I don't know if it's innate or learned, but why are our prides the rock that must not be shaken? Are we so shallow that we must be our own foundation, faultless, and anything that distorts that fallacy must be pushed aside before it can take root?
Let's look at romantic sincerity, for instance. Rationally speaking, rejection does not have to equate a defficiency on your part, but that's how it's perceived, even if we consciously know better than to perceive it as such.
Why the great fear? How do we conquer it? Maybe humble ourselves a little and by doing so, counterintuitively, grow stronger?
2007-10-05 07:42:44 · 9 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe the irrational fear would be because this person has been rejected so many times in the past and is believing it truly is a fault of his/hers.
2007-10-05 07:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by brainer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear of rejection and failure...These two always co-exist in a person's mind. It's all in the mindset and perception of an individual. Some people are just prone and weak in these areas.
To some, its because they've either the lack of confidence or low self-esteem in themselves. But to others, its because they've learnt through unpleasant experience.
"what have I got to loose if would TRY"!
In this world there are basically 3 kinds of people .
1. Pretend & assume nothing happen.
2. Afraid that it will happen.
3. Make things happen.
Remember, "YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINE YOUR ALTITUDE". So choose and evaluate your category.
2007-10-05 08:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think rejection is biological with us, going back to early humans when being accepted by another to procreate was one of the main struggles in life. As I've gotten older I discovered that rejection just happens because everyone has a "favorite" and sometimes it just isn't you, and knowing that I go into meeting someone with an relaxed attitude which girls see as confident and find it attractive. I hope this rambling helps!
2007-10-05 07:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by trusansno 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because rejection is the hardest thing to take.
Obviously you are asking such a question because you have not experienced the pain of rejection.
What's shallow about a little child being rejected by the parents? Or a dog left to it's own devices, rejected because it grew out of it's cute puppy days?
Don't be short sighted (and shallow).
2007-10-05 07:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
fear of rejection......its natural inside us....and it depend on the on ourselves if we do something about it ...or it will do something bout us, don't let your fear ruin your life and a chance for happiness. Rejection will make feel you embarrass, depress, unhappy, insecure if you don't beat it, like treat it as motivation turn the negative to positive not really easy ei but not impossible..familiar w/ these "no pain, no gain" 'never say NÓ" humor yourself, you get embarrass laugh at it, it doesn't happen only to u.
Some people they don't try things anymore for the fear of rejection, little did they know later in life they will always haunted w/ questions 'what if or only if" and sadly you'll never know the answer its a lifetime of regrets.
Being rejected is painful we all human beings knows that but it will certainly fade away over time, as years pass and days went by..When you look back you'll gonna laugh at it and proudly say i did try!
love yourself fellows but don't over do it..sometimes we need to feel the pain, get hurt in order to be happy...
2007-10-05 08:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're saying. As humans we take rejection as something personal when it's really a matter of preference. We prefer to be with person A and not with person B because that's our choice and not necessarily because there's something wrong with person B that's just the person we choose to be with.
2007-10-05 08:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by icu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you. I've never had a fear of rejection. but afterwards it's awkward and a little embarrassing really. that's all.
my only problem is the pain of rejection, living apart from the one you love. but from my part i've done what i wanted and if he doesn't want me, that's another story.
2007-10-05 07:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Miss abbey j, My dear it is because people are human !The only way to conquer it is to become calculating, cold and calous ! Wich is to become like those who have hurt us !
2007-10-05 08:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after reading wat you wrote, i m having the fear of not understandin wat people are tryin to say.
2007-10-05 07:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by protocol96 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋