There are soooooo many meetings and service and bible studies to attend, that my daughter's one extracurricular activity, will be squashed in between the Tues./Thurs. night meetings (her ext. activity willb eon Wed.nights), and every toher weekend, the kids go to thier dads.
I like the JW studies, am a little bit spooked about some of the stuff (transfusions and disfellowshipping, as I have kids, and what if they dont do right? Am I forced to completely ignore them? What happens if a accident happens, am I suppoed to watch them die), and am further discontented with the amoutn of time required at meetings.......I will have no time with my kids by the time I get off work, pick up from daycare, and go straight to meetings.............Help!
2007-10-05 07:54:27 · 27 answers · asked by it'sjustme79 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have been a jehovahs witness all my life and I found it very hard to go to meetings when I was younger. It will get easier as you start to progress spiritually. There is alot of controversy with the blood transfusion issue. Here is a great article on the offical jehovahs witness site that can help you understand http://watchtower.org/e/200608/article_02.htm. There is alot of good articles published on this site. Keep trying your hardest and things will get easier my friend. Make sure to pray to Jehovah for help and understanding. :-)
2007-10-05 09:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by car_chick21 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Well it sounds like you are deciding already to simply not be a Witness.
Honenstly, I was raised a Witness, as well were my 2 brothers. Of the 3 of us, I am the only one who has stuck to being a Christian.
The oldest one is currently living with his mistress and is a Witch.
The other one is disfellowshipped and is simply not currently interested in coming back.
At times I see both of them coming back, at other times, neither.
We are all imperfect, I doubt any parents always "get's it right" all the time.
My parents did the best they could. In the case of my oldest brother, it was less a matter of, he is not a Witness, and more a matter of he is stealing from us. So that did put a damper on things.
The other brother, while not as close a relationship as the various parties might like, has an Ok relationship with my Mom, my Dad is dead. I personally don't get along with him so it isn't much of an issue that he has left as I didn't spend much time with him anyway.
Every family handles things, such as disfellowshipping, differently. If you have concerns, I suggest you express them with whom ever you are studying.
I understand how hard it can be to get 1 on 1 time in the world we live in. Honestly, both my brothers have the same hard time with their kids, even though they don't go to meetings. Things will get better. As your daughter gets older her schedule should settle to where you to can find more and more common things to do.
Hope this helps.
EDIT
I am sorry for some of the rude answers you have received, for example the first one.
I do agree with Sarsi, up until the last paragraph:D. It is important for both you and your fiancee to talk about what you 2 want in life, as a couple and individuals, neither should be deciding to be Christians simply based on I want to make him/her happy.
2007-10-05 23:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ish Var Lan Salinger 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hard to believe that god wants people to forsake the lives they brought into the world to sit in a class and study man written books.
You only get one chance to be a good parent to your children. There are no do-overs when it comes to being a parent.
Ask yourself this, in 10 years will what I learned in class be more important than the time I lost with my children?
If you think the answer is yes, then go ahead. Otherwise you may want to rethink this.
Also, be prepared when your ex finds out what is going on he will have a real good court case to take over custody, especially if your kids become resentful of losing your love, time and affection. And final thought, unless your kids are really young (like 3 and under) they are going to HATE all the rules and lack of participation in parties and celebrations. I have seen this too many times with parents that convert.
2007-10-05 08:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gem 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Get out while the gettin' is good. In Christ, the second person of the Trinity, the perfect God-Man alone will you be freed from the burden of man's law that is unjustly dumped on you by this entity.
Listen to the truth about the Watchtower Bible & Tract Society: http://www.kfuoam.org/Issues_ETC/ie_01_16_07.htm
Also at the present homepage of Issues Etc.: Sept. 5 & Sept. 16, 2007 (http://www.kfuoam.org/ie_main.htm)
More: (http://www.kfuoam.org/querynew.asp?SearchType=2)
I pray that the Holy Spirit will lead you unto His truth through Jesus Christ our Creator, Savior, Sustainer. Amen.
2007-10-05 08:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sakurachan 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Luke 10:38-42 "Now as they were going their way he entered into a certain village. Here a certain woman named Martha received him as guest into the house. 39 This woman also had a sister called Mary, who, however, sat down at the feet of the Lord and kept listening to his word. 40 Martha, on the other hand, was distracted with attending to many duties. So, she came near and said: “Lord, does it not matter to you that my sister has left me alone to attend to things? Tell her, therefore, to join in helping me.” 41 In answer the Lord said to her: “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and disturbed about many things. 42 A few things, though, are needed, or just one. For her part, Mary chose the good portion, and it will not be taken away from her.”
which one would you like God and Jesus think you are like Martha or Mary?
you are learning about the bible exactly what Jesus command people that want everlasting life have to do (John 17:3).
You never see in the bible that the life of the people that want to serve God was easy always was difficult in fact truly christians are not having in this system ruled by Satan a good time always recieve oposition , the christian that is going always easy is not been persecuted in some way must verify why this world love you.
2007-10-05 16:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
I think you should follow Jesus instead:
Matthew 11:30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Mike
P.S. John 1:1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was [a] God. (Note, I'm not going to argue about the "a" here, it's close enough).
Jehovah's Witnesses claim to believe the Bible. Please find out what kind of God the Bible says Jesus is. He accepted worship, forgave sins, answered prayer, has all of God's fullness in Him, is called Almighty God and on and on. He is God. Yet, JW's don't accept Him as God. Feel free to e-mail me if you want Bible references.
Mike
2007-10-05 08:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by MikeM 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
This is really sad.
Answer is so obvious but you'd never accept it.
Have the courage of your conviction - some of it 'spooks you' - do you really think its real? IF God was real, would he really insist on such meaningless theatrics instead of common sense things like being a good person and being there for your children when they need you?
People can argue about God until the cows come home (I have an opinion but this is not the place) Your children are real - put them first.
I'd also ask you to consider whether it might be better to teach your babies how to think rather than what to think. They might decide to become JW then, but its not likely.
2007-10-05 07:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Leviathan 6 · 13⤊ 2⤋
YOu are in dangering your immortal soul by getting involved with the JW's... they do not teach The Truth of The Word of God... it is a man invented cult... not The Way to God or Heaven.... and you and indangering your daughter as well... get out now... seek The Truth Else where...
If you know nothing of The True Christian Faith and do not know where to seek The Truth... I invite you to visit my website... nothing fancy...just me talking about some of the God stuff... But I know The Truth... and I know you will not gain God's free gift of Salvation through the JW's...
I do not claim to know it all.... but I knowThe Truth of The Salvation Message... on my site you will find my email address if you have any questions concerning the basics... feel free to contact me...
http://www.mikesfaith.com
I have only been of The True Christian Faith for 7 of my 60 yrs... But my Salvation is assured... and I know you will not be hearing The Truth the way you are going... I will answer you questions as honestly as I am able... just please... for you and your daughters sake... do not continue on the path to deception you are on.
2007-10-05 08:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Sweetheart, not only will you not have any time to spend with your kids, you won't have any time to spend on yourself! And you can forget about spending time on Yahoo! One of the most insidious ways Jehovah's Witnesses take over your life is by insisting you go to all the meetings, by studying their literature with them. If you become a baptised JW, you will also have to go from door to door trying to convert others (and you will have to record how many hours you spend each week doing this). Your children will also be expected to come with you from door to door and to all the meetings - and to sit there with you. They also tell you not to mix with worldly people - anyone who isn't a JW.
Eventually, you will have no life other that that with the JW's. You will have no friends unless they are JW's. Your children will not be allowed to make friends unless they are JW's. You will become totally dependant on them for support.
Then, if you disagree with them and want out, you will be shunned. If your fiance sticks with them, he will be made to choose between the JW's and you. Then there are the issues of blood transfusions and disfellowshipping. This is serious stuff.
Please take the advice you've been given by others to talk to your fiance about your concerns. Ask him WHY he's trying to get back into this organisation. Is it fear? Because, according to the Bible, perfect love drives out fear. Sadly, the Watch Tower Organisation uses fear to keep their members in check. They dare not disagree. Take a stand to protect your children and yourself and try to help your fiance understand that you love him more than any man-made organisation. I will be praying for you.
2007-10-06 05:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
You've gotten scholarly answers from both sides so I'll speak to your heart insted of your intellect.
GOD gave you those instincts that are leading you to be 'spooked' at the possible impact on your daughter. Listen -- it's the unbiased answer to your reservations.
On the advice side, decisions made in fear and confusion have never resulted in God's will for me.
Please avoid my mistake!
2007-10-05 17:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by delyn 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋