K...I dated a guy for almost 4 years , i have 3 boys and he has a daughter.We was always very good about treating all 4 of them like our own. I love that little girl the same as I love my boys and no less.When we split up he moved to arizona , and it hurt so much to lose her.We.ve been split up for a year now .My x and I are still able to talk on line and I can keep track of how she is doing in her everyday life .I even get to watch her grow with the many pictures on myspace.And him with the boys.We both have chosen not to be togeather.But we also understand the love and the bonds that we have built with each others kids. But now i'm in a new relationship , and my new boyfriend doesn't understand.With us everything is his kids and my kids.He is very upset that I still talk to my X and is going to continue to act out untill I delete my x and his daughter from my life.He says I need to get over it..out with old, in with the new. Is this fair?Am i wrong for still talking to the x?
2007-10-05 07:45:23 · 5 answers · asked by Tiffany M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have a right to handle this in anyway you choose, but your current boyfriend's position is valid and very few guys would disagree with him. From my vantage point I can be happy for you and celebrate the maturity you and your ex have (and even applaud the closeness you've established with each others' children), but if I was attempting a relationship with you, you couldn't reasonably expect me to give a damn about any of that. It would be a great big barrier in my path, and a remnant of your past that just won't go away. I don't know whether this is fair or not....I don't feel qualified to say. But ask yourself, if the situation was reversed and your current boyfriend had a significant tie to an ex-girlfriend with children how accepting of their closeness would you be? (Or would you feel threatened, as if there wasn't sufficient room for you?)
2007-10-05 08:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky but I think your boyfriend needs to understand the circumstances (it more for the kids than anything) but then I can also understand the new boyfriend view as well. You treated this mans daughter as if she were your own and you cant just drop out of her life. Perhaps your conversations should only be regarding the child, or you can check in from time to time. Or dump the boyfriend for a more understanding boyfriend who has a child and can understand.
2007-10-05 14:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any problem talking with your ex, but if it really bothers your current bf and would affect your present relationship then it's about time that you have to choose and decide which is more important to you.. I understand the feeling of your current boyfriend, he's just simply jealous and maybe insecure... if you love him and want save your relationship then do what he wants u to do...
2007-10-05 14:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by honey_babes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It's okay. If he's your ex, it just means you're not compatible, but you can still remain friends, because it's better to break up fast if you don't like him, because later it might be too late. Whatever you do DON'T just stop talking to him. He's going to think of you badly. Continue talking and being friends like nothing's happened!
2007-10-05 14:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how much you talk about that person infront of your new bf. if you talk to much about your ex with your bf then he might think you still care about that ex.
2007-10-05 14:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋