need to, if your relationship is going to work. If you can't talk to him about it, you're not emotionally ready to be having sex with him or anyone.
You may have known your friends longer than you've known Dan, but there may be issues of jealousy, etc., between your friends and him.
2007-10-05 08:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Bryce 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u have to figour it out wether he wants u for sex or he actually has some feelings and besides i bliv in 3d person ...u know 3d person always talk but if she/he said some thing i would take it into considration what if he/she is right so i wll start researchin and spy on him to see if he is doin something wrong and then researchin about hes behaviour and will get a complete resualt and then will take it from there if hes a good guy will stay with him til we decide to break up if not the will move one
2007-10-05 08:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, hon, it's cruel of your "friends" to say the guy is only going out with you for one reason. Sounds like they are rather jealous, to me? And i don't have any friends who act like this... if i did, i'd dump them...
You don't have to talk to Dan about this... do not have sex if you are not ready... it's just that simple! Dan will survive, and if he likes you, he will be understanding and respectful of your feelings...
take care.
2007-10-05 08:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy, don't have sex with him and see if he sticks around. If he leaves you after a couple of months you have your answer. you need to show some self respect here and make him prove that he wants you for more then sex. You also need to let him know that you are worth more.
If you even think he is only with you for sex and you go through with it you might as well ask him for money. Better to make some money then be an unpaid whore...
2007-10-05 08:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beth.....you have to think of yourself first. If you have doubts and concerns which could affect your health or your future, it is best to confront the problem head on. When you do go out with him, set the rules right away before things get out of hand. This will at least give him an idea of what to expect on your date. If he still wants to go out with you then you're more confident of the situation. Be on guard but not to a point that you're ruining the true moments. Enjoy and Yahoo on!
2007-10-05 08:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by hungrykong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont put out for a long time. If he's only after sex he'll give up after a while. If he really cares about you he'll stick around. Unfortunately the only answer you're going to get from him if you ask him is that he is not only after sex, whether he's telling the truth or not. No guy would admit to that.
2007-10-05 08:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋